DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .

People have told you what to do and you’ve dismissed it. So sounds like you want to live with it.

[Anonymous]

This shouldn’t be in the pets section. You have a DH problem. A big one.

Your DH wants you to do all the work so he can get followers on Instagram. That’s crazy.

I would seriously consider divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .

People have told you what to do and you’ve dismissed it. So sounds like you want to live with it.

I think it’s a troll post. Nobody would put up with that.

[Anonymous]

It’s a puppy. Even a well trained puppy needs lots of attention and exercise. This puppy needs another home with a family that actually wants to love and care for a dog.

Your dh made a mistake and he needs to suck it up and do right by this puppy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will he rehome the puppy if it’s you or the dog? I second Homeward Trails. Call them ASAP.

I’ve literally considered giving him an ultimatum. I have also suggested therapy for us as well! Hoping that a reasonable therapist would convince him that what he did was disrespectful and inconsiderate to me and our marriage. His family and friends are on his side saying things like, she’s just a puppy for god sake give it time. They all think I’m an impatient witch because I don’t love her and all the demands that come with such a large puppy. I suggest that they take her home for the weekend so they can see exactly what I’m going thru! Of course they come up with excuses on why they can’t .

[Anonymous]

BOARD HER AT A TRAINING PLACE. It's the only way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Will he rehome the puppy if it’s you or the dog? I second Homeward Trails. Call them ASAP.

I’ve literally considered giving him an ultimatum. I have also suggested therapy for us as well! Hoping that a reasonable therapist would convince him that what he did was disrespectful and inconsiderate to me and our marriage. His family and friends are on his side saying things like, she’s just a puppy for god sake give it time. They all think I’m an impatient witch because I don’t love her and all the demands that come with such a large puppy. I suggest that they take her home for the weekend so they can see exactly what I’m going thru! Of course they come up with excuses on why they can’t .

Look, you've gotten sound advice.

Now your choice is to either give the ultimatum and live with the decision of it or end up with an uncontrollable, untrained 100lb animal running your life from here on out.

You clearly are refusing to like the dog or train the dog, even though it wasn't your decision to get him, he's there and needs to be loved and trained. Your family is right, he is just a puppy and he will continue to act out until he trusts you enough to learn the rules and follow them.

He might end up being an amazing dog, but I can guarantee you that won't happen in your home under the care of you and your husband unless there is a massive change. So give the ultimatum and move on from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Will he rehome the puppy if it’s you or the dog? I second Homeward Trails. Call them ASAP.

I’ve literally considered giving him an ultimatum. I have also suggested therapy for us as well! Hoping that a reasonable therapist would convince him that what he did was disrespectful and inconsiderate to me and our marriage. His family and friends are on his side saying things like, she’s just a puppy for god sake give it time. They all think I’m an impatient witch because I don’t love her and all the demands that come with such a large puppy. I suggest that they take her home for the weekend so they can see exactly what I’m going thru! Of course they come up with excuses on why they can’t .

Until you decide to present him with the choice of rehoming or getting a trainer & daycare, you forfeit the right to complain here. No one wants to hear what you’ve “literally considered” or your fantasy games with the in-laws.

Be an adult and resolve this with an adult conversation with your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH will NEVER rehome her! He flat out refuses. Meanwhile I’m spending more and more time away from the two of them so that I can have some peace in my life. I’m a gourmet cook and now I’m constantly screaming at a animal that can literally easily jump up on kitchen counter and steal food she’s so big! I literally dread when he gets home from work now. I use to get excited but now it just means all hell is gonna break lose in the house. Also she’s been barking in her crate at 3am now so I’m not getting my much needed sleep. The solution for that is for me to sleep in guest room and she can sleep next to him on her dog bed. I’m wondering how long my DH will be ok with the new dynamics in our marriage?? Less and less time together and sleeping in separate bedrooms . Of course this is until she “calms down”. Hahaha .

People have told you what to do and you’ve dismissed it. So sounds like you want to live with it.

I think it’s a troll post. Nobody would put up with that.

+1

Even if the OP is genuine, this is not a pet problem.

[Anonymous]

If he won't let you rehome it, then training, training, training. I used Blue Ridge Canine.

[Anonymous]

I have a 90 pound big fluffy dog that became so lazy at 2 years. He’s an absolute cuddly joy
He was craziest at 4months-8 months, then each passing month he grew calmer. 2.5 years he only has a burst of energy here or there, walks I have to steer him away from benches because he prefers to climb up and people watch and lure people over to let him.

It’s really breed dependent. I have f try sends that have big dogs the same age that are still crazy. Some of those breeds don’t begin to calm until 4 years.

[Anonymous]

Pls pls pls don't have children with this man. And send the dog to board at a training facility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pls pls pls don't have children with this man. And send the dog to board at a training facility.

There's 2 sides to every story. Don't judge him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pls pls pls don't have children with this man. And send the dog to board at a training facility.

There's 2 sides to every story. Don't judge him.

What information would redeem a person who gets a pet without the consent of the other spouse then doesn’t exercise or train that pet or even send it to doggie daycare? What could suggest that he would be an involved parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pls pls pls don't have children with this man. And send the dog to board at a training facility.

There's 2 sides to every story. Don't judge him.

Please post his side.