Girls being physically aggressive with boys in school - "you can't hit me back bc I'm a girl!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

And just think, pp-Somewhere out there one of those little pigtail wearing hussies is your future DIL. You guys will get along great I'm sure!

Sarcasm does not really add to the conversation here. No one is condemning girls. They are just saying both genders should not be violent, and due to stereotypes some little girls get away with bad behavior (mother of a girl here).

I think sarcasm was warranted after the above response who was indeed condemning girls. She sounds like a Jewish or Italian mom of all boys. Oh wait, is that condemning??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

And just think, pp-Somewhere out there one of those little pigtail wearing hussies is your future DIL. You guys will get along great I'm sure!

I am sure my son is way more interested in the girl that can steal the soccer ball from him than one that cries when the moderator can't get the boys to pass her the ball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I'm glad you posted this but am shocked by many of the responses. I have 3 elementary age boys and also have taught them never to hit/hurt a girl. They have periodically questioned this when a girl has hit/hurt them and I explain that they will grow up to be physically stronger than most women and so its crucial they never hit/hurt a girl from the beginning.

Like your sons they do think this is unfair and I can't blame them! I still will continue to tell them this and to my knowledge they have never fought back. And while the problem of girls hitting boys isn't rampant / frequent and my kids have never had bruises as a result, it DOES happen. (They attend a very highly regarded elementary outside the DC area).

I too wonder why. From these responses it seems that many parents of girls don't think it's an issue and don't drill into girls not to hit?? So strange to me!!!!

My question to parents of girls - is that correct? Do you just not talk about fighting with others bc you just don't see it being a problem?

Ps. And as I wrote before my boys are taught by me that it is never ok to hit a girl and if there is a problem tell the girl to stop, walk awayand tell a teacher. So, no lecturing to me about how I am raising future wife beaters please!

Uh, no. I've taught my daughter since she was a toddler that hitting is not okay unless in actual self-defense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, most people aren't seeing what you're seeing. Either your kids are exaggerating or you have a discipline issue at your particular school.

The OP asks why it's so prevalent. The answer is, it isn't. I have never witnessed or heard of anything like what the OP describes. Maybe one girl who had some serious behavioral issues, but never a group of girls who routinely assault the boys at their school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, most people aren't seeing what you're seeing. Either your kids are exaggerating or you have a discipline issue at your particular school.

The OP asks why it's so prevalent. The answer is, it isn't. I have never witnessed or heard of anything like what the OP describes. Maybe one girl who had some serious behavioral issues, but never a group of girls who routinely assault the boys at their school.

and other parents see it often... girls can be a real pain in the butt... queen bees and wanna bes is not fiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

And just think, pp-Somewhere out there one of those little pigtail wearing hussies is your future DIL. You guys will get along great I'm sure!

I am sure my son is way more interested in the girl that can steal the soccer ball from him than one that cries when the moderator can't get the boys to pass her the ball.

Ha! I'm sure future DIL will welcome your input re: her level of crybabyishness/appraisal of her ball control. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, most people aren't seeing what you're seeing. Either your kids are exaggerating or you have a discipline issue at your particular school.

The OP asks why it's so prevalent. The answer is, it isn't. I have never witnessed or heard of anything like what the OP describes. Maybe one girl who had some serious behavioral issues, but never a group of girls who routinely assault the boys at their school.

and other parents see it often... girls can be a real pain in the butt... queen bees and wanna bes is not fiction.

So can boys. Stop making it about gender. Why aren't you complaining to the teacher?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, most people aren't seeing what you're seeing. Either your kids are exaggerating or you have a discipline issue at your particular school.

The OP asks why it's so prevalent. The answer is, it isn't. I have never witnessed or heard of anything like what the OP describes. Maybe one girl who had some serious behavioral issues, but never a group of girls who routinely assault the boys at their school.

and other parents see it often... girls can be a real pain in the butt... queen bees and wanna bes is not fiction.

So can boys. Stop making it about gender. Why aren't you complaining to the teacher?

It is a gender issue. If you read about educators, boys are disciplined more harshly than girls. Girls are not held accountable for their actions. They can hit, tease, etc. If a boy does this he is disciplined, often when they are on the receiving end from a girl.

Studies show when a boy talks during class he is being disruptive, when a girl speaks up she is "adding to the conversation".

Its the same with hitting. Girls can hit... NO girls should never hit and they should be disciplined for hitting. Boy hit and they are suspended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.

Just wow.

Clueless

I hope you aren't a parent.

Wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.

Just wow.

Clueless

I hope you aren't a parent.

Wow

Wow! You don't know girls cry. Don't volunteer at school you will be traumatized.

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Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.

Just wow.

Clueless

I hope you aren't a parent.

Wow

Wow! You don't know girls cry. Don't volunteer at school you will be traumatized.

I don't see this with my daughters or with my sons' classmates. Perhaps they cry more around you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.

Just wow.

Clueless

I hope you aren't a parent.

Wow

Wow! You don't know girls cry. Don't volunteer at school you will be traumatized.

I don't see this with my daughters or with my sons' classmates. Perhaps they cry more around you?

In a school setting, especially middle school, you will have multiple girls cry every single day. Sometimes boys cry but it is less often.

How old are you kids?

I get you want to make fun of me or put me down, but girls crying is normal and acting like it is some huge thing that needs to be fixed does not help the girls or whomever she is blaming for "making her cry"... sometimes life is tough and you need to recognize stress and deal with it in a healthy way instead of blaming and crying. Sometime you need to cry, but you should excuse yourself to the bathroom or the counselor's office.

Kids cry when they get a B sometimes especially if their parents are hard on them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this? I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls. I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead. The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl." I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer. The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field. The one ran into her and knocked her down. She got up and pushed him. He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong. Why don't you go check it out for yourself. Get involved.

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.

Lady, you are delusional. The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball. Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play. Hate to break it to you. Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so. When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls. To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play. And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA. Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you. Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean. There isn't one sex against the other here. I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess. And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.

I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.

Just wow.

Clueless

I hope you aren't a parent.

Wow

Wow! You don't know girls cry. Don't volunteer at school you will be traumatized.

I don't see this with my daughters or with my sons' classmates. Perhaps they cry more around you?

In a school setting, especially middle school, you will have multiple girls cry every single day. Sometimes boys cry but it is less often.

How old are you kids?

I get you want to make fun of me or put me down, but girls crying is normal and acting like it is some huge thing that needs to be fixed does not help the girls or whomever she is blaming for "making her cry"... sometimes life is tough and you need to recognize stress and deal with it in a healthy way instead of blaming and crying. Sometime you need to cry, but you should excuse yourself to the bathroom or the counselor's office.

Kids cry when they get a B sometimes especially if their parents are hard on them.

That's interesting-so what (in your opinion) comes naturally to girls at this age (crying, manipulation) should be squelched or done in the restroom whereas what comes naturally to boys in your opinion (mad soccer skills, non crying, cardio) requires priority use of soccer field (with girls who are boyish enough being granted access.) Girls who pretend to want to play soccer but aren't boyish enough (or boys who are too girlish) need to back off and let the poor, put upon boys have unfettered access to the field. Cool.