Financial Infidelity - just caught DH hiding frivolous purchase

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, why do several posters now think the sword is fake? For $400, he better be getting a real sword.

Real sword but a reproduction, not an antique

Right, but that's totally different than a fake sword.

[Anonymous]

Need an update. Did the sword arrive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you. This is weird and I really hope you get to the bottom of this. If this is the beginning (or middle or even climax) of a pattern, be very careful to trust his word. If this is the secret you know about after some light snooping, then be prepared to find out some whoppers should you snoop again. I think you should, because you deserve to know what else he's secretly spending money on (or secretly embezzling or secretly paying for hookers or who knows what).

It took me some hard snooping to find out my DH was cheating. He hid it well for a while. Also found out that my money (as the higher earner) was going toward his secret porn habit.

Who pays for porn?!

Porn addicts. And the computer equipment to store porn on adds up--the dedicated ones have a special laptop they can take everywhere, and [b]hundreds to thousands of dollars worth of memory sticks[b] for use in phone and computers.

WTF? No. If you watched porn 24/7 365 days a year from the moment you were born until the moment you died, lived an average life expectancy, and never re-watched the same porn clip, and never saves over your porn stash, you'd still need only about $40,000 in storage media.

If your husband actually spent hundreds of thousands of dollars of your money, you have still not figured out what he actually spent it on.

They said hundreds TO thousands, not hundreds OF thousands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you. This is weird and I really hope you get to the bottom of this. If this is the beginning (or middle or even climax) of a pattern, be very careful to trust his word. If this is the secret you know about after some light snooping, then be prepared to find out some whoppers should you snoop again. I think you should, because you deserve to know what else he's secretly spending money on (or secretly embezzling or secretly paying for hookers or who knows what).

It took me some hard snooping to find out my DH was cheating. He hid it well for a while. Also found out that my money (as the higher earner) was going toward his secret porn habit.

Who pays for porn?!

Porn addicts. And the computer equipment to store porn on adds up--the dedicated ones have a special laptop they can take everywhere, and [b]hundreds to thousands of dollars worth of memory sticks[b] for use in phone and computers.

WTF? No. If you watched porn 24/7 365 days a year from the moment you were born until the moment you died, lived an average life expectancy, and never re-watched the same porn clip, and never saves over your porn stash, you'd still need only about $40,000 in storage media.

If your husband actually spent hundreds of thousands of dollars of your money, you have still not figured out what he actually spent it on.

They said hundreds TO thousands, not hundreds OF thousands.

Oh. Well shit, I wasted two minutes on back of the napkin calculation then. An addition that costs you a few hundred dollars actually sounds like a steal.

[Anonymous]

Addiction, rather

[Anonymous]

I'm with the OP on this one. It sounds like he hasn't been secretly saving his spare change for this. Even if he won or was given the gift card legitimately, he should be putting that good fortune back into the family and the debt. No one needs a 400 sword. If he won the gift card, he can spend 40 at happy hour the celebrate, pay for his wife's filling and anything leftover goes to the debt.

OP, I would keep checking in case he gets it delivered to work and plans on keeping it there. 400 is a lot of money and I would be pretty upset if I couldn't afford to fix my teeth but DH was buying random toys.