Missing brother's wedding... Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here... Thank you PP, I really needed to hear that. I know the forgiveness is for me, not my brother or mother. But I just don't know how to get there

OP, "Dare to Forgive" by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., maybe your library has a copy. Excellent book and a big help. If we don't forgive then we give squatter's rights to our hearts and souls to the people who have hurt us. Again, this doesn't mean we have to become their doormat and it doesn't mean you have to let them into our lives. Forgive him because it is a gift to you but, personally, I would not let him back into my life. We don't get to choose our family members but when they are abusive, once you are grown, you have every right to keep them out of your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send a gift and your regrets. Maybe you should tell your mom that the "tragedy" is that she stood by while your brother beat the crap out of you every day.

This poster is right.