Toxic Mothers-In-Law and bizarre things they do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in the hospital one day post C section after my first baby. She was holding him, after 10min or so he started fussing and I asked for him back. She goes “I’m not done holding him yet.” And kept rocking him across the room.

Remember that I was one day post C section so I couldn’t even get up and go take him from her.

Nurse call button, ask nurse to bring me baby and escort the visitor from the room. This visitor is now barred from the hospital. Anyone keeps my baby from me at any point for any reason? You're 100% done.

[Anonymous]

Where is the father in law thread?

I tire of the women-are-crazy when plenty of men are awful and crazy, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the father in law thread?

I tire of the women-are-crazy when plenty of men are awful and crazy, too.

Then start that thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL attended the fundraising auction for DD’s elementary school. The kids each drew adorable self-portraits. My MIL bought DD’s and we would not have gotten it if not for my DH who stepped in and said no way. Maybe this sounds silly, but it’s one instance in a long series of overstepping boundaries.

You invited her to a fundraising auction where the goal was to auction and sell each child's art, then you got mad that she...bid on your child's art?

Literally what did you think would happen? She'd bid up Bobby Sue's portrait from down the street?

Yeah. This gripe makes no sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the father in law thread?

I tire of the women-are-crazy when plenty of men are awful and crazy, too.

my step fil screamed at me once and I picked up my kids and left. It was about politics. He’s a crazy Trumpkin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Told my 6 month old baby “when you are a teenager and you hate your parents you can always come and stay with grandma as long as you want!” Remember this is a 6 month old who can’t understand her. The only other person in the room- who COULD understand her- was me. Such a bizarre thing to say.

I don’t get being mad or holding a grudge about this. Just a joke maybe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told my 6 month old baby “when you are a teenager and you hate your parents you can always come and stay with grandma as long as you want!” Remember this is a 6 month old who can’t understand her. The only other person in the room- who COULD understand her- was me. Such a bizarre thing to say.

I don’t get being mad or holding a grudge about this. Just a joke maybe?

+1 When your baby is a teenager, you may be grateful that s/he has someone to run away to!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH's mother isn't a covert narcissist. Everyone knows it.

She literally dragged me around her house (physically grabbing onto my arm and dragging me with her weight - she weighed 2x me at the time) during the engagement party she threw me and DH and instructing me to touch her friends' feet claiming it was a religious thing. (I found out later from one of their family members that it wasn't).

She ruined the south asian wedding hosted by my parents by: 1) before the ceremony, telling DH to wear some headcovering and of course he went along with it; 2) draping me with some gross gold and red fake silk fabric during the ceremony -- all our wedding pictures are ruined 3) bringing her own priest that grabbed the mic after the ceremony and started chanting in sanskrit that no one understood; 4) at the reception told the DJ that it was her birthday and instructing him to instruct all the guests to sing happy birthday to her during our speeches.

After the wedding, she tried to convince DH to leave some of our gifts with her because they weren't our style. DH went along with it until I made him return them when she sent me a text telling me to write those guests thank you notes.

I could go on and on. .. .

I've lived in India (not Indian) and went to a bunch of Indian weddings it sounds like you didn't throw an Indian wedding because what she did IS whats involved an Indian wedding. You do also touch the feet of older relatives to show a deep respect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was in the hospital one day post C section after my first baby. She was holding him, after 10min or so he started fussing and I asked for him back. She goes “I’m not done holding him yet.” And kept rocking him across the room.

Remember that I was one day post C section so I couldn’t even get up and go take him from her.

Nurse call button, ask nurse to bring me baby and escort the visitor from the room. This visitor is now barred from the hospital. Anyone keeps my baby from me at any point for any reason? You're 100% done.

I actually did this. But it was my M, not MIL. C-section, didn’t feel well, she was holding the baby, I asked for him back and that she should return tomorrow because I didn’t feel well. She kept holding him and said there was no problem with her staying.

So I did ring the nurse and said This visitor won’t leave. Nurse took care of it.

[Anonymous]

Not my MIL, but my own mom. When I announced I was divorcing my abusive husband, she screamed at me that she would testify against me and make sure I didn’t get custody of my kids. She also worked with my ex and fed him whatever information she had to use against me.

I was kind of baffled by the whole thing- she never gave any indication that she would turn against me, and had left my own father, so it’s not like she was against women leaving their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told my 6 month old baby “when you are a teenager and you hate your parents you can always come and stay with grandma as long as you want!” Remember this is a 6 month old who can’t understand her. The only other person in the room- who COULD understand her- was me. Such a bizarre thing to say.

I don’t get being mad or holding a grudge about this. Just a joke maybe?

Yes that's what rude people say when they want to insult you to your face its always "your so sensitive I was only joking". I would have loved to turn around to MIL and say "My you are so fat now". And if she dare say something just laugh and say "oh I'm only joking". It is funny how those types of people can say it but can never tolerate having something said to them.

Next time someone insults you remember not to think poorly of them and just take it since you seem to think everybody else should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told my 6 month old baby “when you are a teenager and you hate your parents you can always come and stay with grandma as long as you want!” Remember this is a 6 month old who can’t understand her. The only other person in the room- who COULD understand her- was me. Such a bizarre thing to say.

I don’t get being mad or holding a grudge about this. Just a joke maybe?

Yes that's what rude people say when they want to insult you to your face its always "your so sensitive I was only joking". I would have loved to turn around to MIL and say "My you are so fat now". And if she dare say something just laugh and say "oh I'm only joking". It is funny how those types of people can say it but can never tolerate having something said to them.

Next time someone insults you remember not to think poorly of them and just take it since you seem to think everybody else should.

+1

Rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the father in law thread?

I tire of the women-are-crazy when plenty of men are awful and crazy, too.

I would give a crazy FIL story but I don't have any. I do have a zillion crazy MIL stories though. I really appreciated it when she told DH I tried to push her down the stairs, yes it was a lie, it never happened, never even close to happening, the only truth was that I was in the same room as her and we disagreed on something. Nothing physical ever occurred, not even yelling just a one sentence refusal from me. That was the day I stopped having anything to do with her, after she lied so outrageously about me to cause trouble who can seriously be bothered with that. I don't even tell people IRL because it's so crazy I feel like they will secretly think something must have happened.

Not all women are crazy but for centuries there have been MIL jokes, why do you think that is. It's such an age old problem. There is truth in that even if you don't like it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my husband's old girlfriend got divorced, she called DH to tell him that "katie" was back on the market again -- you know, in case he wanted to divorce me and our four children in order to pursue her, I guess.

This was my deceased mil! She would have 2 of his exes over to her house. One came into town and she actually let her stay there a week. It blew my mind then I decided after that my kids weren't going to be around her. Long story, but Karma comes back around. We were in the UP of MI vacationing one Xmas. Apparently she went into the hospital then it became very serious. No one could get a hold of DH because they didn't know who we were staying with. (we didn't want them to) Usually if we went out of state they wanted the phone number of the people we were staying with...I'm totally serious. Control freaks! She ended up dying, the rest of his sisters were mad because they had to do all the work while DH was away having fun. I remember my dad advising me to stick it out.he said.."time is on my side". He sure was right!

Wait. You’re actually crowing with glee that your DH’s mom spent the last few days of her life in the hospital when no one could find him, and he missed seeing her before she died? And you think it’s funny that his sisters has to handle everything without their brother? And you think this is fitting karma for her simply being hospitable to an ex of your DH?

If there is such a thing as karma, you will die alone and no one will know how to reach your child to be with you. See what I did there?

Wow. PP is truly an evil person - her dad sounds horrible too.

I hope your children marry spouses just like you. Karma and everything...

Your reading comprehension is poor. Read the other posts. The mil was the evil person trying to make everyones life miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not my MIL, but my own mom. When I announced I was divorcing my abusive husband, she screamed at me that she would testify against me and make sure I didn’t get custody of my kids. She also worked with my ex and fed him whatever information she had to use against me.

I was kind of baffled by the whole thing- she never gave any indication that she would turn against me, and had left my own father, so it’s not like she was against women leaving their husbands.

That has to be the worst feeling knowing your own mother back stabbed you.

I think that would be the end of the line for me. Do you still talk to her?