Wives, how often is perfect for you in terms of sex frequency?

[Anonymous]

This would be far more educational if people posted their age and how long they have been married.

I wanted I daily when we were dating, weekly when married, never when the kids were little and once a month is fine now in my mid 40s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would be far more educational if people posted their age and how long they have been married.

I wanted I daily when we were dating, weekly when married, never when the kids were little and once a month is fine now in my mid 40s

Lol

[Anonymous]

once or twice a week except when on period, no sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once a month but I try to do it weekly to stay married and keep my DH sane.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say once a week, sometimes twice. Also varies with my cycle and how well rested I am. We are actually probably at like 3 times a month.

I am 40 with two kids in elementary school. Married over 10 years, less than 15.

[Anonymous]

With DH, once a week when he’s not being annoying. If I had a harem of hot men, however, I’d do a new one every hour on the hour. My libido is strong, but not for sex with the same guy over and over for years. I’m monogamous, but it’s lame.

[Anonymous]

If I were not exhausted and overworked with kids, 6 times a week! We aim for 2 times a week if we are lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:For me, pretty close to never would be fine. But he needs it every day so we average 1-2 times a week most weeks.

Why never? And why stay?

I have no drive, once we get started its between fine and good but I don't need it.

I stay because I love him and we have kids.

Reading these responses, my situation seems common, women want far less sex than we end up having. This is called common knowledge, men have higher sex drives.

Yeah um this person answering for me wasn't me...

But as the first poster who said "never," because I have zero libido right now. Not sure it's a side effect of medication or just a phase of life. When you ask why I stay do you mean why do I stay if I have to have to keep having sex when I don't want to, or why do I stay and not go find sex I want?

I stay because I love my man and our life together. And I previously loved sex with him and hope I will again. I have no problem having sex with him occasionally when I'd just as easily pass, I see it as doing something caring for him.

[Anonymous]

Mid-40s, married >10 but <15 years

We have sex 2-4 times a week generally. I am happy with that. He is happy with that but wouldn’t turn down more. I dont think he has an upper limit.

I think its funny OP suggested she knows her H is happy with their frequency since he never turns her down. That doesn’t prove that at all!

[Anonymous]

With the man I wanted to marry—every day would have been ideal. With the man who wanted to marry me and had to convince me—never is ideal (marriage was a mistake and will be ending).

[Anonymous]

65 and married 40 years! At least once a week, sometimes twice especially when on vacation and staying at some gorgeous place. My DH just did the dishes and then drove my 90 year old mother home so I'm pretty sure he's buttering me up. But it's Sunday and I'm game! Our interest and frequency is a good reason we've been married a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once per child.

OMG you're a pedo?????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:65 and married 40 years! At least once a week, sometimes twice especially when on vacation and staying at some gorgeous place. My DH just did the dishes and then drove my 90 year old mother home so I'm pretty sure he's buttering me up. But it's Sunday and I'm game! Our interest and frequency is a good reason we've been married a long time.

Wow - I'm 35 and can't imagine my husband wanting to have sex with me when I'm 65 and I might feel the same about him. My parents are in their mid-60's and while they are very happy together I'm very sure based on what my mother has said that sex is in their past but that she is fine with it. Is there a magic potion that you take?

[Anonymous]

Early 40's, married 15 years. I'd be happy with once every few months, but I think spouse prefers a slightly higher frequency so now it's about once a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid-40s, married >10 but <15 years

We have sex 2-4 times a week generally. I am happy with that. He is happy with that but wouldn’t turn down more. I dont think he has an upper limit.

I think its funny OP suggested she knows her H is happy with their frequency since he never turns her down. That doesn’t prove that at all!