Public School Teacher's Resentment Toward DS for Going to Private High School?

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Anonymous wrote:Why would a teacher care that your child is going to a school other than the one she teaches in????? Is she his real mommy and you the new stepmom who stole her hubby??

Students come and go all the time. Teachers don't care. They have 100+ others to worry about and perhaps 10+ more transferring in for every child who transfers out. Furthermore, he's not leaving until next year. She doesn't care!!!! She's worried about the new kids coming in.

Trust me on this.

In addition to new incoming kids next year, she has her own family, friends, loved ones, wants, fears, hobbies and dreams. Where her graduating students go to HS is the least of her concerns. That's for the families to worry about.

And regardless the kid wouldn't be in her class next year. Why would she take his decision to go to private so personally? OP really doesn't realize how common all this is. It's new to you, OP. Not the teachers.

[Anonymous]

Why would a public ms teacher care about where your son is going for HS?

I would think that it would be the other way round, that private school teachers would get angry if your child went to a public school, because they would lose revenue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would she care that he's going to a private school? He's in 8th grade and would be going to a different school anyway. If she was so dead set against it she would not have written the letter.

Op I believe you. Have son tone it down and keep his head down. If you work with teachers much or volunteer in the schools much you'd be amazed how much jealousy there is.

Thank you PP. I actually never expected to come across this. But perhaps like others said, it has nothing to do with the private school. It is just that the timing of the problems happened right around the same time. DS is not an aggressive kid. He is actually pretty low key, hard working, and bordering on timid. The only reason I got involved is because while he was doing homework he came to me and told me he didn't understand the new material (which he missed during excused absence) and when I asked him if he tried to get help, he told me she was not available. Most teachers make themselves after school, before school, or during lunch for help. This teacher was not available an any of these times (never after school). For two days he tried to see her before school and during lunch and she sent him away. Heartless? Yes. Resentful? Perhaps.

As for the shirt, hmmm. The kid is proud of his new school. He has a right to wear the shirt. Kids to to bar mitzvahs and wear the shirts the next Monday. Nobody complains about that even though ids feel left out. How is that any different?

OP, you are now beyond ridiculous. For two days this teacher was too busy before school or during her lunch to help your child and you have concluded it is due to a character flaw in her part - she is heartless (!!) - or because she has a personal vendetta against your child. How about this --- how about she is fucking BUSY. How about she has over a hundred other students and five classes to prep for and dozens of parents and students to get back to, and when she has to triage everything in her plate and all of the priorities and all of the things she has to get one, one A student's confusion about one problem that was part of a lesson he missed because he chose to go on an outing to a private school is NOT A PRIORITY. And as a fellow public school parent, I commend this teacher for prioritizing the lessons she has to plan and the struggling students she has to help over your A student who chose to miss school. She is not heartless; she is BUSY and has good judgment.

The works does not revolve around you and your kid. Oh my god.

Thank you for setting this spoiled mom straight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would a public ms teacher care about where your son is going for HS?

I would think that it would be the other way round, that private school teachers would get angry if your child went to a public school, because they would lose revenue.

But even that is not accurate. The teachers are not directly affected, unless huge numbers leave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would a public ms teacher care about where your son is going for HS?

I would think that it would be the other way round, that private school teachers would get angry if your child went to a public school, because they would lose revenue.

But even that is not accurate. The teachers are not directly affected, unless huge numbers leave.

NP here. I agree, but it seems PP was trying to give OP some type of benefit of the doubt. Truth is, NO teacher would care.