Postcard as a wedding thank-you -- is this the new norm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

Boomers were never tacky and asking for meal payments or cash for trips.

[Anonymous]

All the cool young kids who think it’s old fashioned to be expected to write thank you notes- you have no idea how grasping and greedy you all look, planning your destination weddings and asking for money (!) for things like houses and honeymoons. If you don’t want to write a thank you note, don’t expect people to fork out for your wedding!

[Anonymous]

Posted earlier, and just came across a wedding gift thank you.

It was a photo of the couple with their names and “thank you” printed on the back. Post card style but mailed in an envelope.

Short, sloppy, sweet, handwritten note on back. Acknowledged the gift but also an appreciation for a memory of his younger self shared at the event.


It made me smile. Don’t need a fold-over engraved card. Always nice to know someone received your gift when mailed separately.

[Anonymous]

i hate getting thank you notes - it is useless of course they got your gift. i send them as a necessary chore but really find getting them boring and stupid unless there is something interesting they want to tell me about how they used the gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

The idea is that you would want to send a nice gift to the couple because you know them and wish them a happy future togethe, whether or not you're able to attend their wedding.

[Anonymous]

Ticky tacky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

The idea is that you would want to send a nice gift to the couple because you know them and wish them a happy future togethe, whether or not you're able to attend their wedding.

PP. meh. If it’s not actually about money to them, then they’ll be delighted when I send regrets along -with- a handwritten 3-line note that is heart felt. And no gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

The idea is that you would want to send a nice gift to the couple because you know them and wish them a happy future togethe, whether or not you're able to attend their wedding.

PP. meh. If it’s not actually about money to them, then they’ll be delighted when I send regrets along -with- a handwritten 3-line note that is heart felt. And no gift.

Scrooge, quit making excuses for your cold, stingy ways.

[Anonymous]

All I care about is making sure the gift was received. So any sort of acknowledgement is fine. They can text me a thank you for all I care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

The idea is that you would want to send a nice gift to the couple because you know them and wish them a happy future togethe, whether or not you're able to attend their wedding.

The idea is that the couple invited people in their family/community/circle, so it shouldn’t be a chore to send them a note thanking them for attending and for any gift, rather than just inviting extra people just to get a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

Boomers were never tacky and asking for meal payments or cash for trips.

They sure were tacky enough to register for useless china knickknacks and silver candlesticks, and ARE tacky enough to try to foist them off on younger people at every turn. No, Linda, we don’t want your hideous gravy boat. Stop with the guilt trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was raised that the polite thing to do is write a personalized thank you note so I did that. I was fortunate though, I was between jobs, so while I was overwhelmed with moving and other things, I could make the time. If I was working full time, and managing a bunch of other things, I would have to cut corners and at least it includes a thank you.

I have gotten over pearl clutching these days. I try to do what i think is the right thing and have grace when I think others don't. I remind myself that i don't know what they have going on and I'd rather not add to anyone's stress. I also have better boundaries about just declining that family destination wedding for someone I am not close to, etc.

But here is the thing. If a bride and a groom are willing to receive a gift, then they should be able to properly thank the gift giver. It has nothing to do with whether you are working or not working or busy or not. If your arms are open to receiving gifts, then they should be open to writing a thank you note. It really is that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

+1
Well said!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

Cool. Then I hope the tradition of giving expensive wedding gifts ends as well.

This! I will add that another tradition that needs to die is the expectation that I will send a couple an expensive gift although I am not able to attend the wedding. Or that I need to spend a certain amount to cover the cost of my plate if I do attend your wedding.

Such fussy old traditions I’m sure the under-30 set won’t mi$$ the$e “boomer” tradition$

- genX

The idea is that you would want to send a nice gift to the couple because you know them and wish them a happy future togethe, whether or not you're able to attend their wedding.

The idea is that the couple invited people in their family/community/circle, so it shouldn’t be a chore to send them a note thanking them for attending and for any gift, rather than just inviting extra people just to get a gift.

PP here. I agree with you about thank you notes.