Girls being physically aggressive with boys in school - "you can't hit me back bc I'm a girl!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, most people aren't seeing what you're seeing. Either your kids are exaggerating or you have a discipline issue at your particular school.

The OP asks why it's so prevalent. The answer is, it isn't. I have never witnessed or heard of anything like what the OP describes. Maybe one girl who had some serious behavioral issues, but never a group of girls who routinely assault the boys at their school.

and other parents see it often... girls can be a real pain in the butt... queen bees and wanna bes is not fiction.

So can boys. Stop making it about gender. Why aren't you complaining to the teacher?

It is a gender issue. If you read about educators, boys are disciplined more harshly than girls. Girls are not held accountable for their actions. They can hit, tease, etc. If a boy does this he is disciplined, often when they are on the receiving end from a girl.

Studies show when a boy talks during class he is being disruptive, when a girl speaks up she is "adding to the conversation".

Its the same with hitting. Girls can hit... NO girls should never hit and they should be disciplined for hitting. Boy hit and they are suspended.

+1 the parents changing the topic saying girls are being demonized and being sarcastic are part of the problem. Both genders should not resort to violence, full stop. The main argument is that "I've never seen this issue". But other parents have, and they are talking about it.

[Anonymous]

How is this even a problem? My son was kicked by a girl in 4th grade. I found out about it because a teacher witnessed it, and he developed a nasty bruise. He didn't retaliate, the girl was disciplined, end of story.

Boys should know that any time someone puts their hands on them in a violent way, they need to tell an adult. Female bullies are just as bad as male bullies.

[Anonymous]

That's interesting-so what (in your opinion) comes naturally to girls at this age (crying, manipulation) should be squelched or done in the restroom whereas what comes naturally to boys in your opinion (mad soccer skills, non crying, cardio) requires priority use of soccer field (with girls who are boyish enough being granted access.) Girls who pretend to want to play soccer but aren't boyish enough (or boys who are too girlish) need to back off and let the poor, put upon boys have unfettered access to the field. Cool.

It is not my opinion...but okay, girls rarely cry. But on the rare occasion that they cry and blame others, they are asked to talk to a counselor and they are told "you can't control other or always ask people to control others" .. they must learn to control themselves.

When a child's parent died we did not ask them to hide crying. But sometimes kids don't want to be seen crying, so they are given the opportunity to cry in the bathroom or at the counselor's office.

There is no priority on the soccer field, everybody is welcome to play. Please do not bring a monitor over to work out your issues do that on your own, its an important part of growing up, learning to work out issues.

Girls that are awkward at flirting and decide hitting boys or stealing the ball and running should expect to be punished for hitting and chased if they don't want to share the ball.

It is all about not getting in the way of letting kids work things out themselves and when kids HIT they are punished no matter their gender.

But ... you teach your girls to hit boys, cry with abandon, complain about everybody around them, gossip and tease and blame others when they can't make a friend. Cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this even a problem? My son was kicked by a girl in 4th grade. I found out about it because a teacher witnessed it, and he developed a nasty bruise. He didn't retaliate, the girl was disciplined, end of story.

Boys should know that any time someone puts their hands on them in a violent way, they need to tell an adult. Female bullies are just as bad as male bullies.

In your case the girl was disciplined. Unfortunately as this thread demonstrates, alot of teachers and parents turn a blind eye when the bully is a girl and the victim a boy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The only genuine answer to this question is, what would you fell like, and actually do, if your son came back after being subjected to violence from a girl. The rest is theoretical bs. I think that most moms of boys would put aside their political correctness and seek an end to the behavior. Schools have a responsibility to end this behavior.

Yes, of course, but the question is, how do you end the behavior? Not by hitting back.

If walking away and telling a teacher doesn't work, hitting back absolutely will end the behavior. 99.9% of bullies will find someone else to pick on if their favored target fights back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is no one reporting this to the teacher or principal?

OP did talk to the teacher about. She was told that the girls are flirting.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, your boys will be stronger and bigger than girls one day and can physically assault them and rape them for paybacks,

(eye roll)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, your boys will be stronger and bigger than girls one day and can physically assault them and rape them for paybacks,

(eye roll)

OP. What an awful thing to say. What's wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, your boys will be stronger and bigger than girls one day and can physically assault them and rape them for paybacks,

(eye roll)

You are part of the problem. Ironically you are being incredibly sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, your boys will be stronger and bigger than girls one day and can physically assault them and rape them for paybacks,

(eye roll)

What a horrible response!

I totally get what OP is asking and basically I think what the thread shows is that some (not all) parents of girls are ok with their girls crossing the line with bulling behavior towards boys. Really sad to me. I would think in this day and age everyone would teach their kids it's not okay to hit/hurt others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, your boys will be stronger and bigger than girls one day and can physically assault them and rape them for paybacks,

(eye roll)

I'm sorry that a man hurt you this way. I'll be out here doing my part to raise my sons better so that they are never the cause of such emotional dysfunction in a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

It is some bs- teachers need to be involved with the social dynamics. We have a girl in my son's class who hits the boys-- proud to say nine of the boys have hit her back and I'm sure it's tempting.

That said, I tell my son he can't hit girls, period. Boys who hit girls may become less inhibited to hit women later.... men who hit women (or little kids) are garbage. I've made my feelings known to my son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

It is some bs- teachers need to be involved with the social dynamics. We have a girl in my son's class who hits the boys-- proud to say nine of the boys have hit her back and I'm sure it's tempting.

That said, I tell my son he can't hit girls, period. Boys who hit girls may become less inhibited to hit women later.... men who hit women (or little kids) are garbage. I've made my feelings known to my son.

"None" of the boys-- not "nine"- geez... we don't keep score and that would be quite a record!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.

It is some bs- teachers need to be involved with the social dynamics. We have a girl in my son's class who hits the boys-- proud to say nine of the boys have hit her back and I'm sure it's tempting.

That said, I tell my son he can't hit girls, period. Boys who hit girls may become less inhibited to hit women later.... men who hit women (or little kids) are garbage. I've made my feelings known to my son.

By allowing this girl to hit the boys and not allowing them to defend themselves, you are teaching them that their bodies and their safety and their well-being matters less than the well being of girls. You're incredibly sexist. You make the MRAs right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, your boys will be stronger and bigger than girls one day and can physically assault them and rape them for paybacks,

(eye roll)

Because either the girls are allowed to hit the boys without consequences or the boys are going to rape them? What kind of jackal are you?