Older guy reentering the dating pool...
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Anonymous
| I’m a divorced mother of three and I’m not interested in a LTR. But I really enjoy spending time with guys who are conversationally stimulating about a wide range of subjects and can interject a lot of humor at various points. It is fantastic to spend a few hours completely disconnected from my day to day work Life and single mom routine. Add in physical attraction and after a couple of dates sex is definitely on my mind. |
Anonymous
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I am mid-50s, divorced for about 5 years. Tall, professional, intellectual, thin. My inbox is full of likes from women, but 95 percent of them aren't worth the trouble--old (or too young), fat, losers, etc. Still, some in the remaining 5 percent can be decent, if they are sane (a few are).
Even with covid I've had sex with a couple of women this year (and made out with a couple more), and had more sex since January 1 than I did the last few years of the marriage. Women seem to run out of options at about age 45. |
Anonymous
| ^^^Oh, go back to your cave, troll, and take your misogynistic b.s. with you. |
Anonymous
DP. Do you have anything more than "go back to your cave"? I believe a woman's dating options post-45 are more limited than a man's the same age. From the Atlantic: A 2017 study led by Michael Rosenfeld, a social demographer at Stanford University, found that the percentage of single, straight women who met at least one new person for dating or sex in the previous 12 months was about 50 percent for women at age 20, 20 percent at age 40, and only 5 percent at age 65. (The date-finding rates were more consistent over time for the men surveyed.) https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/01/dating-after-middle-age-older/604588/ |
Anonymous
It depends on the woman. I'm 52 and I've asked a bunch of guys out so if you always wait to be asked out you could lose out. |
Anonymous
Sounds like women over 50 can expect to get laid about once a decade. I hope this is a lesson to all those 50ish women who think the solution to all of their problems is to dump their perfectly-good husband. |
Anonymous
Look, I am sure Demi Moore (who is divorced and my age) has a very full dance card. I am also sure that many post-45 year old DCUM women will write in letting us know that they have a huge number of wanting to date them. The research (found in the article) was based on how that study was conducted and does not apply to everyone (including you, the saucy minx asking men out). However, the fact that there are fewer single men at every age after 45 remains and this fact impacts dating for these age group. |
Anonymous
| Just be yourself. Simple... |
Anonymous
Kate Beckinsale is another... |
Anonymous
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Paula
Lisa Jenna Jennifer Heidi Laura Hilda Sue Anne Peggy Another Jennifer Another Heidi Tracy Pauline These are just some of the names off the top of my head of women I know who met their husbands or life partners after age 45. Clearly the MRAs have found this thread. Hope you all rot in hell for being such evil misogynists. |
Anonymous
Just stop with the movie star examples. This is like saying “any older man can date models, just look at Rod Stewart”. |
Anonymous
Agree! My Dad was very nervous about dating again in his late 50’s and I just told him to be himself. He’s smart, fun, a good listener and a real gentleman. After his first couple of dates he said it was really easy and it didn’t take long for him to find a great companion. |
Anonymous
I'm not seeing any women of color, or ethnic minorities in your list. |
Anonymous
Noted. The fact that Halle Berry (who is 53) could get a date anywhere, anytime she wanted does not change the fact that their are fewer single men than single women after 40. There are thousands of beautiful women (of all colors) who are over 40 and in the NoVA area. No one can or should dispute this fact. The first post replying to the OP on this subject simply pointed out that the OP (a married 28-year-old mother of three) should consider that if she brought up wanting to date her husband would likely have a material number of options to date as well. And that his options for dating would be much greater if they were divorced than in an open marriage. The most material concern with the OP is that she talked about her DH's feelings only with a short "I am worried my husband will be upset" line and not with any realization that he might want out once he hears her bring this up. One poster has stated that the OP should determine what the OP wants to do and then do it. Okay - as long as she considers that her DH may not wait around for her to figure out what she wants to do. I did not see the OP say that she did not like her marriage, only that she felt she missed out on dating. I know that if my DW brought up the fact she wanted to date she would not have the option of doing so while married to me and that I could like find women who would enjoy being with me quite readily. |