DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In fairness to the dog, you need to rehome her ASAP while she’s still young and can find a new family.

I agree 100% but my DH refuses! But he hinted if she continues to have these bouts of explosive diarrhea he will rethink it. But like I said I know it’s the anxiety she gets when crated. Especially because when we got her my DH was very inconsistent with her crating and refused to crate her during the day therefore her crate became a negative thing for her.

I would take the dog to the shelter and tell DH it’s you or the dog. He sounds like he’s too lazy to put up much of a fight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In fairness to the dog, you need to rehome her ASAP while she’s still young and can find a new family.

I agree 100% but my DH refuses! But he hinted if she continues to have these bouts of explosive diarrhea he will rethink it. But like I said I know it’s the anxiety she gets when crated. Especially because when we got her my DH was very inconsistent with her crating and refused to crate her during the day therefore her crate became a negative thing for her.

I would take the dog to the shelter and tell DH it’s you or the dog. He sounds like he’s too lazy to put up much of a fight.

A shelter!? Are you crazy? She might not be perfect with her separation anxiety issues but certainly doesn’t belong in a shelter with a bunch of mongrels!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In fairness to the dog, you need to rehome her ASAP while she’s still young and can find a new family.

I agree 100% but my DH refuses! But he hinted if she continues to have these bouts of explosive diarrhea he will rethink it. But like I said I know it’s the anxiety she gets when crated. Especially because when we got her my DH was very inconsistent with her crating and refused to crate her during the day therefore her crate became a negative thing for her.

I would take the dog to the shelter and tell DH it’s you or the dog. He sounds like he’s too lazy to put up much of a fight.

A shelter!? Are you crazy? She might not be perfect with her separation anxiety issues but certainly doesn’t belong in a shelter with a bunch of mongrels!!!

You are a piece of work. My darling departed dog was a "mongrel" and he was literally the best dog in the world. And he didn't have any of the medical or emotional problems your precious purebred does. He lived to be 16.

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Update! So the princess can only sleep next to my DH on her bed because of her anxiety aka spoiled and GI issues that are uncontrollable and intolerable for me. I now sleep in the guest room because any tiny noise wakes me up not to mention the idea of this huge dog sleeping in our bedroom literally stinking it up is disgusting to me. Trainer said my DH needs to sleep in the room where she is crated until she gets use to it. I think at this point it will be nearly impossible to get this dog use to anything she’s so hardheaded. This morning I said, so I guess we’ll just be roommates. He said, why can’t you just get use to sleeping in our room with her? This is the same man who for years knows what an EXTREMELY light sleeper I am and have never let any animals(cats, dogs) in the bedroom to sleep. But now I should get use to it!?!? I can’t believe he is choosing a dog over our marriage. Unreal.

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OP here on update.
This dog is now about 85lbs and still growing! She is literally the worse dog I’ve ever owned. My DH has let it slip out that she is incorrigible and the most ill mannered dog he’s ever owned. Trying to train her has been exhausting to say the least. You can’t take your eyes off of her for one second or she will pee on a rug or jump up on counters to steal food. She goes out probably 10 times a day so the peeing is just her lack of discipline. She goes to daycare 6 full days a week because my DH can’t deal with her. He wanted a companion to take to his office but the few times he’s taken her she’s been so destructive and also pees. He keeps saying she’s a puppy but I really don’t see her changing. She has actually gotten worse with age. She’s in a constant drive for food and attention! I’ve never seen anything like it.

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OP, thanks for the update, but this is just a completely insane situation. It's been four months and the dog is only getting worse? What is the dog now -- like 8 months old? It is going into puberty and if it isn't trained now, it's going to be such a disaster. If you had rehomed the dog as a puppy, it would have been so much easier for someone to try to train it. It's only going to get worse and worse as time goes on.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. Your husband is pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, thanks for the update, but this is just a completely insane situation. It's been four months and the dog is only getting worse? What is the dog now -- like 8 months old? It is going into puberty and if it isn't trained now, it's going to be such a disaster. If you had rehomed the dog as a puppy, it would have been so much easier for someone to try to train it. It's only going to get worse and worse as time goes on.

I agree and frankly, they both dropped the ball. 8 month old large breed is peeing constantly? WTF? My 4 month old medium to large breed hasn't had an accident in weeks. Dog should have been surrendered as a puppy or, ideally, never brought home in the first place. This is insanity. Someone needs to commit to this dog. That can be OP and DH or another family, but no one is doing right by this animal. I am not someone who says, "surrender the dog" very often, if ever, but this animal is not getting what it needs to thrive. Puppy daycare doesn't count, it needed (and still desperately needs) training. A board and train might be an idea, but you have to be prepared to be trained yourself and constantly reinforce those concepts, knowing you're behind the ball on all of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, thanks for the update, but this is just a completely insane situation. It's been four months and the dog is only getting worse? What is the dog now -- like 8 months old? It is going into puberty and if it isn't trained now, it's going to be such a disaster. If you had rehomed the dog as a puppy, it would have been so much easier for someone to try to train it. It's only going to get worse and worse as time goes on.

I agree and frankly, they both dropped the ball. 8 month old large breed is peeing constantly? WTF? My 4 month old medium to large breed hasn't had an accident in weeks. Dog should have been surrendered as a puppy or, ideally, never brought home in the first place. This is insanity. Someone needs to commit to this dog. That can be OP and DH or another family, but no one is doing right by this animal. I am not someone who says, "surrender the dog" very often, if ever, but this animal is not getting what it needs to thrive. Puppy daycare doesn't count, it needed (and still desperately needs) training. A board and train might be an idea, but you have to be prepared to be trained yourself and constantly reinforce those concepts, knowing you're behind the ball on all of this.

I’ve worked with a professional trainer with her as well as trying to reinforce the training on a daily basis! When I have friends come over I strictly forbid them to give her any attention until the dog is in a submissive all paws down position. God forbid can’t have her jumping on people. I’ve owned German shepherds my whole life and they trained so easily. She is strictly forbidden to approach the dinner table but it’s a constant battle. I’m sorry but this dog is a lot more hyper and hardheaded than any other dog I’ve had. Just like people, they do have different personalities and she is a terrible. She doesn’t pee constantly but she peed on one rug and she has gone back to the same spot again even tho I used odor killer. Her food drive is insane and like I said you can’t leave your plate if she’s within 15 feet pretending she’s sleeping she will literally jump up and run and grab what’s on your plate in lightning speed!
My DH has had it with her but he wld rather shoot himself in the kneecap than admit he was wrong plus the fact he chose a dog that’s such a handful. So I’m stuck in this and I’m trying my best but it is a disruption & aggravation in our life now. I want to have dinner parties but it’s an impossibility with such an animal. She is literally worse when we have guests over because I think she’s thinking, I can do whatever I want now cause my parents won’t punish me.
FYI the daycare has even mentioned how food aggressive she is! So coming from people who deal with hundreds of dogs says a lot! Her weight is perfect and my DH gives her more food than recommended. I would love for her to stay with the pp for one week! Haha

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I'm sorry - an 85 pound dog jumps on counters to grab food?

[Anonymous]

You’ve got to train her or rehome her. It isn’t fair to you or her or anyone else otherwise. She cannot train herself. She needs consistent training. And love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here on update.
This dog is now about 85lbs and still growing! She is literally the worse dog I’ve ever owned. My DH has let it slip out that she is incorrigible and the most ill mannered dog he’s ever owned. Trying to train her has been exhausting to say the least. You can’t take your eyes off of her for one second or she will pee on a rug or jump up on counters to steal food. She goes out probably 10 times a day so the peeing is just her lack of discipline. She goes to daycare 6 full days a week because my DH can’t deal with her. He wanted a companion to take to his office but the few times he’s taken her she’s been so destructive and also pees. He keeps saying she’s a puppy but I really don’t see her changing. She has actually gotten worse with age. She’s in a constant drive for food and attention! I’ve never seen anything like it.

Dog should not be allowed free range. Learn to crate her and stick to a schedule. Tell your dh to take her to puppy kindergarten. You need to train yourself so you know how to train the dog.

[Anonymous]

Dogs that bark and cause a commotion feel out of control. Dogs don’t want to feel that way. It’s cruel to leave this dog in charge of your home. Find a 2 week board and Twain that at least gets the dog crate trained then find a training program and stick with it. Consistency is what dogs crave. And yelling never works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dogs that bark and cause a commotion feel out of control. Dogs don’t want to feel that way. It’s cruel to leave this dog in charge of your home. Find a 2 week board and Twain that at least gets the dog crate trained then find a training program and stick with it. Consistency is what dogs crave. And yelling never works.

This. Start there with a 2 week board and train. Work with that trainer one on one and do group classes. And whatever OP thinks they are doing in terms of constant training and reinforcement, it can't be that much or done that well if the dog is spending 8 hours a day, 6 days a week in puppy daycare. They don't train them there, it's for when you need a break and/or for basic socialization. This dog is how old now?

[Anonymous]

^^^. Agree with the board and train suggestion. In a couple of weeks your dog will be trained and then you can have a wonderful companion in your home. The way it is now, no one is happy, not even your dog. Puppy daycare is just that, daycare. You need somebody to actually train your dog.