Having DH get a vasectomy before we seperate

[Anonymous]

Divorce him. He can still have more kids - they can reverse it, remove the sperm, use donor sperm or adopt.

[Anonymous]

OP...you need to see a shrink. You have major boundary issues and it's quite likely you have some personality disorder.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely would if you could convince him. You want your kids to always be #1 in his life. Or at least 2 & 3 if he’s the type to place a new woman over his kids.

You people are truly, truly sick.

Hi, New Woman!

Try again. I’ve been cheated on and my ex got the woman pregnant. I’m just not a sick psychopath.

Well, you obviously didn’t learn from the experience. If your ex had a vasectomy, you would have been dealing with cheating instead of cheating AND a pregnancy.

No PP just thinks its morally wrong to try to control someone else's fertility. His body - his choice.

Now if you want to scare him OP- remind him if he has kids with another woman he won't be able to retire until that kid is out of college.

Those guys don’t pay for college. They just roll onto the next woman dumb enough to believe the ex is why her new man doesn’t see or support his kids.

[Anonymous]

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/vasectomy-reversal/about/pac-20384537

Less likely to work the longer it’s been from the original V.

[Anonymous]

Convince him to get the V. Protects your kids from sharing money/child support with future kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Convince him to get the V. Protects your kids from sharing money/child support with future kids.

Wow. You and OP are both mercenary psychos. The guy is nothing but a money spigot to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Convince him to get the V. Protects your kids from sharing money/child support with future kids.

Wow. You and OP are both mercenary psychos. The guy is nothing but a money spigot to you.

What do you call the woman who doesn’t care about the existing kids getting supported? I bet it’s “Mom”.

[Anonymous]

When he leaves you, marries a beautiful younger woman and hasmore kids... that’ll be his life and focus. So yeah, you’re right to be worried. But you’ll never actually separarte, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Convince him to get the V. Protects your kids from sharing money/child support with future kids.

My husband had one before me. We still had kids.

[Anonymous]

This literally sounds like a twisted version of a nature documentary about some disgusting species of insect that devours its partner after the mating ritual is completed. "Here we see the male being cleverly lured into the urologist's office by the female's carefully calibrated chirps of deceit and manipulation. Shortly thereafter, the cameras capture this process server arriving at the male's workplace."

Honestly, you both seem perfectly matched for each other.

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Anonymous wrote: Convince him to get the V. Protects your kids from sharing money/child support with future kids.

My husband had one before me. We still had kids.

Not accidentally though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Vascetomies can be reversed... Also they are not 100%. My body decided to fix itself after my first vascetomy.. so I went again...

I got mine in my early 40s since we were done having kids by then. Of the 7 men in the doctor's office that day for surgery, I was the only one having it done -- the other 6 (all 50+) were having it reversed.

Was that 20 years ago?

Nobody reverses, they go in and get the sperm.

[Anonymous]

How crazy are these women that think the man is forced to have a vasectomy.

Poor little boys!

[Anonymous]

OP- what are you doing for your own birth control?

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Anonymous wrote:OP- what are you doing for your own birth control?

IUD.
I admitted somewhere around page 2 this isn’t a discussion I’d carelessly have with my friends. I’ve said the idea to one friend.

He doesn’t want more kids. If he is happy to get a vasectomy, then is it okay? Yes, I strategized this which plays into the controlling comments as some pp’s pointed out.

To the appalled, I think this is jarring because you haven’t been there (yet?).