Sleeping in on family vacation: what is reasonable?

[Anonymous]

8:30am is actually early for me on vacation..

[Anonymous]

I cannot even imagine eating breakfast on vacation before 9 am. What kind of vacation is that?!

[Anonymous]

You sound like a PIA, OP. Just chill and enjoy the trip--stop giving sh*t about things that don't matter.

[Anonymous]

OP, the one thing I hope you learned from this is never to post anything on DCUM again. The responses, par for the course for the total jackas-ses around here, are unnecessarily mean spirited and disparaging. Some of you people are just awful.

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Anonymous wrote:I predict they may not take you up on your future offers, op.

Of course they will. People like this love freebie vacations, and see absolutely nothing wrong with accepting them and then doing exactly what they want to do.

Why shouldn’t they do what they want to do ON VACATION?

Oh, it’s a gift so it should only please the giver? Does your husband only buy you things HE likes for YOUR birthday?

People like you are why I have never accepted money or vacation offers from my ILs. I learned from my sister and her wife (who got married two years before we did) that gifts come with strings attached in that family, and DH and I wanted to part of it.

If that was the deal, then OP could have/ would have sent them on vacation by themselves, as a family of four. The point of this trip was to spend time with extended family (OP and husband). Of course there are strings attached if you accept a trip under those circumstances.

You sound like quite the peach yourself if you don't know that.

Look in the mirror, hunny. -np

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Anonymous wrote:OP, the one thing I hope you learned from this is never to post anything on DCUM again. The responses, par for the course for the total jackas-ses around here, are unnecessarily mean spirited and disparaging. Some of you people are just awful.

OP sounds like a nightmare MIL that blames everything on her DIL when things don’t go exactly OP’s way. She deserves all the feedback she’s getting on this one.

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My MIL is like this. I deliberately slow-play things by at least 10 minutes just to irk her. If her son wanted to meet her expectations, he could move things along, but he doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

This is why we don’t vacation with our parents. It’s not relaxing doing things their way.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL is like this. I deliberately slow-play things by at least 10 minutes just to irk her. If her son wanted to meet her expectations, he could move things along, but he doesn’t.

So you’re immature and passive aggressive. Got it

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Anonymous wrote:You can't control other people. Bend a little.

Get uo and have breakfast when you want.

Agree to meet up in the early afternoon for a mutually agreeable activity. Stop blaming your DIL! Why does your son escape your ire?

So many good points. OP is very hung up on the idea that she paid. One of those people who controls others via money. No thanks.

+1. So *kind* to give this *gift* and demand every moment of their time be filled as you prescribe. What a *vacation* for them. So relaxing. Do you not remember what it's like to have young children, OP? It's exhausting. You should be happy they can sleep in a little and roll a little slow in the mornings. I'll bet that your DIL recommended this place because you asked and/or you were too lazy to do the damn research yourself. She tried to make a suggestion that would fit your standards and you are hell bent on blaming her for the family schedule which is your son's fault. Good god. Writing this down for notes for my future self.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL is like this. I deliberately slow-play things by at least 10 minutes just to irk her. If her son wanted to meet her expectations, he could move things along, but he doesn’t.

So you’re immature and passive aggressive. Got it

Sure am! She plays stupid games, and I supply the stupid prizes.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot even imagine eating breakfast on vacation before 9 am. What kind of vacation is that?!

If you're need to sleep why wouldn't you just take time off to sleep at home? Why would you pay money to go somewhere new and different just to stay in bed half the day?

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot even imagine eating breakfast on vacation before 9 am. What kind of vacation is that?!

If you're need to sleep why wouldn't you just take time off to sleep at home? Why would you pay money to go somewhere new and different just to stay in bed half the day?

Because I can laze in bed 12 hours and see somewhere new 12 hours. Dream vacay.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL is like this. I deliberately slow-play things by at least 10 minutes just to irk her. If her son wanted to meet her expectations, he could move things along, but he doesn’t.

So you’re immature and passive aggressive. Got it

Sure am! She plays stupid games, and I supply the stupid prizes.

I'm with you PP. Needling my crazy MIL is one of my favorite hobbies.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot even imagine eating breakfast on vacation before 9 am. What kind of vacation is that?!

If you're need to sleep why wouldn't you just take time off to sleep at home? Why would you pay money to go somewhere new and different just to stay in bed half the day?

Well-rested, you get up and eat and do whatever. You explore and discover and follow your interests and what the day brings.

Like you sweating about SCHEDULES and forced-marching everyone through the day, barking at them to hurry up through meals is enjoyable.