DD is extremely disappointed

[Anonymous]

OP, your DD has the right to be mad at you. Learning experience? Really? How about that for a learning experience - figure out your freakin' budget BEFORE you have your kid do all this hard work/

[Anonymous]

Why so angry everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about not being as to afford private school, unexpectedly or not. It's about OP bring so irresponsible to have gotten into this situation because she couldn't be bothered to do simple. My parents weren't able to afford private for me, and I complety understood. But to pull this irresponsible shit with your kid is just ridiculous.

Give me a break. Now I know why people complain about Gen Xers

So you too would feel hardly any guilt at having made your DD interview, write essays, work hard on her SSAT, only to turn around when she's exulting and say:
"Oops, sorry, we don't have the money after all. Well, good for you anyway."

Says everything we need to know about your character, PP.

That is exactly what I am saying. So what, she is probably going to a W high school anyway. Give me a break. I would be fine with a little disappointment but if my kid threw a fit bacause he/she is not going to private school when I decide it is not financially the greatest choice I would be very embarrased and disappointed in my child... we would have a very long and hard talk.

My kids are told NO all the time.. not because we can't afford it but because they CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT. bfd

You are very pampered and entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One thing kids like is to be tricked. For instance, I was going to take my little nephew to Disney World, but instead I drove him to an old burned-out warehouse. "Oh, no," I said, "Disney World burned down." He cried and cried, but I think that deep down he thought it was a pretty good joke. I started to drive over to the real Disney World, but it was getting pretty late.

I think I love you....

This is from Deep Thoughts by Jack Handy. (SNL)

Not cool to post without attribution, PP.

I disagree. I think it would have been much less funny with the attribution.

Besides, I am the "I think I love you" poster and I knew where it came from anyway.

[Anonymous]

The DD didn't just do some work, not get what she wanted, and then threw a hissy fit. The point is, her parents (the OP) started her dreaming - she started envisioning a different life for herself, she thought a new door was opening, and then her parents slammed it shut. OP should have considered the finances before opening that damn door for the DD. And worse, it sounds as if paying for the private is possible, but maybe just a little too difficult - like, if they pay for private, it means eating in restaurants less often, taking holidays at Ocean City instead of Bermuda, and buying box wine instead of the good stuff. You know what, OP? Those sacrifices would be worth it if you devoted the difference to your DD's education. With your new decision, you've slammed the door on your DD's school dreams, but you'll still get to savor your fancy wine at the end of a long day. Hope there's no bitter aftertaste, though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The DD didn't just do some work, not get what she wanted, and then threw a hissy fit. The point is, her parents (the OP) started her dreaming - she started envisioning a different life for herself, she thought a new door was opening, and then her parents slammed it shut. OP should have considered the finances before opening that damn door for the DD. And worse, it sounds as if paying for the private is possible, but maybe just a little too difficult - like, if they pay for private, it means eating in restaurants less often, taking holidays at Ocean City instead of Bermuda, and buying box wine instead of the good stuff. You know what, OP? Those sacrifices would be worth it if you devoted the difference to your DD's education. With your new decision, you've slammed the door on your DD's school dreams, but you'll still get to savor your fancy wine at the end of a long day. Hope there's no bitter aftertaste, though!

Is this a sarcastic post or a real one? If it is sarcastic, it's good. If this is serious you need therapy. DREAMS of a NEW LIFE. WHAT?

[Anonymous]

^ Exactly. OP's tone has been careless throughout the thread. Seems like they could do it, if they wanted. If they didn't want it, why did they mislead their daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were you expecting aid? I'm unclear why you applied?

We never applied for financial aid. I don't think we would have qualified (i.e. lot of equity, savings stocks etc)

Initially I was looking at other options outside of public school. We thought we could afford it. However, as we starting adding up all our expenses it seems we can do it but we will be very tight financially.

Well, you should have added up your expenses before applying. I don't blame the daughter for being upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about not being as to afford private school, unexpectedly or not. It's about OP bring so irresponsible to have gotten into this situation because she couldn't be bothered to do simple. My parents weren't able to afford private for me, and I complety understood. But to pull this irresponsible shit with your kid is just ridiculous.

Give me a break. Now I know why people complain about Gen Xers

So you too would feel hardly any guilt at having made your DD interview, write essays, work hard on her SSAT, only to turn around when she's exulting and say:
"Oops, sorry, we don't have the money after all. Well, good for you anyway."

Says everything we need to know about your character, PP.

That is exactly what I am saying. So what, she is probably going to a W high school anyway. Give me a break. I would be fine with a little disappointment but if my kid threw a fit bacause he/she is not going to private school when I decide it is not financially the greatest choice I would be very embarrased and disappointed in my child... we would have a very long and hard talk.

My kids are told NO all the time.. not because we can't afford it but because they CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT. bfd

You are very pampered and entitled.

You keep willfully misunderstanding the OP's situation. Her daughter was led to believe she would enter her school of choice if she was accepted, then OP turned the tables on her because she had not checked her finances properly beforehand.

My children are refused many luxuries as well, but when I promise them something, I do my best to follow through, unlike OP. It's called trust.

[Anonymous]

OK well "dreams of a new life" was corny but it's not like the DD is upset that OP promised her new Uggs and then said no. This is school we're talking about! It's where kids spend most of their waking hours, so it's a big fackin' deal for them - and it CAN affect the rest of their lives - what they learn, who inspires them, the friends they make - the combination CAN alter the path her life takes, so yeah, "dreams of a new life" was a bit OTT but it wasn't entirely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

You all place way too much importance on private school.

[Anonymous]

OP here,


I never promised my daughter a private school education. I made it very clear to her that it was just going to be another option. I also told her that public school was still on the table and once we get decisions in for the privates, we will take a look at all options and then decide. I asked her if she was willing to go through the process and she agreed to do so.

Many of you make it seem like I was not being upfront about it. I was! She got her hopes up despite my being up front about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about not being as to afford private school, unexpectedly or not. It's about OP bring so irresponsible to have gotten into this situation because she couldn't be bothered to do simple. My parents weren't able to afford private for me, and I complety understood. But to pull this irresponsible shit with your kid is just ridiculous.

Give me a break. Now I know why people complain about Gen Xers

So you too would feel hardly any guilt at having made your DD interview, write essays, work hard on her SSAT, only to turn around when she's exulting and say:
"Oops, sorry, we don't have the money after all. Well, good for you anyway."

Says everything we need to know about your character, PP.

That is exactly what I am saying. So what, she is probably going to a W high school anyway. Give me a break. I would be fine with a little disappointment but if my kid threw a fit bacause he/she is not going to private school when I decide it is not financially the greatest choice I would be very embarrased and disappointed in my child... we would have a very long and hard talk.

My kids are told NO all the time.. not because we can't afford it but because they CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT. bfd

You are very pampered and entitled.

You keep willfully misunderstanding the OP's situation. Her daughter was led to believe she would enter her school of choice if she was accepted, then OP turned the tables on her because she had not checked her finances properly beforehand.

My children are refused many luxuries as well, but when I promise them something, I do my best to follow through, unlike OP. It's called trust.

You are willfully misunderstanding the difference between a want and a need. It's not like the mom promised to get away from an abusive husband and did not, she is sending her to a W school instead of private school.

[Anonymous]

I wonder what everyone's reaction to this would have been if this was posted in the public school forum.

Not going to a private school is not the end of the world people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK well "dreams of a new life" was corny but it's not like the DD is upset that OP promised her new Uggs and then said no. This is school we're talking about! It's where kids spend most of their waking hours, so it's a big fackin' deal for them - and it CAN affect the rest of their lives - what they learn, who inspires them, the friends they make - the combination CAN alter the path her life takes, so yeah, "dreams of a new life" was a bit OTT but it wasn't entirely ridiculous.

It could ALTER IT in a positive way too.