MIL hurt my dog and I want to disown her

[Anonymous]

My house, my rules. If I allow a dog on my couch, that's my house rule. OP said the dog didn't jump on MIL.

MIL is a witch and I'd love to disown her too, OP. Not sure you can because of your husband.

Anyone who is mean to dogs or cats doesn't deserve a place in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh first, you need to realize that this is your child's grandmother and your DH's mother. That is an important relationship for both of them to have regardless of how you feel about her. It doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with her but it means that you need to leave them to have their own.

Honestly, as a dog lover, I would have probably pushed the dog off also. We don't allow our dogs on the furniture (and never understand why others do) so my instinct would have been to correct the dog while not even thinking about what I was doing.

I am also positive after having dogs with torn ACLs and hip dysplasia that your dog should be trained gently to not jump up onto any furniture. Do this now so that no further damage is done (which can be done simply getting on and off furniture) but also for post op when your dog should not be doing this at all.

+1 to all this.

OP, you are the one who sounds like you have an undiagnosed personality disorder.

So you're telling me that if your dog had health issues, and someone asked you not to PUSH the dog because she was hurt, you would still push the dog instinctively?
NP, do you know what the word "instinct" means?

No, I don't think OP is the one with major personality issues here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh first, you need to realize that this is your child's grandmother and your DH's mother. That is an important relationship for both of them to have regardless of how you feel about her. It doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with her but it means that you need to leave them to have their own.

Honestly, as a dog lover, I would have probably pushed the dog off also. We don't allow our dogs on the furniture (and never understand why others do) so my instinct would have been to correct the dog while not even thinking about what I was doing.

I am also positive after having dogs with torn ACLs and hip dysplasia that your dog should be trained gently to not jump up onto any furniture. Do this now so that no further damage is done (which can be done simply getting on and off furniture) but also for post op when your dog should not be doing this at all.

+1 to all this.

OP, you are the one who sounds like you have an undiagnosed personality disorder.

So you're telling me that if your dog had health issues, and someone asked you not to PUSH the dog because she was hurt, you would still push the dog[b] instinctively?[/b]
NP, do
you know what the word "instinct" means?
No, I don't think OP is the one with major personality issues here.

NP, do
you know what the word "instinct" means?

[Anonymous]

Also OP, I would let a dog lick my kid rather than germy human hands touch her. My dogs get theirs shots and pills and I know they are healthy. Human hands have all kinds of germs that are bad for their fellow humans.

I don't make a big deal of this but I can see why you'd allow the one and discourage the other (unwashed hands).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just baffled by all these people who refuse doggie cuddles on the couch. Really? I feel like that's one of the great joys of having a pet. Couch cuddles after a long day are the best, and I feel bad for all of you who deprive yourselves!

Isn't "mixed rescue dog" the new code for pit bull?

Not everyone wants to cuddle on the couch with a smelly dog, and most people especially do not want to cuddle with pit bulls, no matter what trendy rescue breed name they are gievn.

[Anonymous]

Dog people are so clueless. Dogs on the furniture and licking a child's face = disgusting. Put the dog down and stop prolonging its miserable life. No one wants to cuddle your sickly pit-bull mix.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dog people are so clueless. Dogs on the furniture and licking a child's face = disgusting. Put the dog down and stop prolonging its miserable life. No one wants to cuddle your sickly pit-bull mix.

Sounds like a great house rule. For your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also OP, I would let a dog lick my kid rather than germy human hands touch her. My dogs get theirs shots and pills and I know they are healthy. Human hands have all kinds of germs that are bad for their fellow humans.

I don't make a big deal of this but I can see why you'd allow the one and discourage the other (unwashed hands).

+1

same here

nasty grannie with cold sores must wash her hands. pup is free to give licks anytime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also OP, I would let a dog lick my kid rather than germy human hands touch her. My dogs get theirs shots and pills and I know they are healthy. Human hands have all kinds of germs that are bad for their fellow humans.

I don't make a big deal of this but I can see why you'd allow the one and discourage the other (unwashed hands).

+1

same here

nasty grannie with cold sores must wash her hands. pup is free to give licks anytime.

With the same tongue the dog used to lick his ass and eat feces? No thanks...

[Anonymous]

Eww please stop!

[Anonymous]

The dog haters need to calm the f down, clearly the dog is NOT a pit bull mix. No pit bull mix weighs 10 pounds.

I would say its probably a terrier or mini poodle or some such type.

And no one will push my dog, hurt her and still be in my home. I don't care who it is. MIL with personality disorder is a nasty piece of work and defied DIL just to get back at her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I got up as quickly as I could and very firmly stated "do not push her!"

OP lots going on with this situation. Out of curiosity, what was your tone here?

+1 "firmly stated". Pretty sure that means yell or shriek

PP you quoted here. Two things jumped out at me. First, if OP was getting up that quickly, MIL might not have had time to hear and process what OP said before she did what she did. Second, OP's words were a little surprising for a conversation between two adults, though a, "panicked" or, "pleading" tone might be more understandable than, "stern," "commanding," or "shrill." Like I said, lots going on with this situation.

[Anonymous]

I would not let anyone in my house who hurt my dog. No exceptions.

OP, have you told your MIL that she injured your dog? I think you should send her an email saying exactly what happened to your dog as a result of her pushing the dog off the couch.

It's your house, and you make the rules. Guests, including MIL, must follow your rules in your house.

I don't allow dogs on furniture, so I wouldn't like it when the dog jumped up to sit next to me, but if you'd explicitly told me not to push the dog, I would have stood up and asked you to remove the dog.

It sounds like you're looking for an excuse to exclude MIL from your house. I don't think you can do that, but you have every right (obligation) to tell your MIL what she's done. If you make clear your boundaries with respect to the dog, she may not want to visit again. But as a PP has said, she is your child's grandmother, so there will be contact with her. Maybe you can meet outside of your house, on neutral ground in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh first, you need to realize that this is your child's grandmother and your DH's mother. That is an important relationship for both of them to have regardless of how you feel about her. It doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with her but it means that you need to leave them to have their own.

Honestly, as a dog lover, I would have probably pushed the dog off also. We don't allow our dogs on the furniture (and never understand why others do) so my instinct would have been to correct the dog while not even thinking about what I was doing.

I am also positive after having dogs with torn ACLs and hip dysplasia that your dog should be trained gently to not jump up onto any furniture. Do this now so that no further damage is done (which can be done simply getting on and off furniture) but also for post op when your dog should not be doing this at all.

+1 to all this.

OP, you are the one who sounds like you have an undiagnosed personality disorder.

So you're telling me that if your dog had health issues, and someone asked you not to PUSH the dog because she was hurt, you would still push the dog[b] instinctively?[/b]
NP, do
you know what the word "instinct" means?
No, I don't think OP is the one with major personality issues here.

NP, do
you know what the word "instinct" means?

Sure do - it means that MIL's instinct was to harm a dog who she'd been asked not to shove. Which means that her instincts are terrible, not just her judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just baffled by all these people who refuse doggie cuddles on the couch. Really? I feel like that's one of the great joys of having a pet. Couch cuddles after a long day are the best, and I feel bad for all of you who deprive yourselves!

Isn't "mixed rescue dog" the new code for pit bull?

Not everyone wants to cuddle on the couch with a smelly dog, and most people especially do not want to cuddle with pit bulls, no matter what trendy rescue breed name they are gievn.

well then don't go over to a home where there is a dog like that. that is your choice.