Husband refuses to leave low paying, dead end job

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not OP but same problem - told DH I am leaving him in August we are done. Dont want to have to find childcare midyear for DD. Enough is enough. DH can go to his mom or dads.

He's better off without you, shrew. He should get a good lawyer and make sure you get zilch.

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So many women complaining about their husbands not bringing home the bacon, but it's not like the women like OP are doing much better. So many man haters on here obsessed with $$$$.

Did you have a shotgun wedding? It seems like his apathy (or whatever you want to call it) toward his career isn't something that would appear out of nowhere.

No different than the men who complain about not having enough sex. Goes both ways.

Does it though?

Dumb attempt at equivalence. It's easier to have sex with your own friggin spouse than it is to magically transform your career make dramatically more money.

[Anonymous]

Ladies, not every man is going to change his stripes once he puts a ring on your finger.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you married potential, instead of reality. Almost everyone (particularly young men) overestimates their future career trajectories. When a teenage, or twenty-something, male talks a good game about his career and ambition, it's basically like a child saying that when he grows up, he is going to be an astronaut-mountain-climbing-architect-rockstar-president. It's endearing, but don't take it seriously.

He was 44 when we got married and went to school after that.

What does he do at WW, why hasn't he at least made it to management if he has a bachelors degree?

He's a Sales Associate. Being a manager would be too much work and he doesn't want the stress. He could have been a Team Leader but said it wasn't worth the extra $5k per year for the additional work and stress.

Is he at least happy?

I guess he is happy enough or would have found something else. Never says. He is very defensive of the company so definitely drank the WW koolaid.

A good father?

We married when he was 44. I was 48. Neither of us have any children. Having no children has been one of the decisions I have not regretted.

An attentive husband?

No, he rarely talks to me. If I say, this is what happened at work today, he'll say, I've already heard it. We have no physical contact. I recently tried to discuss my retirement options since I will be 65 next year but he was too busy playing a game on the PC to talk with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you married potential, instead of reality. Almost everyone (particularly young men) overestimates their future career trajectories. When a teenage, or twenty-something, male talks a good game about his career and ambition, it's basically like a child saying that when he grows up, he is going to be an astronaut-mountain-climbing-architect-rockstar-president. It's endearing, but don't take it seriously.

He was 44 when we got married and went to school after that.

What does he do at WW, why hasn't he at least made it to management if he has a bachelors degree?

He's a Sales Associate. Being a manager would be too much work and he doesn't want the stress. He could have been a Team Leader but said it wasn't worth the extra $5k per year for the additional work and stress.

Is he at least happy?

I guess he is happy enough or would have found something else. Never says. He is very defensive of the company so definitely drank the WW koolaid.

A good father?

We married when he was 44. I was 48. Neither of us have any children. Having no children has been one of the decisions I have not regretted.

An attentive husband?

No, he rarely talks to me. If I say, this is what happened at work today, he'll say, I've already heard it. We have no physical contact. I recently tried to discuss my retirement options since I will be 65 next year but he was too busy playing a game on the PC to talk with me.

Well you need to have a talk with him. It's time he stays at home and you go out and make it rain.....