Postcard as a wedding thank-you -- is this the new norm?

[Anonymous]

Would have been more interesting if it was a handwritten postcard from their honeymoon destination

[Anonymous]

This wouldn't bother me at all. At all.

[Anonymous]

I would be happy I received any kind of thank you. The lady several weddings we haven’t had our gifts acknowledged, even from family members.

I find it rude when people can’t be bothered to acknowledge gifts, often generous. So a post card would be welcome and it sounds like these even had a few handwritten lines.

[Anonymous]

I am Team Thank You Note every time, OP. It’s lazy and rude not to express gratitude after someone comes to your wedding!

An even better card would have included a photo of the guest + the bride/groom. Or of their table. Would have required more work, sure..

[Anonymous]

Not sure it's a trend, but I would be offended. I hope you didn't give an expensive gift. I guess it's better than no thank you note at all though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would have been more interesting if it was a handwritten postcard from their honeymoon destination

Oh yes, they should have taken time away from there honeymoon for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am Team Thank You Note every time, OP. It’s lazy and rude not to express gratitude after someone comes to your wedding!

An even better card would have included a photo of the guest + the bride/groom. Or of their table. Would have required more work, sure..

I think it would have been better for a picture of the bride, groom and guest to be hand-painted and delivered by doves and angels singing. Would have required more work, sure…

[Anonymous]

It’s just going in the trash anyway, so who cares. It’s a thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure it's a trend, but I would be offended. I hope you didn't give an expensive gift. I guess it's better than no thank you note at all though.

Why?

[Anonymous]

I didn't even receive a thank you card from the last two weddings I attended.

[Anonymous]

And what did you do with it? You put it directly into the trash, right? It was not ever going to be a treasured piece of correspondence. I think this shows a completely reasonable level of effort from the couple.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you OP, it's terrible.

I will let my daughters know that I will not pay for any aspect of their weddings unless they assure me they will send handwritten notes.

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm in the minority here, but I think that's a really cute idea! They had a hand written line about your specific gift, such is sufficient to show appreciation IMO. The custom postcard is a nice personalized touch. If I care enough about the couple to attend the wedding, I appreciate a good photo of them.

I also love photo holiday cards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP, it's terrible.

I will let my daughters know that I will not pay for any aspect of their weddings unless they assure me they will send handwritten notes.

Hope they elope and don't invite you.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're being ridiculous. You got your thank you card plus a lovely meal at their wedding. What the hell else do you expect?