Older Moms with Babies-Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

I'm the 16:08 poster above. So you're saying that you go out of your way to talk to people at the park and that the Moms who look older to you straight out ignore you? Really? This has never been my experience. Maybe it's a weird park. Maybe those particular people are weird. Maybe the few times this happened someone was having a bad day. I dunno. But what I do know is there's no reason to get your shorts all in a bunch about "older moms" based on a few limited experiences. Why do you need to be friends with every other Mom at the park? I smile and respond if someone says something to me but generally I'm there to play with and have fun with my kid. Not the other adults.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think that is actually part of it, and I took that into consideration. And our location certainly plays part in it as well, because we're a minority here. Not that many young parents at all.

It's these comments that I mentioned before that bother me a little. I don't assume that an older mom is not the child's mom, so don't assume that because I am young, I cannot be these children's mother. Or someone who might actually be knowledgable about children as well. And have the same worries as everyone. .

Thank you for this post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

I'm the 16:08 poster above. So you're saying that you go out of your way to talk to people at the park and that the Moms who look older to you straight out ignore you? Really? This has never been my experience. Maybe it's a weird park. Maybe those particular people are weird. Maybe the few times this happened someone was having a bad day. I dunno. But what I do know is there's no reason to get your shorts all in a bunch about "older moms" based on a few limited experiences. Why do you need to be friends with every other Mom at the park? I smile and respond if someone says something to me but generally I'm there to play with and have fun with my kid. Not the other adults.

I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I think that is actually part of it, and I took that into consideration. And our location certainly plays part in it as well, because we're a minority here. Not that many young parents at all.

It's these comments that I mentioned before that bother me a little. I don't assume that an older mom is not the child's mom, so don't assume that because I am young, I cannot be these children's mother. Or someone who might actually be knowledgable about children as well. And have the same worries as everyone. .

Thank you for this post!

I think there are plenty of moms around your age - it's not like you're 20! And in any case, why do your friends have to be the same age as you are? People assume all sorts of crap - as evidenced by OP's post - it's just part of being a human on this planet to endure random and bizarre comments from strangers I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

I'm the 16:08 poster above. So you're saying that you go out of your way to talk to people at the park and that the Moms who look older to you straight out ignore you? Really? This has never been my experience. Maybe it's a weird park. Maybe those particular people are weird. Maybe the few times this happened someone was having a bad day. I dunno. But what I do know is there's no reason to get your shorts all in a bunch about "older moms" based on a few limited experiences. Why do you need to be friends with every other Mom at the park? I smile and respond if someone says something to me but generally I'm there to play with and have fun with my kid. Not the other adults.

I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

So just trying to understand...you have looked at one of these women and said, I don't know, "how about this weather we're having?" And she completely ignores you? I am finding this really odd.

[Anonymous]

again, I am not looking for friends, rather friendly exchanges.

and my friends age range is between 25-53, the majority being older than me actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.


I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

Do you initiate a greeting? So are they curt to you? Which playground is this? I keep picturing a playground in Georgetown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

I'm the 16:08 poster above. So you're saying that you go out of your way to talk to people at the park and that the Moms who look older to you straight out ignore you? Really? This has never been my experience. Maybe it's a weird park. Maybe those particular people are weird. Maybe the few times this happened someone was having a bad day. I dunno. But what I do know is there's no reason to get your shorts all in a bunch about "older moms" based on a few limited experiences. Why do you need to be friends with every other Mom at the park? I smile and respond if someone says something to me but generally I'm there to play with and have fun with my kid. Not the other adults.

I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

So just trying to understand...you have looked at one of these women and said, I don't know, "how about this weather we're having?" And she completely ignores you? I am finding this really odd.

Yes, it actually goes down that line. I would walk by and say hi and look at the person and not get a response, which I find rather odd as well. Or I would get a very short response to a question after having been in the same spot with the mom for a while.

Maybe I am just not pleasant to be around, who knows

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.


I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

Do you initiate a greeting? So are they curt to you? Which playground is this? I keep picturing a playground in Georgetown.

you're close And see the posting above. I'd rather not mention the name of the playground, let's just say it is a very similar area in Washington D.C.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* I give up. I'll let you older moms play by yourselves again.

But you just confirmed what I observed on the playground.

I'm not the poster with whom you are exchanging barbs, but good grief - I don't think you should wonder why other Moms might not want to be your BFF. And as a younger Mom myself, I can tell you with certainty it's not because of your age. Let it go. Be happy.

so then why is it. Why don't you tell me why the OLDER moms don't just talk to me like anyone else? It's never the young moms, I have plenty of young mom friends as well as older mom friends (whom I did not meet at the park)

I never said anything offensive in my posts. And yes, right now I am being defensive. I had good intentions. Maybe I was misunderstood from the get-go.

I'm the 16:08 poster above. So you're saying that you go out of your way to talk to people at the park and that the Moms who look older to you straight out ignore you? Really? This has never been my experience. Maybe it's a weird park. Maybe those particular people are weird. Maybe the few times this happened someone was having a bad day. I dunno. But what I do know is there's no reason to get your shorts all in a bunch about "older moms" based on a few limited experiences. Why do you need to be friends with every other Mom at the park? I smile and respond if someone says something to me but generally I'm there to play with and have fun with my kid. Not the other adults.

I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

So just trying to understand...you have looked at one of these women and said, I don't know, "how about this weather we're having?" And she completely ignores you? I am finding this really odd.

Yes, it actually goes down that line. I would walk by and say hi and look at the person and not get a response, which I find rather odd as well. Or I would get a very short response to a question after having been in the same spot with the mom for a while.

Maybe I am just not pleasant to be around, who knows

What I don't get is why when someone says or doesn't say something - you attribute it to her age. Or even notice age enough to start forming this group in your mind. If someone doesn't respond to me when I say hi, I would never assume that it's because, say, they have red hair and don't like me because I have brown hair. Why can't it just be that person...or even those 10 people?! And if you can really accurately guess people's age so well I think they have some openings a the county fair next month...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I did not bunch in all the older moms at all, I specified that in my previous posts, I was talking about a specific playground and SOME older moms at that specific playground. I am also not looking for friends, but hey a little smalltalk maybe? Since our kids are playing right next to each other?

Do you initiate a greeting? So are they curt to you? Which playground is this? I keep picturing a playground in Georgetown.

you're close And see the posting above. I'd rather not mention the name of the playground, let's just say it is a very similar area in Washington D.C.

Well, hot-damn! That clears it. It's not just older mothers. IMHO, it's also affluence that comes into play. You know, entitlement, they feel special. Given the demographics of that area, you probably stick out like a sore thumb as a younger mother.

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of confused by this too. I talk to whoever is next to me at the park and I can't say I've ever noticed someone's age. The only time I don't talk to someone is if I get the impression they don't want to talk or honestly - if their kid is hell on wheels and the parent does nothing to stop the behavior. That is a major turnoff to me. Not saying this is the case with you, just saying those would be the only two reasons I wouldn't talk to someone.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know how you feel. I have posted threads before, innocent questions, maybe not worded the best way, and then I get slandered and have to defend myself on the actual point I was trying to get across, when I was never trying to flame anyone in the first place.

Anyway, my 2 cents. I look alot younger than I am (even my sister still gets carded and she is 30). The older moms at the playground never talk to me either (but strangely the grandmothers do), even when I smile at them and their kids. But I don't take offense, they could just be busy, not into starting a conversation at the moment, or maybe they think I'm a teen mom and feel weirded out. But to answer the initial question, I think women are having their babies at an older age now because women have so many options than they did 50 yrs ago. Many women want a career, travel, the right man before they have kids...which I think is smart. Now teen moms....I'd ask them WHY? before I ask the older mom.

[Anonymous]

Are too!
Am not!
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Are too -- MOM!!!

[Anonymous]

Love it!