Would you allow your 16 year old daughter to wear one of those almost thong swimsuits?

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Anonymous wrote:Can not a single person here figure out how to post a pic? There is such a range, I can't envision it.

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I dunno. That's sort of borderline for me. I was picturing an actual thong.

Most pools in this area won’t allow a thing.

It’s just a bikini covering 1/2 of an inch less.

I personally don’t like how the feel but most are cut this way now.

Yeah. I don't really find that bikini all that shocking and it's going to look different on different body types. Regular bikini bottoms often ride up just like that. I'm pretty conservative but I think I would have worn that suit.

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Anonymous wrote:Can not a single person here figure out how to post a pic? There is such a range, I can't envision it.

https://pakalohamaui.com/shop/honolua-ruched-bottom/

I dunno. That's sort of borderline for me. I was picturing an actual thong.

Most pools in this area won’t allow a thing.

It’s just a bikini covering 1/2 of an inch less.

I personally don’t like how the feel but most are cut this way now.

I was just thinking to myself "how can that be comfortable?"

To each their own I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a lot more mortified by seeing men in speedos than seeing young girls in these bottoms.

Yeah that's gross too. But speedos haven't been in style for about 40 years. At least in the U.S.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a lot more mortified by seeing men in speedos than seeing young girls in these bottoms.

You mean teen boys at swim competitions? Olympic swimmers?

I think those are yucko, but at least they have a functional reason to wear them. They eliminate drag in a swimming competition. The ONLY reason women wear thongs is to turn men on.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

I think their suits crossed the line into indecency and age inappropriate. That is my opinion. And, no, I would not allow my 16 year old to wear something like that.

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No, of course not. But I think the battle/war is won (or lost) long before they ask to wear something like that. Our goal is to raise all of our kids well enough that they don't feel the need to flaunt themselves in such an attention-seeking, sexual way in order to feel worthy.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

Whose talking about men not being able to control their reactions? I wouldn't want my 16 year old daughter to deliberately try to give guys a hard on even if the guys didn't do anything about it.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to her body, her choice

She's 16.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

Lol. Well, there is that!

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Anonymous wrote:Can not a single person here figure out how to post a pic? There is such a range, I can't envision it.

https://pakalohamaui.com/shop/honolua-ruched-bottom/

I dunno. That's sort of borderline for me. I was picturing an actual thong.

Most pools in this area won’t allow a thing.

It’s just a bikini covering 1/2 of an inch less.

I personally don’t like how the feel but most are cut this way now.

Yeah. I don't really find that bikini all that shocking and it's going to look different on different body types. Regular bikini bottoms often ride up just like that. I'm pretty conservative but I think I would have worn that suit.

Op here. The swimsuit in that link covers up a lot more than what my niece and her friend were wearing. Although tbh I wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter wear the swimsuit in that link either.

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Anonymous wrote:Can not a single person here figure out how to post a pic? There is such a range, I can't envision it.

https://pakalohamaui.com/shop/honolua-ruched-bottom/

I dunno. That's sort of borderline for me. I was picturing an actual thong.

Most pools in this area won’t allow a thing.

It’s just a bikini covering 1/2 of an inch less.

I personally don’t like how the feel but most are cut this way now.

Yeah. I don't really find that bikini all that shocking and it's going to look different on different body types. Regular bikini bottoms often ride up just like that. I'm pretty conservative but I think I would have worn that suit.

Op here. The swimsuit in that link covers up a lot more than what my niece and her friend were wearing. Although tbh I wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter wear the swimsuit in that link either.

I wouldn't be crazy about that swimsuit in the link, either. The more I look at it the less I like it. But it is nothing compared to that thong suit that you saw those girls wearing. Common sense just seems to be in short supply these days, not sure what their parents were thinking.

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Anonymous wrote:Can not a single person here figure out how to post a pic? There is such a range, I can't envision it.

https://pakalohamaui.com/shop/honolua-ruched-bottom/

I dunno. That's sort of borderline for me. I was picturing an actual thong.

Most pools in this area won’t allow a thing.

It’s just a bikini covering 1/2 of an inch less.

I personally don’t like how the feel but most are cut this way now.

Yeah. I don't really find that bikini all that shocking and it's going to look different on different body types. Regular bikini bottoms often ride up just like that. I'm pretty conservative but I think I would have worn that suit.

Op here. The swimsuit in that link covers up a lot more than what my niece and her friend were wearing. Although tbh I wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter wear the swimsuit in that link either.

There swimsuits were more like the Hamoa bottoms on that website. Sorry, I don't know how to link the picture in here.

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How about making our daughters excel in Math? I think it will make their future brighter than merely showing their backside. Unless they are Kardashians, of course!