DD 16 is involved in a sexual relationship

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who thinks this might be that pervert troll again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 16 year old DD as well. She is a virgin (as far as I know) and has never been allowed to have a boy in her bedroom. We have a very strict curfew for her that she does obey but to the second and not one second earlier. She is not responsible.

She is not a good student and has few interests other then texting her friends and hanging out with her friends.

Honestly, OP, I would rather be in your position with a DD who cares about academic performance and excellence. The sex thing is minor in the big picture of your DD's future.

+1

As a critical thinking parent of a 13 year old girl who lies somewhere in the middle of these two extremes, +1

[Anonymous]

OP, have fun raising your grandbaby!

Accidents happen. I was once a very careless 17 year old with a beyond horny 18 year old boyfriend. We weren't allowed upstairs in my house ever. Good thing his parents both worked during the day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your little girl is grown up. People used to be married at 16.

More than 120 years ago. Wake up. She is still a little girl

Lol no? People got married at 16 all the time in the 50s and still do now occasionally. The people in front of us at the courthouse when we got married were 16.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

And yet, PP, we have here an OP who thought her daughter had a social life, went to ballet, studied and was responsible who is, YES, having sex with her boyfriend. So maybe you actually don't know what your kids are doing.

Something tells me that OP is a wrench or two short of a full tool box...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

And yet, PP, we have here an OP who thought her daughter had a social life, went to ballet, studied and was responsible who is, YES, having sex with her boyfriend. So maybe you actually don't know what your kids are doing.

Something tells me that OP is a wrench or two short of a full tool box...

I wish my kid was top of his class. I wouldn't care if he was having sex or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

And yet, PP, we have here an OP who thought her daughter had a social life, went to ballet, studied and was responsible who is, YES, having sex with her boyfriend. So maybe you actually don't know what your kids are doing.

Something tells me that OP is a wrench or two short of a full tool box...

Okay. You keep telling yourself that. Meanwhile, in the real world, many of us will accept the reality that teenagers have sexual feelings and will most likely act on those feelings if given the opportunity. We will feel weird about it and question if our children are ready or not and we will likely project our own experiences and insecurities onto our kids. I don't think I'm the only person on this thread who would be happy to have a daughter like the daughter described here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks this might be that pervert troll again.

no

that masturbation thread got erased

this one started right up

16 year old both times

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

You have no clue what your child is doing when you aren't with them. No one does.

[Anonymous]

So, is OP the poster in the other thread that thought her DD was masturbating, but others thought she may be sneaking a guy in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

And yet, PP, we have here an OP who thought her daughter had a social life, went to ballet, studied and was responsible who is, YES, having sex with her boyfriend. So maybe you actually don't know what your kids are doing.

Something tells me that OP is a wrench or two short of a full tool box...

Okay. You keep telling yourself that. Meanwhile, in the real world, many of us will accept the reality that teenagers have sexual feelings and will most likely act on those feelings if given the opportunity. We will feel weird about it and question if our children are ready or not and we will likely project our own experiences and insecurities onto our kids. I don't think I'm the only person on this thread who would be happy to have a daughter like the daughter described here.

Bin-go. "If given the opportunity" are the key words here. Any responsbile parent would see that doesn't happen at 16.

[Anonymous]

OP again (and for the last time). I am not a troll - believe me or don't - it doesn't matter. Thank you to those who responded. I am still in shock and need to sort this out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

You have no clue what your child is doing when you aren't with them. No one does.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DD has a small "study" attached to her bedroom and she and her boyfriend study up there (or at least part of the time now). We never disturb her. Her room also has an door to the outside so we don't even know went he comes and goes (Christ, the puns are inevitable!)

DD told me that her doctor tested them both for STDs, even though she was a virgin, and they came back clean.

I know his parents but don't feel comfortable bring up this issue with them - should I? I don't know if they know...

On one hand, I am very proud of the way DD handled this - she told her boyfriend that there would be no fooling around at all before they made the decision to get into a sexual relationship and to go to the doctor. She felt very strongly that, as the female, she didn't want to play the game of the girl being the "goal keeper" and the one responsible for saying no. Apparently he respected this so there was nothing beyond kissing until she had a month on the pill.

On the other hand, my daughter is having sex in her bedroom with her boyfriend!!!! I just cannot get past this and honestly don't know if there is anything I could or should do!!! I wasn't prepared for this and I don't know why I wasn't - denial, I guess.

DD's father passed away when she was seven and I have not told her step-father. She very close to him and he adores her - I don't know how he would take it.

The readers of this thread are the only people who know my daughter is having sex. Regularly. Upstairs.

The readers of this thread and ALL of the boy's friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the "we have rules and morals" parents just don't know their daughters are giving BJ's to boys at parties and church mixers. Keep your head in the sand, Parents, because the shock of what your child is doing outside of your home will kill you.

Actually, I do know that is going on. My child told me and we avoid those "parties" where parents have no rules, let kids "party" in the basement without any supervision. It is crazy to me that girls are giving out blowjobs so easily.

The other kids have social lives, go to movies, have friends over and don't need the drugs, alcohol and sex to have fun.

Your head is in the sand if you thing "all kids are doing it".

And yet, PP, we have here an OP who thought her daughter had a social life, went to ballet, studied and was responsible who is, YES, having sex with her boyfriend. So maybe you actually don't know what your kids are doing.

Something tells me that OP is a wrench or two short of a full tool box...

Okay. You keep telling yourself that. Meanwhile, in the real world, many of us will accept the reality that teenagers have sexual feelings and will most likely act on those feelings if given the opportunity. We will feel weird about it and question if our children are ready or not and we will likely project our own experiences and insecurities onto our kids. I don't think I'm the only person on this thread who would be happy to have a daughter like the daughter described here.

Bin-go. "If given the opportunity" are the key words here. Any responsbile parent would see that doesn't happen at 16.

I had sex for the first time during in the dressing room of our school auditorium during school. How would you have prevented that, PP? Forbidden independent study?!

LOL