Postcard as a wedding thank-you -- is this the new norm?

[Anonymous]

I like the postcard thank yous, mostly because I like pictures. But yeah the preprinted lines are tacky.

[Anonymous]

Well, my grandmother got married in the late 1940s and sent a cardstock with a photo of the couple and pre-printed lines thanking them for their attendance and gift (not specified). It was put inside an envelope and mailed, though, so not technically a postcard.

[Anonymous]

I have yet to receive a thank you card for a wedding gift sent a year ago. Wedding was in October. Bride and groom are 23.

Are thank you notes not considered required by this new generation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds lovely. They didn’t just thank you for “the kind gift,” they were specific about the coffee maker.

Just stop.

Your gift was acknowledged; you know it was received; you were thanked.

Stop, Gladys.

This.

[Anonymous]

Postcard is fine, the preprinted text makes me cringe a little, but the handwritten part makes it better.

Sadly, it's a lot better than what we usually get - which is no thank you note or one that is entirely preprinted.

I know it makes me a grumpy old lady, but if brides and grooms are going to embrace traditional wedding customs like a registry and gifts, they need to follow up on their traditional obligations of sending thank you notes.

I hate writing thank you notes - which is one of the reasons I didn't want any gifts or money when we got married (and we didn't need any help setting up a household). But we sent handwritten notes to the people who did give us gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended a wedding recently and just received a postcard thank-you for the wedding gift. I had no idea this was a thing! On one side, it had a photo of the couple. On the other side, there were a few pre-printed lines about how lucky the couple is, and then just two short handwritten lines thanking me specifically for my gift, and in the most generic way possible (basically: thank you for the X, we really appreciate it). There were exactly sixteen handwritten words in the whole thing.

Honestly, my middle schooler could have written a more personalized and appreciative thank you: We plan to use your generous gift to do X, we hope to see you at X so we can catch up and tell you about the honeymoon, etc.

Has anyone else felt annoyed by this apparent wedding trend, or am I just being grumpy?

Stop attending weddings . Win-win.

[Anonymous]

I think it's tacky and I'm a millennial but I don't see this frequently enough for it to be my hill to die on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pre-printed lines do sound lazy.

+1. Yuk

[Anonymous]

OP, I give them points for at least making sure you know they received the correct gift.

But yeah, I would prefer my own kids focus a little less on the image and a little more on gratitude toward the people who show up for you.

[Anonymous]

You received a thank you note in the mail? Impressive.

[Anonymous]

Sounds kinda lazy. When I read your subject, I thought the couple had spent part of their honeymoon trip, sending individualized postcards from their location. That sounded cute to me! But this pre-printed nonsense on a postcard sounds cheap and lazy.

[Anonymous]

I love that this stuff bothers you old biddies.

1) It was a thank you card
2) It DID have handwriting on it
3) The specific gift WAS acknowledged.
4) It was just a bit untraditional.

Stay mad, crones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The pre-printed lines do sound lazy.

+1. Yuk

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

When you give your gift, request the thank you that you want.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's your circle