Girls being physically aggressive with boys in school - "you can't hit me back bc I'm a girl!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moms of daughters - please stop with your BS that girls aren't aggressive or misbehaved. I have two boys (and a girl) and in every class there has been at least one girl who has been physically aggressive towards both boys and girls. The playground aides overlook the punches/kicks to the boys because they aren't told to intervene when a girl hits a boy. I'm not saying this is rampant at our school but some of you are saying this doesn't happen. Of course it happens. They're kids. It's never right to put your hands on someone else. Both parents of boys AND girls should be teaching this lesson.

I have boys and girls. Yes, girls can be aggressive. So can boys. There are usually misbehaved kids of each gender in a class. However, I have never, ever seen a rampant problem of girls (or boys) beating the crap out of other kids while taunting them about their gender, and the school does nothing. Sure, it happens. It is not the incredible problem OP is making it out to be, and it is a kid issue, not a gender issue.

And how old are your girls and boys? Your experiences may not reflect what is going on now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the father of girls, this is one area I am completely ok with having a double standard.

Are you actually saying that you would condone your daughters kicking and hitting boys, unprovoked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the father of girls, this is one area I am completely ok with having a double standard.

Complete bs. When you teach girls (and boys!) that they can be violent without impunity they keep doing it until one day one out of control person beats the shit out of them because they have no compulsions and don't care about repercussions.

Like what happens here. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=F7qFtV48-fE

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the father of girls, this is one area I am completely ok with having a double standard.

Are you actually saying that you would condone your daughters kicking and hitting boys, unprovoked?

I think these incidents are rarely without provocation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the father of girls, this is one area I am completely ok with having a double standard.

Are you actually saying that you would condone your daughters kicking and hitting boys, unprovoked?

I think these incidents are rarely without provocation.

That is absolutely sexist thing to say. And how would you know? Because you think so? Provoking how? In the case of he little boy that was bruised and dragged he floor because he dared play with the girls friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the father of girls, this is one area I am completely ok with having a double standard.

Are you actually saying that you would condone your daughters kicking and hitting boys, unprovoked?

I think these incidents are rarely without provocation.

Keep on telling your daughters to be violent. Until it gets them into trouble. Like this doctor that lost her residency by assaulting a uber driver.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2016/01/22/shes-getting-violent-miami-doctor-suspended-after-attack-on-uber-driver/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moms of daughters - please stop with your BS that girls aren't aggressive or misbehaved. I have two boys (and a girl) and in every class there has been at least one girl who has been physically aggressive towards both boys and girls. The playground aides overlook the punches/kicks to the boys because they aren't told to intervene when a girl hits a boy. I'm not saying this is rampant at our school but some of you are saying this doesn't happen. Of course it happens. They're kids. It's never right to put your hands on someone else. Both parents of boys AND girls should be teaching this lesson.

I have boys and girls. Yes, girls can be aggressive. So can boys. There are usually misbehaved kids of each gender in a class. However, I have never, ever seen a rampant problem of girls (or boys) beating the crap out of other kids while taunting them about their gender, and the school does nothing. Sure, it happens. It is not the incredible problem OP is making it out to be, and it is a kid issue, not a gender issue.

And how old are your girls and boys? Your experiences may not reflect what is going on now.

They're in elementary. Thankfully not one like the OP's kids are apparently in.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

OP - I'm glad you posted this but am shocked by many of the responses. I have 3 elementary age boys and also have taught them never to hit/hurt a girl. They have periodically questioned this when a girl has hit/hurt them and I explain that they will grow up to be physically stronger than most women and so its crucial they never hit/hurt a girl from the beginning.

Like your sons they do think this is unfair and I can't blame them! I still will continue to tell them this and to my knowledge they have never fought back. And while the problem of girls hitting boys isn't rampant / frequent and my kids have never had bruises as a result, it DOES happen. (They attend a very highly regarded elementary outside the DC area).

I too wonder why. From these responses it seems that many parents of girls don't think it's an issue and don't drill into girls not to hit?? So strange to me!!!!

My question to parents of girls - is that correct? Do you just not talk about fighting with others bc you just don't see it being a problem?

Ps. And as I wrote before my boys are taught by me that it is never ok to hit a girl and if there is a problem tell the girl to stop, walk awayand tell a teacher. So, no lecturing to me about how I am raising future wife beaters please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

NP. Assault and battery, as reported here, in the form of bullying hitting is always a problem and deeply troubling. Take it up the school chain of command to get it to stop.

[Anonymous]

This is a tough one. The alleged behavior is disgusting. But, as is evident, sexism and gender norms, suggest that people will not believe the boys, the girls will say, he started it, and so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the father of girls, this is one area I am completely ok with having a double standard.

Are you actually saying that you would condone your daughters kicking and hitting boys, unprovoked?

I think these incidents are rarely without provocation.

Keep on telling your daughters to be violent. Until it gets them into trouble. Like this doctor that lost her residency by assaulting a uber driver.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2016/01/22/shes-getting-violent-miami-doctor-suspended-after-attack-on-uber-driver/

That's perfectly acceptable behavior for a woman. its the double standard we live with. What could go wrong?

[Anonymous]

You must confront bullies. I tell my kids to defend themselves. It is very stupid to tell your kid just sit there are take a beaten.

[Anonymous]

Why is no one reporting this to the teacher or principal?