Girls being physically aggressive with boys in school - "you can't hit me back bc I'm a girl!"

[Anonymous]

OP here. For the most part, my boys have come to understand that they need to stay away (though often the girls are chasing them, like I said it's often a ploy for their attention), and they sometimes tell the teacher. There is the aspect of not wanting to appear like a wimp, so there is reluctance to do that.

I'm more interested in hearing why girls think it's okay to do this.

Based on many responses so far, it's sadly become clear that they learn from their parents that it's okay, and impressed upon the girls that the MOST important thing is making sure the boys know their place and put up with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

Oh, simmer the fuck down you MRA nut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone dares you to jump of a cliff, will you do it/ If someone tells you to smoke a joint, will you do it? Etc. Just because some idiot provokes your DS doesn't meant he is not responsible for his own reaction. He is. He's responsible for hitting or not hitting, women or men.

Listen. I said upfront that they DO NOT hit them back and they WOULD NOT. What's your point?

I think my point is obvious. I wonder what your point is. You posted on the other thread adnauseam but that wasn't enough so you had to start an entire new thread. You have issues. Please don't shout.

I posted one time, not ad nauseum.

If you're not interested in the topic, why do you keep commenting on it? Scroll on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

Oh, simmer the fuck down you MRA nut

LOL

I am a woman and probably one of the most feminist people on this board. I don't tolerate violence, though, in any form from any one. I don't expect my boys to tolerate it either. If a person is physically violent, then they have earned a physically violent response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

Way to teach your child to end up in prison some day. You sound like a nut job, and just the kind of poster OP has been tirelessly searching for.

A man isn't going to go to prison for defending himself. At most, he is going to get a misdemeanor charge. If he pushes self-defense as an affirmative defenses to the charges, he probably isn't even going to take a conviction on it.

Teach your girls not to hit and there is no problem.

Yes, if a man hits a woman after she hits him, he can get in serious trouble for it, if he hurts her. Even if he doesn't hurt her, he could get fired, lose a scholarship, etc.

Remember FSU QB De'Andre Johnson?

http://www.cnn.com/2015/07/06/us/florida-state-university-qb-suspended/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

No. Just stay far away from her.

Sorry, but that is BS. If anyone hits you, you do not have to run away from her or him. You have the right to protect yourself. I will not teach my boys to be victims, just because the abuser or bully is a woman.

If your boy is big enough to "put her on the floor" then he is not in much danger.

what was the joke about liza minelli's ex husband, who won like five million dollars after suing her for spousal abuse -- "I'd rather pay HER 5 million to keep it secret that I was a man beaten up by liza minelli"....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the most part, my boys have come to understand that they need to stay away (though often the girls are chasing them, like I said it's often a ploy for their attention), and they sometimes tell the teacher. There is the aspect of not wanting to appear like a wimp, so there is reluctance to do that.

I'm more interested in hearing why girls think it's okay to do this.

Based on many responses so far, it's sadly become clear that they learn from their parents that it's okay, and impressed upon the girls that the MOST important thing is making sure the boys know their place and put up with it.

nailed it, op. I'm constantly reminding DD that the most important thing is ruling the third grade boys in her class with an iron fist. They're not going to subjugate themselves, FFS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

No. Just stay far away from her.

Sorry, but that is BS. If anyone hits you, you do not have to run away from her or him. You have the right to protect yourself. I will not teach my boys to be victims, just because the abuser or bully is a woman.

If your boy is big enough to "put her on the floor" then he is not in much danger.

what was the joke about liza minelli's ex husband, who won like five million dollars after suing her for spousal abuse -- "I'd rather pay HER 5 million to keep it secret that I was a man beaten up by liza minelli"....

This is part of the way that patriarchy hurts everyone. We expect men to be strong and tough. They can't hit back, but they can be hit. They are expected to take emotional and physical abuse without complaining, because to anything else is to be unmanly.

Eff that. That kind of abuse is harmful to anyone, no matter how big and tough they are. It doesn't matter if a man or a boy is in danger, he should not have to put up with abuse or physical violence. Violence is not okay.

Domestic violence isn't funny, even when it's a 100 pound woman beating on a 200 pound guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

Oh, simmer the fuck down you MRA nut

LOL

I am a woman and probably one of the most feminist people on this board. I don't tolerate violence, though, in any form from any one. I don't expect my boys to tolerate it either. If a person is physically violent, then they have earned a physically violent response.

Then I guess you do tolerate physical violence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the most part, my boys have come to understand that they need to stay away (though often the girls are chasing them, like I said it's often a ploy for their attention), and they sometimes tell the teacher. There is the aspect of not wanting to appear like a wimp, so there is reluctance to do that.

I'm more interested in hearing why girls think it's okay to do this.

Based on many responses so far, it's sadly become clear that they learn from their parents that it's okay, and impressed upon the girls that the MOST important thing is making sure the boys know their place and put up with it.

nailed it, op. I'm constantly reminding DD that the most important thing is ruling the third grade boys in her class with an iron fist. They're not going to subjugate themselves, FFS!

Me too! Took the words out of my mouth.

Simmer down, OP. Most girls don't think it's ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

Way to teach your child to end up in prison some day. You sound like a nut job, and just the kind of poster OP has been tirelessly searching for.

A man isn't going to go to prison for defending himself. At most, he is going to get a misdemeanor charge. If he pushes self-defense as an affirmative defenses to the charges, he probably isn't even going to take a conviction on it.

Teach your girls not to hit and there is no problem.

Yes, if a man hits a woman after she hits him, he can get in serious trouble for it, if he hurts her. Even if he doesn't hurt her, he could get fired, lose a scholarship, etc.

Remember FSU QB De'Andre Johnson?

http://www.cnn.com/2015/07/06/us/florida-state-university-qb-suspended/

He got 10 days of community service and a fine under $1000. We can chance that. It's better than allowing someone to abuse you.

[Anonymous]

The girls probably think it's harmless bullshit, which it is.

There are some girls like that at my DS's school. I tell him to stay away from them -- not because they are going to get him to hit them (already taught him not to hit people) but because I want him to grow up having healthy relationships with girls and eventually healthy relationships with women. Avoid the nut jobs and focus on the nice ones. But OP and the others are only focused on their child winning some stupid playground battle with a little girl. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't actually a problem, OP.

Violence against women? Now, there's a problem.

Your boys will survive this.

It is a problem when ANYONE, boy or girl, is subject to being hit, kicked, poked, or pinched at school. Everyone has a right to be free from violence and to protect their own body.

I have told my sons very clearly that they should NEVER hit a girl or woman first, but if she hits you, put her on the floor and then get away from her. Do what you have to do to protect your body.

Oh, simmer the fuck down you MRA nut

LOL

I am a woman and probably one of the most feminist people on this board. I don't tolerate violence, though, in any form from any one. I don't expect my boys to tolerate it either. If a person is physically violent, then they have earned a physically violent response.

Then I guess you do tolerate physical violence.

The use of violence in self-defense is necessary. I suppose I do tolerate the use of violence in self-defense.

[Anonymous]

Next time she hits, teach your boys to yell, "I already told you, no matter what you do, I'm not going out with you! You are ugly and I already like someone else."

Then repeat in other conversation, Susie is getting violent because she's angry I won't go out with her/be her friend.

And yes, you CAN hit a girl. You can hit anyone who stands between you and safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The girls probably think it's harmless bullshit, which it is.

There are some girls like that at my DS's school. I tell him to stay away from them -- not because they are going to get him to hit them (already taught him not to hit people) but because I want him to grow up having healthy relationships with girls and eventually healthy relationships with women. Avoid the nut jobs and focus on the nice ones. But OP and the others are only focused on their child winning some stupid playground battle with a little girl. Pathetic.

Your kid has clearly never been the target of the kind of relentless bullying that some groups of girls put out. Add physical abuse to that mix and you're creating a recipe to make some kid depressed, maybe suicidal.