pretty sure my dh is cheating, what do i do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked DH. Apparently it's a legit thing. DH used to masturbate in lubed condoms on long solo road trips.

Who knew? He said he hadn't done this since college though.

Tell your DH that the Internet is giving him some serious side-eye right now

[Anonymous]

In any case, one of the conditions of you staying with him after his previous cheating should be complete transparency on his part. You should be able to look at his phone, emails, social media, anything, any time, without asking. Of course, we all know that dedicated cheaters have secret phones, accounts, and usually cover their tracks pretty well. He wasn't too bright about the condoms, though.

As has been mentioned, I wouldn't say anything to him, but gather info for my own peace of mind, because you know very well how exhausting it is dealing with the lies and half truths, and it's better just to have the info you need to pull back and make your decisions on your own.

I'd get out now. He's going to keep doing it. Make your arrangements and see the lawyer before you talk to your husband.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry for what you are going through now. Your world must be in a catastrophe now + your mind must be so confused. Been there, done that.

And you are probably right, he will deny, deny DENY even if there is tangible evidence that he is messing around.

I highly doubt he has "old" condoms, that he uses them for his own self-pleasure or that he is holding on to them for a friend. Trust me, he will give you the whole gamut of excuses if confronted.

But that still wouldn't stop me from confronting the cheater. I'll give him a tiny bit of credit, at least he is being smart about catching thus spreading a sexual disease.

You pretty much have all the evidence you need that he is being unfaithful. I don't know what more you would need, that would be sufficient enough for me to leave the rat.

But I do not know you nor do I know the true dynamics of your marriage.

Whatever you do, please take care of yourself. Do not let this become something that ruins your whole life.

(((( Hugs ))))

[Anonymous]

The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

Yeah, he needs all those condoms to jerk off at the gym! Moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

Yeah, he needs all those condoms to jerk off at the gym! Moron.

Travels w gym bag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

Yeah, he needs all those condoms to jerk off at the gym! Moron.

Travels w gym bag

I think you'd have to be extremely, extremely naive to believe that the condoms were for himself only. Especially given that he's been caught cheating before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

1. He's cheated before
2. No normal adult male masturbates with a condom (with a tentative pass given to the woman whose husband did it on road trips in college)
3. The hell type of gym is he going to or life is he living that he has to be ready to jerk off at any moment? Come on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, pleeeeeease come back and update after this all goes down!

Op here. His response: "They're old." I'm at my brothers for the weekend devising a plan on all fronts and just getting my head in the game. Thanks to all the pps for their support and ideas on how to proceed. I am taking many of them into consideration.

And in true dcum fashion this thread has disintegrated so I'm stepping away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

Do men really jerk off at the gym?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, pleeeeeease come back and update after this all goes down!

Op here. His response: "They're old." I'm at my brothers for the weekend devising a plan on all fronts and just getting my head in the game. Thanks to all the pps for their support and ideas on how to proceed. I am taking many of them into consideration.

And in true dcum fashion this thread has disintegrated so I'm stepping away.

OP, I am very sorry, and I cannot imagine how you must be feeling right now.

Did you happen to notice the expiration date on the packages? The polyurethane ones DH and I used between me getting off BC and TTC had a shorter shelf life than expected. I can't remember exactly but when we went to use them again after the baby was born, they had expired. Not sure if this is the case for all condoms--I have a latex allergy, so I have only ever used poly.

You actually sound level-headed and rational, despite the fact that I am sure your head is spinning. You will be OK, but I do wish you peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, pleeeeeease come back and update after this all goes down!

Op here. His response: "They're old." I'm at my brothers for the weekend devising a plan on all fronts and just getting my head in the game. Thanks to all the pps for their support and ideas on how to proceed. I am taking many of them into consideration.

And in true dcum fashion this thread has disintegrated so I'm stepping away.

Well, I guess it's no surprise that he didn't admit to anything. Good luck to you, OP. Big hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The guy is whacking off and you've taken this to Defcon 4 with your snooping and the Greek Chorus of hens on dcum. Go enjoy your life and marriage- plenty here would love to see you miserable.

Do men really jerk off at the gym?

i cant speak for gays but straight dudes no way..WTH would u do go into the bath stall and start pulling ? not enough privacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, at least he's smart enough to use protection. My cheating ex didn't, and he ended up giving me three (yes, THREE) different STD's.

OMG so you had 12 STDs???? Awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, at least he's smart enough to use protection. My cheating ex didn't, and he ended up giving me three (yes, THREE) different STD's.

OMG so you had 12 STDs???? Awful.

Typo? Lol, I don't think there are actually that many STDS out there. ..