DH brought home a 4 month old puppy from hell!

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Anonymous wrote:You need to train the dog!!!

The dog isn’t OP’s responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:Will he rehome the puppy if it’s you or the dog? I second Homeward Trails. Call them ASAP.

I’ve literally considered giving him an ultimatum. I have also suggested therapy for us as well! Hoping that a reasonable therapist would convince him that what he did was disrespectful and inconsiderate to me and our marriage. His family and friends are on his side saying things like, she’s just a puppy for god sake give it time. They all think I’m an impatient witch because I don’t love her and all the demands that come with such a large puppy. I suggest that they take her home for the weekend so they can see exactly what I’m going thru! Of course they come up with excuses on why they can’t .

Look, you've gotten sound advice.

Now your choice is to either give the ultimatum and live with the decision of it or end up with an uncontrollable, untrained 100lb animal running your life from here on out.

You clearly are refusing to like the dog or train the dog, even though it wasn't your decision to get him, he's there and needs to be loved and trained. Your family is right, he is just a puppy and he will continue to act out until he trusts you enough to learn the rules and follow them.

He might end up being an amazing dog, but I can guarantee you that won't happen in your home under the care of you and your husband unless there is a massive change. So give the ultimatum and move on from there.

Some people don’t like dogs and that’s their right. You can’t force yourself to feel something you don’t. OP is under no obligation to train it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yay finally convinced my DH to let me enroll her in doggie daycare! He said, “well I’m not gonna take her”! I said no problem I will handle it kemosabe! I’m so excited to see how she is after she’s had the energy release playing with other dogs. Because she is just so full of energy and out of control with us two old farts it’s exhausting.

Wow, your husband is a lazy POS. How do you stay married to such garbage?

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Anonymous wrote:You seem really harsh... it’s a puppy(you know baby dog) not a demon living in your home. I can tell from your post you don’t have much patience left so you need to outsource care and training to maintain sanity and minimize resentment.

OP has every right to her feelings. Just because you think dogs are everything, doesn’t mean she has to.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, but I’d just rehome the dog. Your husband doesn’t respect you. You both sound like old people, stubborn, liking to complain but not doing anything about it.

I’m doing something about it! From hiring a dog trainer who comes weekly and now doggie day care. My DH wasn’t thinking when he decided to do this and I know 100% he regrets it and has apologized to me. Undisciplined dogs are my nemesis and I know she’s a puppy but like I’ve mentioned I have zero patience at this age. Hopefully like one PP said maybe I will eventually grow to love her. But that will only happen when she becomes a disciplined well mannered animal like the dogs Ive raised in my past. Even dogs Ive lived with with ex’s were extremely disciplined! Rottweiler & pit bull. But these men had what it took to raise obedient dogs, my DH doesn’t. He has zero discipline skills and treats his animals better than people. If he had it his way she would be sleeping in our bed, laying on the furniture, drooling on the dinner table while he feeds her from his plate etc... She would be the pack leader with no boundaries. I know this because this is how he has lived with ALL his dogs. At one point 3 slept in his bed and I’m not talking teacup chihuahuas but 70lb breeds. My DH knows I won’t live that way with any animal! I’m sure he wishes I was that type of woman. We do have plenty of friends who live like this with their animals and I think it’s absurd and gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, but I’d just rehome the dog. Your husband doesn’t respect you. You both sound like old people, stubborn, liking to complain but not doing anything about it.

I’m doing something about it! From hiring a dog trainer who comes weekly and now doggie day care. My DH wasn’t thinking when he decided to do this and I know 100% he regrets it and has apologized to me. Undisciplined dogs are my nemesis and I know she’s a puppy but like I’ve mentioned I have zero patience at this age. Hopefully like one PP said maybe I will eventually grow to love her. But that will only happen when she becomes a disciplined well mannered animal like the dogs Ive raised in my past. Even dogs Ive lived with with ex’s were extremely disciplined! Rottweiler & pit bull. But these men had what it took to raise obedient dogs, my DH doesn’t. He has zero discipline skills and treats his animals better than people. If he had it his way she would be sleeping in our bed, laying on the furniture, drooling on the dinner table while he feeds her from his plate etc... She would be the pack leader with no boundaries. I know this because this is how he has lived with ALL his dogs. At one point 3 slept in his bed and I’m not talking teacup chihuahuas but 70lb breeds. My DH knows I won’t live that way with any animal! I’m sure he wishes I was that type of woman. We do have plenty of friends who live like this with their animals and I think it’s absurd and gross.

Hiring a dog trainer is a good first step, but they show YOU how to train and give you homework. You have to keep up with it each week. An hour once a week with a trainer will not train your dog.

Hopefully your Dh will step up and do most of it but if you don’t do it too, the dog will learn not to listen to you.

You say you’ve raised dogs in the past. It does not seem true. You have been around well trained dogs in the past and expect it. You have not done the work that requires it. You say you might grow to love it once it’s well behaved and disciplined, again, if you didn’t put in the work it will not love you back or even respect you.

It does not seem like you trust your husband enough to do the work either. So between the two of you, this dog does not have a bright future in your home.
Please try to convince your husband to rehome.

Quite frankly, I’m curious how he even got the puppy? Most rescues and reputable breeders will want to know if every family member is on board. I have a rescue for who I had to do 2 interviews and a home check with each family member present. I have another dog from a breeder and it is stated clearly in the contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a DH problem, not a puppy problem!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, but I’d just rehome the dog. Your husband doesn’t respect you. You both sound like old people, stubborn, liking to complain but not doing anything about it.

I’m doing something about it! From hiring a dog trainer who comes weekly and now doggie day care. My DH wasn’t thinking when he decided to do this and I know 100% he regrets it and has apologized to me. Undisciplined dogs are my nemesis and I know she’s a puppy but like I’ve mentioned I have zero patience at this age. Hopefully like one PP said maybe I will eventually grow to love her. But that will only happen when she becomes a disciplined well mannered animal like the dogs Ive raised in my past. Even dogs Ive lived with with ex’s were extremely disciplined! Rottweiler & pit bull. But these men had what it took to raise obedient dogs, my DH doesn’t. He has zero discipline skills and treats his animals better than people. If he had it his way she would be sleeping in our bed, laying on the furniture, drooling on the dinner table while he feeds her from his plate etc... She would be the pack leader with no boundaries. I know this because this is how he has lived with ALL his dogs. At one point 3 slept in his bed and I’m not talking teacup chihuahuas but 70lb breeds. My DH knows I won’t live that way with any animal! I’m sure he wishes I was that type of woman. We do have plenty of friends who live like this with their animals and I think it’s absurd and gross.

Just FYI, doggy daycare was a nightmare for my dog. He learned a lot of really nasty habits and became pretty aggressive. It was awful and took a lot of patience and training to recover from. Obviously it doesn’t happen to every dog (and maybe daycare was just part of it), but be on the lookout for signs that he’s having negative interactions. It all started when mine came home with a pretty nasty gash on his leg that the daycare totally downplayed and then some weird leash aggression started out of nowhere.

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OP, I'm 99% positive this is you based on the age of the dog, the older no energy husband, your annoyance and your writing styles are IDENTICAL.

Once again, you're trying to illicit sympathy from us, but before you give this OP another ounce of your sympathy, please read this post that she wrote in Relationship Discussion about how she keeps the dog in a crate for 14 hours a night with ZERO access to water or food.

Then let me know how much sympathy you have for her... poor puppy.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/929387.page

I think OP is a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP, I'm 99% positive this is you based on the age of the dog, the older no energy husband, your annoyance and your writing styles are IDENTICAL.

Once again, you're trying to illicit sympathy from us, but before you give this OP another ounce of your sympathy, please read this post that she wrote in Relationship Discussion about how she keeps the dog in a crate for 14 hours a night with ZERO access to water or food.

Then let me know how much sympathy you have for her... poor puppy.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/929387.page

I think OP is a troll.

+2

[Anonymous]

Your DH is on social media?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, but I’d just rehome the dog. Your husband doesn’t respect you. You both sound like old people, stubborn, liking to complain but not doing anything about it.

I’m doing something about it! From hiring a dog trainer who comes weekly and now doggie day care. My DH wasn’t thinking when he decided to do this and I know 100% he regrets it and has apologized to me. Undisciplined dogs are my nemesis and I know she’s a puppy but like I’ve mentioned I have zero patience at this age. Hopefully like one PP said maybe I will eventually grow to love her. But that will only happen when she becomes a disciplined well mannered animal like the dogs Ive raised in my past. Even dogs Ive lived with with ex’s were extremely disciplined! Rottweiler & pit bull. But these men had what it took to raise obedient dogs, my DH doesn’t. He has zero discipline skills and treats his animals better than people. If he had it his way she would be sleeping in our bed, laying on the furniture, drooling on the dinner table while he feeds her from his plate etc... She would be the pack leader with no boundaries. I know this because this is how he has lived with ALL his dogs. At one point 3 slept in his bed and I’m not talking teacup chihuahuas but 70lb breeds. My DH knows I won’t live that way with any animal! I’m sure he wishes I was that type of woman. We do have plenty of friends who live like this with their animals and I think it’s absurd and gross.

Hiring a dog trainer is a good first step, but they show YOU how to train and give you homework. You have to keep up with it each week. An hour once a week with a trainer will not train your dog.

Hopefully your Dh will step up and do most of it but if you don’t do it too, the dog will learn not to listen to you.

You say you’ve raised dogs in the past. It does not seem true. You have been around well trained dogs in the past and expect it. You have not done the work that requires it. You say you might grow to love it once it’s well behaved and disciplined, again, if you didn’t put in the work it will not love you back or even respect you.

It does not seem like you trust your husband enough to do the work either. So between the two of you, this dog does not have a bright future in your home.
Please try to convince your husband to rehome.

Quite frankly, I’m curious how he even got the puppy? Most rescues and reputable breeders will want to know if every family member is on board. I have a rescue for who I had to do 2 interviews and a home check with each family member present. I have another dog from a breeder and it is stated clearly in the contract.

Give me a break! I’ve raised the most obedient dogs ever. Because I don’t put up with any bs and they know who the pack leader is. My DH is clueless when it comes to animals. For some reason dogs ignore him and do wtf they want.
It’s very easy to purchase an animal from a breeder!!! All they care about is the green. Now the humane society is a different story. They’d rather euthanize an animal then let someone adopt it that didn’t pass their ridiculous questionnaire. I’ve purchased numerous pure breed cats and dogs from breeders and none cared about anything except the cash. Never once has a breeder asked about my living arrangements etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, but I’d just rehome the dog. Your husband doesn’t respect you. You both sound like old people, stubborn, liking to complain but not doing anything about it.

I’m doing something about it! From hiring a dog trainer who comes weekly and now doggie day care. My DH wasn’t thinking when he decided to do this and I know 100% he regrets it and has apologized to me. Undisciplined dogs are my nemesis and I know she’s a puppy but like I’ve mentioned I have zero patience at this age. Hopefully like one PP said maybe I will eventually grow to love her. But that will only happen when she becomes a disciplined well mannered animal like the dogs Ive raised in my past. Even dogs Ive lived with with ex’s were extremely disciplined! Rottweiler & pit bull. But these men had what it took to raise obedient dogs, my DH doesn’t. He has zero discipline skills and treats his animals better than people. If he had it his way she would be sleeping in our bed, laying on the furniture, drooling on the dinner table while he feeds her from his plate etc... She would be the pack leader with no boundaries. I know this because this is how he has lived with ALL his dogs. At one point 3 slept in his bed and I’m not talking teacup chihuahuas but 70lb breeds. My DH knows I won’t live that way with any animal! I’m sure he wishes I was that type of woman. We do have plenty of friends who live like this with their animals and I think it’s absurd and gross.

Just FYI, doggy daycare was a nightmare for my dog. He learned a lot of really nasty habits and became pretty aggressive. It was awful and took a lot of patience and training to recover from. Obviously it doesn’t happen to every dog (and maybe daycare was just part of it), but be on the lookout for signs that he’s having negative interactions. It all started when mine came home with a pretty nasty gash on his leg that the daycare totally downplayed and then some weird leash aggression started out of nowhere.

Don’t worry your pretty little head. This doggie day care has stellar ratings! Yours must’ve been run from some random trailer park in West Virginia.

[Anonymous]

Update! Dropped off DD(devil dog) to the doggie daycare today! Omg that place was packed with beautiful dogs. From huge shepherds to Great Danes to pit bulls! They put my puppy right in her place when she tried jumping on them. Haha. Actually I had to leave because I was too nervous watching all these dogs playing with her. Im so excited to see how she acts tonight after finally being able to release all her crazy energy. DH literally doesn’t give her any exercise, walks, parks etc.. A turtle wouldve been the perfect pet for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update! Dropped off DD(devil dog) to the doggie daycare today! Omg that place was packed with beautiful dogs. From huge shepherds to Great Danes to pit bulls! They put my puppy right in her place when she tried jumping on them. Haha. Actually I had to leave because I was too nervous watching all these dogs playing with her. Im so excited to see how she acts tonight after finally being able to release all her crazy energy. DH literally doesn’t give her any exercise, walks, parks etc.. A turtle wouldve been the perfect pet for him.

I hate to ask, but what type of doggy daycare would mix grown dogs and puppies?