MIL hurt my dog and I want to disown her

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Anonymous wrote:If anyone hurt my dog I would be completely done with them. What a horrible thing to do.

I agree. Peopke who are cruel to animals have mental problems. I would limit contract with grandma and not let her visit you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you dog is in so much pain you're doing plasma injections trying to hold on till the fall for surgery... you really need to put the dog down. For the sake of the dog.

Especially if the dog is only 4 years old. The dog is in for a lifetime of pain that you are only prolonging.

Agree with this. I hate dogs (and most dog owners for being really crappy dog owners), though your MIL seemed to act with malice.

But the dog sounds like his quality of life is poor, regardless of age. Prolonging a painful life for an animal that you love, is also unkind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow that's a whole lot of crazy. You, not your MIL.

LOLOLOLOL
I was thinking the same damn thing !
That and troll!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL sounds like a real piece of work, but you really need to reevaluate your priorities. You have invested a lot of emotional energy in a sick, suffering animal. You are treating it like a lovey that needs to be sewn back together because you need it so badly.

This is a 4 pound animal. I hope you are a vegetarian, because pigs and cows are just as worthy of your emotional energy (which is to say, not at all worthy). Instead of giving them acupuncture you are paying slaughterhouses to kill them with bolt guns and cut them up.

4 years old, not 4 lbs

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Anonymous wrote:People should be valued and respected more than dogs.

Only if they earn that respect. OP's MIL clearly did not.

Well clearly several PP's have only been rude and disrespectful, so I guess we should just blow them off, too. Your respect for other humans is rather uninspiring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very lovable 4 yr old mixed rescue dog that has degenerative joint problems in her knees, hips and elbows. She's had acupuncture, laser thwrap and most recently platelet rich plasma injections to improve her mobility and quality of life until her surgeries which we have tentatively scheduled for the Fall. Mt MIL knows all about this and was given explicit instructions not to push our dog or forcefully move her for any reason. The dog just saw the orthopedic surgeon for a follow up and has been doing very well.

However, my MIL is a petulant brat with a probable undiagnosed personality disorder. At one point, she was sitting on the couch where we normally allow the dog to sit (when permitted by the vet) and our dog jumped up to sit with her. To be clear, it's the chaise part of our sectional sofa and the dog did not crowd the MIL but simply wanted to come up and cuddle. I got up as quickly as I could and very firmly stated "do not push her!", but MIL shoved her backwards off the couch, hard. My dog is now unable to put any weight on her back leg, so it obviously did damage.

My MIL then creates a big scene saying she's leaving a day early screaming at me in my home in front on my baby about how I prioritize the dog and how dare I let her lick the baby and I'm crazy with OCD for asking MIL to wash her hands before she holds my child, etc etc. I went upstairs with the baby and DH packed her up and escorted her out.

I'm livid she had the gall to hurt my dog then insult me when she's a guest in my home. I've never cared for her much, but this is the final straw in my opinion. She's a drama queen, it's her MO to make a big scene and leave at least a day early when she visits, but usually I'm not involved. DH thinks she was out of line, but things will blow over.I don know what he's said to her privately.

I'm looking for advice on next steps and a long term approach. I feel terrible that I couldn't protect my dog from this monster.

Dog people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If anyone hurt my dog I would be completely done with them. What a horrible thing to do.

I agree. Peopke who are cruel to animals have mental problems. I would limit contract with grandma and not let her visit you.

+1

Who pushes a dog?!? Psycho bitch shouldn't be touching the fuzzy bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you dog is in so much pain you're doing plasma injections trying to hold on till the fall for surgery... you really need to put the dog down. For the sake of the dog.

Especially if the dog is only 4 years old. The dog is in for a lifetime of pain that you are only prolonging.

+1 I tend to agree with this.

[Anonymous]

... But after the OP, in her own home, asked her MIL to be careful of the dog and the MIL shoved the dog off the sofa, I would be pissed. I also would not love the every time she visits there is an ugly scene. Despite the dog and the DH, I would put a stop to it. It is very disrespectful to the OP. Like don't visit in my home -- stay in a hotel.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone hurt my dog I would be completely done with them. What a horrible thing to do.

I agree. Peopke who are cruel to animals have mental problems. I would limit contract with grandma and not let her visit you.

+1

Who pushes a dog?!? Psycho bitch shouldn't be touching the fuzzy bitch.


Um, I like dogs and if one is jumping up on me I push them off. If one is jumping on the furniture, I give them a little push off too, but I wouldn't intentionally push a sick/injured dog. That's mean for no reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be done with anyone who hurt my dog. Do not allow her in your home.

I agree. If shevhurtsva 4-legged defenseless animal she might dobthevsane to a 2-legged defenseless child.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP, I'm totally on your side and would be very sad and hurt if anyone did that to my dog.
It's your house and your rules- if the dog is allwed on your couch, nobody has the right to push the dog off. I have a dog and when guests come over the dog gets up by them and I move the dog but never ever ever would I be okay with a guest or family member pushing my dog.
One time a neice said, "OFF" and I got mad at my neice for telling my dog off. My house my rules! I know I"m in the minority, but I don't think you're crazy at all. I wouldn't disown the ML forever, but I would want an apology for sure. It doesn't sound like a sustainable relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... But after the OP, in her own home, asked her MIL to be careful of the dog and the MIL shoved the dog off the sofa, I would be pissed. I also would not love the every time she visits there is an ugly scene. Despite the dog and the DH, I would put a stop to it. It is very disrespectful to the OP. Like don't visit in my home -- stay in a hotel.

I cannot imagine OP will ever visit that home again. OP only provided her overreaction and we don't know what really happened. OP expected MIL to cuddle with the dog and MIL did not want to. Not everyone wants to get that close to a dog. Instead of OP respecting it, she flips out when MIL move the dog away. I would have backed away from the dog as well. I hate dogs (then again, I would never have gone into the house). OP threw out her MIL rather than trying to make the best of a bad situation. Its about the child, not her.

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I shove dogs like that all the time. She probably just forgot about its issues, it's an instinct to push the dog away. I could see myself doing this very easily . Not out of malice . I just don't like dogs and I don't want them near me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP, I'm totally on your side and would be very sad and hurt if anyone did that to my dog.
It's your house and your rules- if the dog is allwed on your couch, nobody has the right to push the dog off. I have a dog and when guests come over the dog gets up by them and I move the dog but never ever ever would I be okay with a guest or family member pushing my dog.
One time a neice said, "OFF" and I got mad at my neice for telling my dog off. My house my rules! I know I"m in the minority, but I don't think you're crazy at all. I wouldn't disown the ML forever, but I would want an apology for sure. It doesn't sound like a sustainable relationship.

That is really disrespectful to your niece who didn't want the dog on her. She has every right to get the dog off her.