Anyone's teen DD's (esp. 16 and up) just not interested in dating?

[Anonymous]

Don't get me wrong, part of me is relieved. And she's very focused on her sport and school. But, so far (other than noting guys -usually celebs- she things are attractive) she has shown little interest in dating (despite being pretty, smart, and having some boys show interest in her). She does not put herself out there at all. This is unlike most of her friends who are, quite frankly, very boy crazy and obsessed with dating (themselves and knowing who is dating who). This is not a judgment as I was more in the latter camp as a teen.

I do think girls, especially, put too much emphasis on dating. But, I don't know if I should be worried about the complete lack of emphasis at this point. I have -NOT- said this to her, ftr.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Worried? What is there to worry about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Worried? What is there to worry about?

Does that really matter what my worry is (other than to cast judgment)? That is not the point of the post. But if you must know, worry about emotional development, maturity. Worried if this is "normal", for lack of a better word.

[Anonymous]

I have sons and daughters aged 13 to 18. None of them, or their close friends, are interested in dating.

Neither was I, or my husband, at that age.
I think like attracts like, and our family operates in a bubble with other slow-growing, academic-oriented families.

[Anonymous]

my 14 year old DS is interested in dating. however, he is not allowed till college. we talk about crushes and I'm open to him about it. but he ain't allowed till college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my 14 year old DS is interested in dating. however, he is not allowed till college. we talk about crushes and I'm open to him about it. but he ain't allowed till college.

Wouldn't you rather be around to help him navigate his first relationship? Instead of off at college?

[Anonymous]

My DD isn’t either

[Anonymous]

My 18 yr old DS has never shown an interest in dating. I didn't either at that age. We both went to single sex schools so maybe that's a factor. He will meet plenty of girls in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Worried? What is there to worry about?

Does that really matter what my worry is (other than to cast judgment)? That is not the point of the post. But if you must know, worry about emotional development, maturity. Worried if this is "normal", for lack of a better word.

I mean, yeah, if you’re asking for thoughts, then I think it does matter what specifically you’re worried about. So thank you for clarifying. Personally, I don’t think interest in dating at 16 is much of a measure of emotional maturity. If another 5-10 years go by and she’s still not interested, that might be abnormal. But at this age, I would actually feel that there’s one thing you DON’T have to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Worried? What is there to worry about?

Does that really matter what my worry is (other than to cast judgment)? That is not the point of the post. But if you must know, worry about emotional development, maturity. Worried if this is "normal", for lack of a better word.

Jesus OP. Lighten up. She’s young as hell and most of the guys she’s around are probably tools. Don’t worry, be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my 14 year old DS is interested in dating. however, he is not allowed till college. we talk about crushes and I'm open to him about it. but he ain't allowed till college.

Wouldn't you rather be around to help him navigate his first relationship? Instead of off at college?

Wow. Helicoptering to the extreme. No teenage boy needs his mommy to “navigate” his first relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Worried? What is there to worry about?

Does that really matter what my worry is (other than to cast judgment)? That is not the point of the post. But if you must know, worry about emotional development, maturity. Worried if this is "normal", for lack of a better word.

Jesus OP. Lighten up. She’s young as hell and most of the guys she’s around are probably tools. Don’t worry, be grateful.

This +100. Lots of kids don’t date in high school. Especially these days when dating comes with an expectation of a sexual relationship. She’s better off focusing on sports and academics at 16.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about this.

I'd actually be happy if my DD hadn't suddenly become boy crazy at 15. Opens up a whole 'nother bag of worms and I had always told her she had plenty of time down the road, to focus on school and herself. But OP, she may change on a dime at any moment. Enjoy the peace!

[Anonymous]

There’s a possibility, although maybe a small one, that she is in fact “dating” a little more than nothing and just not telling you about it.

[Anonymous]

Parent of a boy here. DS and his friends are mostly around 16. They seem to be most interested in food, cars, driving, and watching random things online (stupid videos, tik tok, some video games still). You rarely hear girls mentioned. My husband and I don’t understand it.