Career or divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post only makes sense if the DH is posing as the wife to see average person's reaction. No clerk or Biglaw associate would write like this (phrasing seems off but makes sense if you're not in the legal world) or pose such simple and stupid questions (lawyers would know where to look).

ITA. Or the wife is posting but the roles IRL are flip flopped. Op is going out of her way to sound flip and callous.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. We're being trolled somehow.

[Anonymous]

You'd divorce over this? Wtf?

[Anonymous]

There are jobs for lawyers in Dallas. If you cant see that after ten years it is his turn, I can see why he wants out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to at least try to find something. You don't end a marriage and try to coparent a 2 year old cross country because you SUSPECT you're too senior to find something. Fwiw, I think he's right it's your turn to be supportive of him.

this. you are so selfish.

[Anonymous]

Lol @ people thinking this is a troll post. You guys must not hang out with a lot of NYC big law types. They are a callous, callous bunch.

[Anonymous]

I'm former Biglaw and I'm suspicious about this post. Something about it is evocative of the posts by that guy who cheated on his wife with the coworker, wouldn't contemplate a move to California for the wife's career, and was unwilling to stop working at the same place as his ex-mistress. I guess they both could just be massive narcissists too ....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm former Biglaw and I'm suspicious about this post. Something about it is evocative of the posts by that guy who cheated on his wife with the coworker, wouldn't contemplate a move to California for the wife's career, and was unwilling to stop working at the same place as his ex-mistress. I guess they both could just be massive narcissists too ....

Who??? Wow, some of you guys must live on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't know why I am getting attacked. I have worked really hard to get where I am and am hesitant to leave it all behind for Dallas Texas. Unless I am mistaken, it doesn't seem to be as hot a market as DC. Why is it wrong that I am serious about my career?

Apparently you are being attacked because you are a career driven woman with a child. If you were a career driven man with a child you would be lauded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't know why I am getting attacked. I have worked really hard to get where I am and am hesitant to leave it all behind for Dallas Texas. Unless I am mistaken, it doesn't seem to be as hot a market as DC. Why is it wrong that I am serious about my career?

Apparently you are being attacked because you are a career driven woman with a child. If you were a career driven man with a child you would be lauded.

On DCUM -- highly doubt it!? Women here expect dads to be involved 24-7, and I don't think many would think highly of a man who said -- I'm not leaving my biglaw firm no matter what, if you want to go, that's fine we'll divorce and I'll see my kid a few times a yr bc my career comes first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol @ people thinking this is a troll post. You guys must not hang out with a lot of NYC big law types. They are a callous, callous bunch.

I'm a NYC biglaw type and I do agree that it can be a callous bunch esp. female seniors BUT most of them don't marry or if they do, they don't have kids until/unless they've made partner OR decided they won't make partner and have transitioned to whatever in house or govt job they want. They're planners. And if they get pregnant earlier than expected, they have no problem aborting if the timing doesn't work for their career.

[Anonymous]

This post depresses me, as a spouse who has followed her husband all over the world for work and still managed to scrape a career together despite the odds (moving frequently, foreign languages, needing to build networks again and again). You have no idea how easy you have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You'd divorce over this? Wtf?

My thoughts exactly. If you want to divorce over this, you should. The guy deserves better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't know why I am getting attacked. I have worked really hard to get where I am and am hesitant to leave it all behind for Dallas Texas. Unless I am mistaken, it doesn't seem to be as hot a market as DC. Why is it wrong that I am serious about my career?

It's not wrong that you're serious about your career, it's wrong that you think a serious career can only unfold one way.

[Anonymous]

Just think! If you were with the Dallas US Attorney's office or the Dallas SEc division you could have filed a securities fraud action against the Texas Attorney General today.

And you though that Daalas was just hokie and backwater.