Older Moms with Babies-Why?

[Anonymous]

OP - You are not exactly young, so I am surprised you are so curious about why women wait to have children. You did it yourself! Now, if you had children at 20, that would be young.

I had my first baby at 37. I got married late, wasn't sure I wanted kids, then had multiple miscarriages. I think 37 is sort of old, but hopefully I don't look like my son's grandma. I'm pretty sure I don't. In fact, I may actually look younger than you since I am in pretty good shape.

[Anonymous]

Some of the young moms on here sound incredibly paranoid and insecure. I hardly think that older women at the park are glaring at you or even notice your age.

Like the PP, I'm 38 but probably in better shape than most of you. I run 30 miles a week and am within 5 lbs of the weight I was the day of my wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the young moms on here sound incredibly paranoid and insecure. I hardly think that older women at the park are glaring at you or even notice your age.

Like the PP, I'm 38 but probably in better shape than most of you. I run 30 miles a week and am within 5 lbs of the weight I was the day of my wedding.

wow... talking about arrogant.

I am 28, look more like 22 or 23, so they do notice my age. And guess what, like you, I am in very good shape, that means I must look better than you, right? Sorry, but all this talk about older women in shape is just odd to me. What does that have to do with anything? It doesn't change the fact that you are a mother in your late thirties. And there is nothing wrong with that. But what I find offensive is to call us younger moms paranoid and insecure, implying that that must be because of our age. I also don't like all this talk about better or worse moms, because I think that our qualities as mothers are not necessarily related to our age. I bet that regardless of our age we ALL faced insecurities and challenges with the adjustment of having a newborn. I don't care if you are a successful lawyer or doctor, having a child is an adjustment either way and age is not really all that relevant.

Unlike the OP it would never occur to me to assume that a mom in her 40s is the grandmother. But many older moms assume that I must be my kids' nanny. Because hey, I am young and hanging out at the same park, so I cannot possibly be "one of them" I am not paranoid, trust me

[Anonymous]

I am not paranoid, trust me

Um okay, your post doesn't sound paranoid at all.

And I think you totally missed the point, some of the older women are talking about their appearance in response to being compared to a grandma. Why the heck are you telling us about your appearance unless you are indeed paranoid and insecure?

[Anonymous]

you didn't get the joke. I was referring to all these comments about "being in better shape than others" . My mother is a grandmother in her early fifties. She is in good shape. But she is still a grandmother. So? Being in shape does not exclude the possibility of being a grandmother. But admittedly, I didn't get that all the good shapers were referring to the grandmother comment. (because it seems somewhat paranoid to me to get hung up on such a nonsense comment that was meant to do nothing but to provoke. OP was quite successful with that, I guess.)

And that rolling eye thing is annoying. Seems rather defensive to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you didn't get the joke. I was referring to all these comments about "being in better shape than others" . My mother is a grandmother in her early fifties. She is in good shape. But she is still a grandmother. So? Being in shape does not exclude the possibility of being a grandmother. But admittedly, I didn't get that all the good shapers were referring to the grandmother comment. (because it seems somewhat paranoid to me to get hung up on such a nonsense comment that was meant to do nothing but to provoke. OP was quite successful with that, I guess.)

And that rolling eye thing is annoying. Seems rather defensive to me

I think it is more paranoid to assume that people at the park don't like you than to reply to a poster who called older moms grandmas saying that you don't think you look like a grandma.

I'm beginning to think you are the OP. I've noticed a similar tone in a lot of these messages. And your mother is in her 50s. Hmmm.

[Anonymous]

I am not the OP.

I never said anything about "not liking me" , that's such a childish interpretation of my observations. I get questions such as"Are the parents mixed" "Are you the new nanny" etc. that's what throws me off. I also don't get excluded in parental conversations, because of the faulty assumptions some of the older moms make.

I am the PP who said that she could care less how old someone is when having a child. Maybe I should rethink that comment looking at your rather spiteful reactions to my posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you didn't get the joke. I was referring to all these comments about "being in better shape than others" . My mother is a grandmother in her early fifties. She is in good shape. But she is still a grandmother. So? Being in shape does not exclude the possibility of being a grandmother. But admittedly, I didn't get that all the good shapers were referring to the grandmother comment. (because it seems somewhat paranoid to me to get hung up on such a nonsense comment that was meant to do nothing but to provoke. OP was quite successful with that, I guess.)

And that rolling eye thing is annoying. Seems rather defensive to me

Why don't any of this poster's comments make any sense to me? I feel like I need sub-titles or something... And aren't you the one who used emoticons throughout your post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not the OP.

I never said anything about "not liking me" , that's such a childish interpretation of my observations. I get questions such as"Are the parents mixed" "Are you the new nanny" etc. that's what throws me off. I also don't get excluded in parental conversations, because of the faulty assumptions some of the older moms make.

I am the PP who said that she could care less how old someone is when having a child. Maybe I should rethink that comment looking at your rather spiteful reactions to my posts.

Why don't you read back some of your own posts. You don't think your posts sound incredibly childish, spiteful and defensive? Funny how you are so quick to name call when it is others but you aren't very insightful when it comes to yourself. Must be your age

[Anonymous]

*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not the OP.

I never said anything about "not liking me" , that's such a childish interpretation of my observations. I get questions such as"Are the parents mixed" "Are you the new nanny" etc. that's what throws me off. I also don't get excluded in parental conversations, because of the faulty assumptions some of the older moms make.

I am the PP who said that she could care less how old someone is when having a child. Maybe I should rethink that comment looking at your rather spiteful reactions to my posts.

Why don't you read back some of your own posts. You don't think your posts sound incredibly childish, spiteful and defensive? Funny how you are so quick to name call when it is others but you aren't very insightful when it comes to yourself. Must be your age

good lord. Now you kids are getting pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

Confirmed what, that you are incredibly quick to judge others but completely clueless about yourself and how you come across to others?

Case in point, you use annoying emoticons but call someone out as "annoying" for using one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

I'm just an observer in this discourse you're having with the older mom, but do you think the other/older moms already know each other and have established ties? Also, depending on where you live, DC is not the most relaxed or friendliest of places.