Kid separated from classmates at school
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Anonymous
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My son has been too social in class and has been disruptive to other students. He never does anything physical; it’s more an issue of not listening to the teacher and not following directions the first time given.
His teacher has notified us a few times about him needing constant reminders and redirection. She says he’s a bright kid who is trending above benchmark but he’s just way too talkative. Recently, our son told us that he is now sitting next to his teacher and is no longer sitting with his classmates. The teacher told us he is listening better now that he is sitting next to her. But, our son is feeling bad about himself and we are afraid that his self esteem will suffer if he continues to be separated from his classmates for the rest of the school year. Should I just let this go or try to advocate for him being seated back with his classmates in the new year? |
Anonymous
| Your child is disrupting other kids and impeding their ability to learn. You need to work with your kid and consider an evaluation. |
Anonymous
| How old? |
Anonymous
He’s 6 |
Anonymous
| You can’t just demand a change without doing something to address the issue. |
Anonymous
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She found a solution that works for her and the other students.
You can propose that he returns back to the gold, but you also need to identify a solution that works with him in regular seating. Does he understand why he has been separated? Does he recognize that it is his behavior that landed him there? Do you understand that it is not just about him but also about his classmates’ experience? Is saying that he is “too social” accurate or whitewashing? |
Anonymous
| He’s disrupting the learning of other children and that’s not fair to them. |
Anonymous
fold, not gold |
Anonymous
| You need to have him evaluated, OP. It’s better to catch the issue early and find a solution than to waste valuable school years where he is not able to focus and learn as he should. And it isn’t fair to allow him to continue as he is, not understanding why he is being singled out, when there may be a solution and professional advice and services that can make his school experience smoother. |
Anonymous
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Your concern is that he feels bad, not that he was disruptive to the point that the teacher had to take such measures? Well no wonder he thinks he can do what he wants!
He SHOULD feel bad, OP. You need to reinforce what the teacher says, and tell him he's not going anywhere near his friends until he learns to shut up. And if you think he may have hyperactive ADHD, get him evaluated. |
Anonymous
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No, I would not let it lie. You should be addressing this with his teacher as part of a team. She sees him in class and you see him at home. You each can help the other help him. The goal is to re-integrate him into regular classroom experience. He is only 6 so he has lots of room and time to grow. See what you, his teacher and the school counselor can come up with to help him before you seek an outside eval. Meanwhile, research what sort of eval he may need and who is available to provide it so you can pull that trigger if/when you need to.
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Anonymous
| That was me as an unmedicated ADHD kid. It is the teacher’s job to ensure a functional learning environment for the entire class. It is your job to help him reframe the arrangement into a positive and mitigate the harm to his self esteem. You can’t expect the teacher to sacrifice other children’s learning for him. That’s not fair or reasonable to anyone. |
Anonymous
| Get him an IEP. Once he has one he can't be separate. |
Anonymous
That's the whole point of FAPE. He just needs the diagnosis. |
Anonymous
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You should support the teacher and explain to your child that the teacher is HELPING him to concentrate and HELPING the rest of the class to stay focused.
Do not excuse your child’s behavior and behaviors have consequences. |