Wives, how often is perfect for you in terms of sex frequency?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Only of this marriage started out sexless (ie, no sex while dating and the early NRE phase). Otherwise, no: there aren't any good marriages without sex (unless the normal libido partner is going outside).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

Do you have the #'s?

40% of men in their 40's experience some ED, 50% in their 50's, 60% in their 60's

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Only of this marriage started out sexless (ie, no sex while dating and the early NRE phase). Otherwise, no: there aren't any good marriages without sex (unless the normal libido partner is going outside).

You are wrong. I have a technically sexless marriage of only a few times a year. But we still love and desire each other.

Each of us has health issues in their early 60s. Medicines help some but are not a true fix as DH cannot take some of the more effective ones safely.

It of course has not always been this way. 35 years ago we had sex daily. 25 years ago we had sex 3 times a week. 15 years ago we had sex once or twice a week.

Then life happened: job loss, sick children, dying parents, failing thyroid, menopause, weight gain, depression and scrambling to get enough work to keep the house.

This is normal. We take the long view.

Marriage is about way more than sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

Do you have the #'s?

40% of men in their 40's experience some ED, 50% in their 50's, 60% in their 60's

Your data is accurate for cases of little/moderate ED but I do know that ED is very curable if you want it to be cured. Yes, some ED (5%) is not curable but it is a small percent. My SIL is urologist and he would tell you that it is very easy to deal with if you first accept that you have it and second, really want to solve the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, this is a thread specifically about sex. There is the entire rest of the forum to discuss the other parts of making marriages good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

Do you have the #'s?

40% of men in their 40's experience some ED, 50% in their 50's, 60% in their 60's

Your data is accurate for cases of little/moderate ED but I do know that ED is very curable if you want it to be cured. Yes, some ED (5%) is not curable but it is a small percent. My SIL is urologist and he would tell you that it is very easy to deal with if you first accept that you have it and second, really want to solve the problem.

and third, you can afford the VERY EXPENSIVE medicine.

and fourth, other health issues don't contraindicate the ED meds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Only of this marriage started out sexless (ie, no sex while dating and the early NRE phase). Otherwise, no: there aren't any good marriages without sex (unless the normal libido partner is going outside).

You are wrong. I have a technically sexless marriage of only a few times a year. But we still love and desire each other.

Each of us has health issues in their early 60s. Medicines help some but are not a true fix as DH cannot take some of the more effective ones safely.

It of course has not always been this way. 35 years ago we had sex daily. 25 years ago we had sex 3 times a week. 15 years ago we had sex once or twice a week.

Then life happened: job loss, sick children, dying parents, failing thyroid, menopause, weight gain, depression and scrambling to get enough work to keep the house.

This is normal. We take the long view.

Marriage is about way more than sex.

Your post reflects only half of the equation. What (exactly) does he say on this?

Point being: if BOTH parties are EQUALLY uninterested in sex, then (and only then) is a sexless marriage "good". And only then can you reasonably expect continued monogamy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

Do you have the #'s?

40% of men in their 40's experience some ED, 50% in their 50's, 60% in their 60's

Your data is accurate for cases of little/moderate ED but I do know that ED is very curable if you want it to be cured. Yes, some ED (5%) is not curable but it is a small percent. My SIL is urologist and he would tell you that it is very easy to deal with if you first accept that you have it and second, really want to solve the problem.

ED can usually be re mediated, and regardless, ED need not be a barrier for an active mutually satisfying sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Only of this marriage started out sexless (ie, no sex while dating and the early NRE phase). Otherwise, no: there aren't any good marriages without sex (unless the normal libido partner is going outside).

You are wrong. I have a technically sexless marriage of only a few times a year. But we still love and desire each other.

Each of us has health issues in their early 60s. Medicines help some but are not a true fix as DH cannot take some of the more effective ones safely.

It of course has not always been this way. 35 years ago we had sex daily. 25 years ago we had sex 3 times a week. 15 years ago we had sex once or twice a week.

Then life happened: job loss, sick children, dying parents, failing thyroid, menopause, weight gain, depression and scrambling to get enough work to keep the house.

This is normal. We take the long view.

Marriage is about way more than sex.

I don't think you are who the PP was referring too. You still have sex and had a pretty robust sex life for a long time. You are older. The reason your sex life has declined are more legitimate than a dead bedroom between a couple in their 30s or 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

Do you have the #'s?

40% of men in their 40's experience some ED, 50% in their 50's, 60% in their 60's

Your data is accurate for cases of little/moderate ED but I do know that ED is very curable if you want it to be cured. Yes, some ED (5%) is not curable but it is a small percent. My SIL is urologist and he would tell you that it is very easy to deal with if you first accept that you have it and second, really want to solve the problem.

and third, you can afford the VERY EXPENSIVE medicine.

and fourth, other health issues don't contraindicate the ED meds.

Most insurance plans including Medicare cover it and it’s not a pill you take every day unless.......Yes, some people can’t take it because of other meds. What is crazy is that many meds that women need for sex to be comfortable are not covered by insurance. Likely because old white men are running the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Well, I’m glad that’s working out for you. But I think that two people in their 30’s to 50’s both being happy partners in a sexless marriage is a pretty low number. But if it works for you that’s great.

Do you have the #'s?

40% of men in their 40's experience some ED, 50% in their 50's, 60% in their 60's

Your data is accurate for cases of little/moderate ED but I do know that ED is very curable if you want it to be cured. Yes, some ED (5%) is not curable but it is a small percent. My SIL is urologist and he would tell you that it is very easy to deal with if you first accept that you have it and second, really want to solve the problem.

and third, you can afford the VERY EXPENSIVE medicine.
and fourth, other health issues don't contraindicate the ED meds.

Most insurance plans including Medicare cover it and it’s not a pill you take every day unless.......Yes, some people can’t take it because of other meds. What is crazy is that many meds that women need for sex to be comfortable are not covered by insurance. Likely because old white men are running the country.

Guy here. Just get the generic version. That’s what I do and it’s really inexpensive. The other great thing is that it comes in much smaller doses. Non generic comes in 100mg pills. The generic that I use comes in 20mg. I don’t see how guy’s can take those 100mg pills. 20-30mg will nearly bust my zipper and make me noticeably larger.

[Anonymous]

Once a week. Twice a week if it’s really good.DH hasn’t wanted it all since October last year...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I read these threads I laugh (sadly) at how many people thinking that having sex in a marriage makes it good.

No, but how many sexless marriages are good?

The point is, people here equate good marriage only with a couple having sex. BTW there are good marriages without sex. Some don't even share the same bedroom, but are great life partners.

Yes and they endure. What works for one may not for another.

Good marriages are made up of many aspects that work. Sex doesn't carry the entire relationship unless you are immature. If you believe sex is everything it's much easier to stay single and date. All about choices.