How Do U Know When to Pull Plug?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pP here: what I mean is this unhinged drinking isn’t an issue. Mom is worried about her DD, she is right to seek help. A professional can decide if her DD is heading toward a drinking problem or not. We cannot. We are not experts.

Drinking is s problem her mom is addressing.

She is complying.

Very different than alcoholism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:pP here: what I mean is this unhinged drinking isn’t an issue. Mom is worried about her DD, she is right to seek help. A professional can decide if her DD is heading toward a drinking problem or not. We cannot. We are not experts.

Drinking is s problem her mom is addressing.

She is complying.

Very different than alcoholism.

She is appearing to "comply" because her mom is about to take away her chance to move away. That's got nothing to do with reality or what's actually happening behind the scenes.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the sexual assault will slow down her binge drinking.

[Anonymous]

Dear Poster, I know you have probably stopped reading the comments by now but please do what is best for your daughter. You love her more than anyone else ever will. She is your light. She is your baby.

My cousin went off to top 20 college with a little bit of anorexia. As predicted, it only got worse and led to alcoholism. She has now wasted her entire life, although miraculously is still alive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The teen drinks at work, got fired for stealing alcohol, has driven drunk, and drinks alone? Then blames it on her environment?
Please. That girl is an alcoholic.

You don’t understand what an alcoholic is. If she were an alcoholic her mom would have needed to take her to the hospital to detox.

She is using alcohol to deal with a rape.

She needs counseling to deal with the rape.

Would you stop going on about your own narrative? You're wrong.

OP clearly said in the OP, " For the last 6 months she has developed a problem with alcohol.

She leaves in 3 weeks and showed up drunk in her car on early Friday am (5:30am). She was attacked by a boy who was home alone and one she thought of as a casual friend. "

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So she's had a problem with alcohol for 6 months, then last week was drunk with a guy who was a "casual friend" (AKA drinking buddy) while alone with him in his house and got attacked by him.

And yes, the mom DOES need to take her to detox. In rehab. That's exactly what most of us are telling her.

Trouble with alcohol <> alcoholic

She needs support, but not for the alcohol.

No offense, but you sound like an alcoholic. Only an alcoholic could think it's no big deal for a young woman to be sloppy drunk with a guy who's almost a stranger alone at his house, for someone to be drink driving, for someone to be fired from work for STEALING ALCOHOL when she had been a law abiding nice responsible citizen up to that point, etc etc.

I happen to know plenty about alcoholism, unfortunately, and this sounds exactly like alcoholism. Quite a bad case, I'd even say. She needs professional help before she screws up her life permanently by getting a criminal record or killing someone while driving drunk.

Stop projecting on everyone.

She’s a kid who made mistakes, not an alcoholic. These are common issues with kids as they start to drink. For you to immediately jump to alcoholism says more about you.

She needs help, but alcohol isn’t the underlying issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:pP here: what I mean is this unhinged drinking isn’t an issue. Mom is worried about her DD, she is right to seek help. A professional can decide if her DD is heading toward a drinking problem or not. We cannot. We are not experts.

Drinking is s problem her mom is addressing.

She is complying.

Very different than alcoholism.

She is appearing to "comply" because her mom is about to take away her chance to move away. That's got nothing to do with reality or what's actually happening behind the scenes.

Sure it that ... or more likely it’s because she was raped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I just want to wish you and your DD the best. Did she see a therapist for the rape?

OP here. Found a local therapist who agreed to see my DD a few times before she leaves for college. She is going to focus on helping DD process the assault. First meeting is on Friday. So 7 days after the assault. (She did call a hotline # provided by her Psychiatrist the day of.)

Today (Wed) DD has a face time appointment with an educational consultant. Not sure exactly what this women will/can do for DD but will find out I guess. I was given her name by one of the local rehab places when I was looking for a few weeks of alcohol consulting.

Thursday she sees her Psychiatrist.

I don't think DD is physically addicted to alcohol. I do think her relationship with alcohol is unhealthy and dangerous.

Agains thanks everyone for the helpful, kind, and encouraging posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teen drinks at work, got fired for stealing alcohol, has driven drunk, and drinks alone? Then blames it on her environment?
Please. That girl is an alcoholic.

You don’t understand what an alcoholic is. If she were an alcoholic her mom would have needed to take her to the hospital to detox.

She is using alcohol to deal with a rape.

She needs counseling to deal with the rape.

I absolutely understand alcoholism. I am married to one, and he (yes HE) is also a rape victim and used alcohol to deal with it. Many many alcoholics are in fact victims of rape.

You are completely clueless.

Exactly.

[jsteele]

I believe this thread has reached as much of a resolution as possible so I am going to put it to rest.