Why isn’t it socially acceptable to say that you regret having kids?

[Anonymous]

People who express that they regret having kids are demonized.

[Anonymous]

Because it sounds like you wouldn’t care if they died.

[Anonymous]

Because it’s a terrible thing to say. You don’t need to express every thought that enters your head.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but it should be.

I'm childfree and that seems to be demonized too. I love being childfree and have zero regrets.

[Anonymous]

A parent who says that clearly needs mental health intervention - so, given that, others should not demonize them.

But no one should be giving them a platform.

[Anonymous]

Because it's a really nasty thing to say. Basically you're saying you wish someone hadn't been born. Can you imagine how you'd feel if your parent told you this?

[Anonymous]

Hearing that could have devastating, lifelong impacts on the child, who exists through no fault of their own. Hallmarks of adulthood are having a filter, learning to come to terms with choices and circumstances that cannot be changed, and considering the impact of our actions and words on others. Time to grow up, OP.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know exactly but I think the stigma is being reduced. I think there is a whole book with stories or anecdotes from moms who regret having kids.

I’m glad people are actually saying it. Those stories are important to hear for those who are deciding whether or not to have kids.

[Anonymous]

I expect this sentiment to become more common & publicized in the coming years.

[Anonymous]

child abuse concerns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it's a really nasty thing to say. Basically you're saying you wish someone hadn't been born. Can you imagine how you'd feel if your parent told you this?

Well you don’t share this information with your kids. You can tell someone privately or share anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hearing that could have devastating, lifelong impacts on the child, who exists through no fault of their own. Hallmarks of adulthood are having a filter, learning to come to terms with choices and circumstances that cannot be changed, and considering the impact of our actions and words on others. Time to grow up, OP.

+1. Can you imagine being that child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A parent who says that clearly needs mental health intervention - so, given that, others should not demonize them.

But no one should be giving them a platform.

So shut them up is the answer even if that's how they are really feeling? That doesn't sound like a solution either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hearing that could have devastating, lifelong impacts on the child, who exists through no fault of their own. Hallmarks of adulthood are having a filter, learning to come to terms with choices and circumstances that cannot be changed, and considering the impact of our actions and words on others. Time to grow up, OP.

+1. Can you imagine being that child?

I’m assuming OP isn’t asking why it’s not acceptable for a parent to tell their own child they regret having kids.

[Anonymous]

I think the best place to work this out is in therapy. Also, you may regret it, but you still have a job to do raising children. It's not in their best interests for you to be announcing all over the place that you wished you'd never had them at all.

Trust me, they'll figure it out on their own.