Weigh in on this parenting diagreement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming everyone who thinks the 16 year old should wait would be perfectly content being dropped off at work 2 hours early (or late!) and occupying yourself? Any lesson he is learning is one we should have already learned, so no problem, right?

The needs of the parents is the only thing that matters to this bunch.

Not everyone wants to rear coddled, entitled, self absorbed little assholes who expect everyone to drop everything for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming everyone who thinks the 16 year old should wait would be perfectly content being dropped off at work 2 hours early (or late!) and occupying yourself? Any lesson he is learning is one we should have already learned, so no problem, right?

When I get home from work, I have to cook, clean, take care of kids. So, those 2 hours are precious. What does a 16 yr old boy do with those 2 hours at home? Study, snack, play on the computer/smart phone. He can do the same thing at a cushy private school.

Stop comparing kids to adults. We don't have the same responsibilities.

Stop treating your kids like they are yesterday's left overs.

Right, because if we don't drop what we are doing and go out of our way for a 16 yr old boy then we are treating our kids like yesterday's leftovers.

Man, I hear those blades and plows loud, and I feel sorry for your kid's college professors and future employers. They will be doing the same as I am at you..

[Anonymous]

Asked and answered several times. Your DH is right.

[Anonymous]

OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming everyone who thinks the 16 year old should wait would be perfectly content being dropped off at work 2 hours early (or late!) and occupying yourself? Any lesson he is learning is one we should have already learned, so no problem, right?

When I get home from work, I have to cook, clean, take care of kids. So, those 2 hours are precious. What does a 16 yr old boy do with those 2 hours at home? Study, snack, play on the computer/smart phone. He can do the same thing at a cushy private school.

Stop comparing kids to adults. We don't have the same responsibilities.

+1

If I were dropped off 2 hours early, it would take away from my other responsibilities at home: preparing meals, doing laundry, house cleaning, yard work, etc. I wouldn't sit there pissed because I'm missing out on surfing the internet, which is what OP says her son would do. I'd be annoyed because I have a ton of house work to do. Her son presumably has homework to do on a daily basis and can use those three hours in which to do it. Plus, given that this is a private school, the library probably has computers with internet access. So he can still do exactly what he would have done at home (with the exception of visiting any inappropriate websites, though hopefully he wouldn't be doing that at home). All of you people saying that these responses are "cold and unfeeling" have yet to respond to these facts. You're just emotionally reacting and it's, frankly, silly.

[Anonymous]

Why do others get so concerned over something non controversial that a parent wants to do?
So weird.

I sense jealousy.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't know how many people have posted on here, but the majority opinion seems to be team dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't know how many people have posted on here, but the majority opinion seems to be team dad.

I am sure OP can read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

Do you have nothing else to do with your time? When I have a day off, I have other things to do. If you WANT to drive him, then go for it. But driving an hour and a half round trip is just unnecessary and a huge waste of gas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

Do you have nothing else to do with your time? When I have a day off, I have other things to do. If you WANT to drive him, then go for it. But driving an hour and a half round trip is just unnecessary and a huge waste of gas.

It is 45 min there and back in total. I have lots of days off. I still have things to do on my days off but not every minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

LOL. Then why did you post on here? Because you were looking for people to agree with you and were hoping to show your DH that you were right? Unfortunately, it didn't work out for you. I hope your DH sees this thread and tells you he was right.

Maybe you should find something to do then, you'd stop coddling your 16 yr old. Like I said, if it were once in a while, fine, but a few days per week every week? Yes, you are coddling him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

Are you seriously trying to compare an elderly person who can't wait and is physically dependent on other people for their most basic needs to a healthy 16 year old boy managing his time?

It's about being kind to all family members and helping make life easier when able.
I am not the PP you replied to.

What would be really kind is if you just stopped expected him to go to school at all. I mean, it's a lot of work and I'm sure if you asked him, he'd agree that he'd be happier not to go.

You make no sense. Do YOU want to wait three hours for a drive after work?

I really don't understand the people making a big deal about this. Kid needs to do homework, yes? Is there ANY logical reason he shouldn't take this opportunity to do it in the mornings? Really, the answer is no. OP said he'd use the time at home playing video games. I'm sure the school has a library. With internet access. If he wants to spend the time surfing the internet and wasting his time, he can do that too. In fact, there are probably other kids at the school who also will be starting class weirdly late and he can hang out with them. It's not like dad will be dropping him off to sit on a curb in front of the school twiddling his thumbs until the bell rings and he's allowed to trot inside. Are you people just not able to think rationally? It has nothing to do with imposing your big bad will on the poor widdle teenager. It's just figuring out the logistics in a reasonable manner.

OP here, I actually said that at school he would probably spend the time playing on his computer but thats just a guess.

Well then I'm sorry you didn't raise him right. Sounds like he's already spoiled and a lost cause.

Or perhaps he is a very responsible kids and does his homework the night before, like he is supposed to. You're an awful person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do others get so concerned over something non controversial that a parent wants to do?
So weird.

I sense jealousy.

Because she posted on here, and that means people can offer their opinions one way or the other. Why bother posting, then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

Do you have nothing else to do with your time? When I have a day off, I have other things to do. If you WANT to drive him, then go for it. But driving an hour and a half round trip is just unnecessary and a huge waste of gas.

PP again. If I were your DH, I'd be annoyed if you were pissing away all that money on gas too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

Do you have nothing else to do with your time? When I have a day off, I have other things to do. If you WANT to drive him, then go for it. But driving an hour and a half round trip is just unnecessary and a huge waste of gas.

PP again. If I were your DH, I'd be annoyed if you were pissing away all that money on gas too.

He doesn't worry about money.