I can't do this to my kid anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use this as an opportunity to educate them. Maybe they have just never seen a kid with Downs, Turners, etc syndrome.

"She was just born with an extra (or damaged, whatever the case is) chromosome." and smile

You need to go back and read the whole thread. People get tired of educating your children. My family is my family. It isn't a learning opportunity for you. When we are out in public, going about our business, we deserve the same amount of respect as anyone else. Talk to us if you want to make friends. Leave us alone if don't.

[Anonymous]

Really? You would say, "she was just born with a damaged chromosome" in front of your child? I am thinking that you do not have a child with special needs.

[Anonymous]

My kid has an extra chromosome and I just want to take my kid to the park not explain his existence. Think about it!

[Anonymous]

I don't get why your daughter hangs her head in shame when someone asks why she is different. She is who she is she shouldn't be made to feel ashamed when someone asks about her condition. I agree with PPs who suggested a social worker or someone who can help you deal with this.

It really would not be appropriate to tell a 7 year old to go f@*K themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why your daughter hangs her head in shame when someone asks why she is different. She is who she is she shouldn't be made to feel ashamed when someone asks about her condition. I agree with PPs who suggested a social worker or someone who can help you deal with this.

It really would not be appropriate to tell a 7 year old to go f@*K themselves.

You don't "get" why a special needs child would hang her head in shame???? Special needs children don't need psychotherapy, and neither do their parents, to help them "deal" with the meanness pg community members. It's not a psychological problem. And furthermore, after daily or weekly speech therapy, occupational therapy, physical therapy, music therapy, and hippotherapy, do you think there's time to trot off to a social worker for self-esteem raising sessions. You really are dense, disrespectful, and frankly part of the problem. And you might try reading the thread, actually, before posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why your daughter hangs her head in shame when someone asks why she is different. She is who she is she shouldn't be made to feel ashamed when someone asks about her condition. I agree with PPs who suggested a social worker or someone who can help you deal with this.

It really would not be appropriate to tell a 7 year old to go f@*K themselves.

Mom is not the person who is embarrassing this child. The other snowflake is. "Fu ck off" is crude, but appropriate response. Teach your kid manners or the world will teach them in harsher ways.

[Anonymous]

Find their parents and talk to them. I know that I would want to be told if my child ever did anything like you describe. The s.it would hit the fan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find their parents and talk to them. I know that I would want to be told if my child ever did anything like you describe. The s.it would hit the fan.

+1, but I would augment so you tell the nosy kid to find their parents and tell them to ask them if they can ask the question they just asked you. That will end it then and there.

Again: where are these nosy kids parents?? They need just as much training.

[Anonymous]

It's no one's job to 'teach' or be an example. I don't like to do it as the only anything - woman, person of color you name it. It gets OLD. So yes, you may catch me on an off day and get some hurt feelings, but it's the chance you take when you send your kid out there without appropriate tools. I see it all the time. Parent sees someone with a different visual/physical presentation and they PANIC, they try to literally shield the kid from seeing it to keep them from embarrassing them and saying something stupid. So they keep doing it, and they get out there on their own and act like an ass-hat to an adult. BTW, why do kids think they can do that anyway these days??

Now, those parents that prepare their kids for this and discuss differences consistently, never seem to flinch. I've found those kids, tend to look at that different person and say 'hi'. They don't flinch, they don't mouth off. They have been prepared. I'm betting these are also the parents that recoil about discussing reproductive health and hurl those kids into our society knowing nothing.

[Anonymous]

Should Ethnic minorities or people who wear special clothing for religious reasons be expected to go to therapy because they are sick of rude questions, rude behavior or people staring at them. Of course not! It's the same for someone with a disability.

For our family, the hardest thing about our child's disability is negative or ignorant people not the actual disabilty. That's something uniformed people just don't comprehend.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don't believe my child needs to see a social worker because she hangs her head when children tease her or are mean to her. I think that's a natural reaction to teasing a sensitive child. Do you even have children?

However, if you can point me to a therapist who will work with my nonverbal, non-mobile special needs child, I will happily take her there. By the way, play therapy is out too because she can't manipulate objects on her own. Any more genius suggestions?

[Anonymous]

I hope that shuts them up, OP. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use this as an opportunity to educate them. Maybe they have just never seen a kid with Downs, Turners, etc syndrome.

"She was just born with an extra (or damaged, whatever the case is) chromosome." and smile

You have got to be kidding. Please log off.

[Anonymous]

Yes and then you can tell the kids the extra chromosome is made of magic. Barf.

[Anonymous]

After you tell the kids about the magic chromosome, be sure to lead them in a song and dance number around the pool Julie Andrews-style.