past sexual history and financial status

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Anonymous wrote:Finances yes, sexual history, no.

Look, no matter what, somebody’s feelings will get hurt if you disclose sexual history. Somebody had a threesome, or slept with a gorgeous celebrity, or paid a sex worker, or did something that will make the other person insecure.

It is fully possible to have a wild sexual experience and then go on to have a very happy, monogamous relationship. But there’s zero need to introduce any doubt by bringing up sex that may make the other person uneasy.

So it is ok not to disclose to your potential husband that you slept with the entire UVA football team because you don’t want to make him feel insecure?

Seriously?

So, did you tell your wife that you were a man whore?



I don’t know anybody who slept with an entire football team. Did you? How was it?

I knew about twenty women you got passed around by the UVA football team. I also participated in those activities because I was one of those players. Ten years after graduating from UVA, I ran into one of those women in my Vienna neighborhood. Her husband knew nothing about her past, and still doesn’t know. She knows who I am, and avoids me as much as she can.

As a man, why do you think you “deserve” a woman with low body count? As a minimum you won’t be a good match for her because of different approach to sexuality

Do you disclose your college group sex activities to women you date ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women love to try and shame men for not wanting to marry a skank - "stop being so insecure!" - but it's never going to work, sorry.

You'll never stop being insecure? Quite clear.

Men are never going to stop not wanting to marry skanks. Clear yet?

You probably were turned down by many "popular" attractive women who get attention from several men and can choose.

lol I keep hearing that women have “empathy” and yet they are completely unable to understand how men think or feel.

Sweetie… every man has been turned down by numerous attractive women. That’s fundamental to the male experience.

Yet it is important to understand that an attractive woman who has her pick of men isn’t necessarily going to sleep with a bazillion men.

What gives you the ick? Whatever it is, let’s say a guy with that characteristic tries to browbeat and shame you into dating him anyway. Does that work? No, probably not. Ok, that said, women who sleep with a bazillion men give me the ick when it comes to commitment and marriage. Do you get it yet?

DP here, but I get this. I don’t understand why women are fighting you on it.
If you are a woman who likes to have sex, you should marry a man who likes that about you. There are plenty of them out there.
It’s ridiculous to hide this fact about yourself and go on to spend your life with a man who thinks that a woman who enjoys sex is shameful. You will be miserable together.

No man would disclose to a woman he’s serious about he was a wh..re in college. Yes, I would prefer to know and avoid men like that.
But not because of his frat sex. It’s because he has different standards to himself and to a woman he would consider “worthy” marriage with him.

Whereby HE deserves and should in fact marry a wh…re plain and simple

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women love to try and shame men for not wanting to marry a skank - "stop being so insecure!" - but it's never going to work, sorry.

You'll never stop being insecure? Quite clear.

Men are never going to stop not wanting to marry skanks. Clear yet?

You probably were turned down by many "popular" attractive women who get attention from several men and can choose.

lol I keep hearing that women have “empathy” and yet they are completely unable to understand how men think or feel.

Sweetie… every man has been turned down by numerous attractive women. That’s fundamental to the male experience.

Yet it is important to understand that an attractive woman who has her pick of men isn’t necessarily going to sleep with a bazillion men.

What gives you the ick? Whatever it is, let’s say a guy with that characteristic tries to browbeat and shame you into dating him anyway. Does that work? No, probably not. Ok, that said, women who sleep with a bazillion men give me the ick when it comes to commitment and marriage. Do you get it yet?

DP here, but I get this. I don’t understand why women are fighting you on it.
If you are a woman who likes to have sex, you should marry a man who likes that about you. There are plenty of them out there.
It’s ridiculous to hide this fact about yourself and go on to spend your life with a man who thinks that a woman who enjoys sex is shameful. You will be miserable together.

It’s because he has different standards to himself and to a woman he would consider “worthy” marriage with him.

Fair. Dude is a trainwreck. But being upfront about sexual history is the best way to smoke out the misogynists.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women love to try and shame men for not wanting to marry a skank - "stop being so insecure!" - but it's never going to work, sorry.

You'll never stop being insecure? Quite clear.

Men are never going to stop not wanting to marry skanks. Clear yet?

You probably were turned down by many "popular" attractive women who get attention from several men and can choose.

lol I keep hearing that women have “empathy” and yet they are completely unable to understand how men think or feel.

Sweetie… every man has been turned down by numerous attractive women. That’s fundamental to the male experience.

Yet it is important to understand that an attractive woman who has her pick of men isn’t necessarily going to sleep with a bazillion men.

What gives you the ick? Whatever it is, let’s say a guy with that characteristic tries to browbeat and shame you into dating him anyway. Does that work? No, probably not. Ok, that said, women who sleep with a bazillion men give me the ick when it comes to commitment and marriage. Do you get it yet?

DP here, but I get this. I don’t understand why women are fighting you on it.
If you are a woman who likes to have sex, you should marry a man who likes that about you. There are plenty of them out there.
It’s ridiculous to hide this fact about yourself and go on to spend your life with a man who thinks that a woman who enjoys sex is shameful. You will be miserable together.

It’s because he has different standards to himself and to a woman he would consider “worthy” marriage with him.

Fair. Dude is a trainwreck. But being upfront about sexual history is the best way to smoke out the misogynists.

Yes. I absolutely tell everyone I date I slept with 5 men in 2025; 0 in 2024; 2 in 2023 and 2 in 2003-2022. Because I don’t think it’s anything abnormal for a woman who is looking for her sexual match after a no very well match in marriage, among other things

[Anonymous]

I dont want DW to ever confess to her number. I would probably get a heart attack!

She is so good at a particular act, that she must have done it a few thousand times and probably with more than a dozen men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont want DW to ever confess to her number. I would probably get a heart attack!

She is so good at a particular act, that she must have done it a few thousand times and probably with more than a dozen men.

The number of acts could be with one person. I’m also good with a deep downtown action , a porn star level good. My exH loved it, did it several thousand times
I had partners ask post divorce how I know these acts. Guess their ex wives didn’t sleep with them

[Anonymous]

Only to the extent that they are relevant to the current relationship - things that still exist in the present, past things that can affect the present or things likely to come up in the future. Obviously, more of financial things fall under those three.

[Anonymous]

quote]DP here, but I get this. I don’t understand why women are fighting you on it.
If you are a woman who likes to have sex, you should marry a man who likes that about you. There are plenty of them out there.
It’s ridiculous to hide this fact about yourself and go on to spend your life with a man who thinks that a woman who enjoys sex is shameful. You will be miserable together.

The issue is that a woman with a low body count may love sex. Typically, this type of woman enjoys it in the context of a long-term relationship. And, it's far from given that a woman has a high body count simply because she enjoys sex. The idea that "I enjoy sex" does not mean that "I need a high body count to do so".

Many women love and enjoy sex, and have done so with two or three long-term partners before getting married. Often, these women would have actually had more sex with a steady, long-term partner (and learned more about what they enjoy) than another woman who had 10 short-term partners during the same period.

Many women who claim their total number of partners "doesn't matter" are actually triggered by the thought of being judged by that number. Admit it, let's move on.

If you find a man who does not want a woman because she has had a material number of previous partners, move on. The great thing about dating is that everyone can look for someone who meets their needs and accepts them for who they are.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care if men kept themselves chaste and wanted an equally chaste woman.

The issue is that they both expect you to put out on the first date for them but never for anyone else.

The issue is they spread misinformation based on birds about previous DNA being held onto by womens' bodies.

The issue is they think a womans vagina "remembers" the various penises inside.

The issue is they think a womans vagina gets loose after too many partners.

The issue is they watch too much porn and think that's how life and sexual relationships are.

If the men who cared about a womans sex life weren't so completely insolent, ignorant and f***ing dumb I might actually care.

But they are who they are, and it's best to discard them from the potential pile and not even give them the time of day. It's not worth it.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never discussed my sexual history with my husband even though it was very limited and I’ve never asked him about his. He knows I had boyfriends after college and he knew one of them so I’m sure he knows I had sex with them. But, there are a few sex acts that I did with my husband for the first time and he knew it so I’m pretty sure he figured out that my history was very limited.

In terms of our financial status we were very open about it and there were no big surprises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:quote]DP here, but I get this. I don’t understand why women are fighting you on it.
If you are a woman who likes to have sex, you should marry a man who likes that about you. There are plenty of them out there.
It’s ridiculous to hide this fact about yourself and go on to spend your life with a man who thinks that a woman who enjoys sex is shameful. You will be miserable together.

The issue is that a woman with a low body count may love sex. Typically, this type of woman enjoys it in the context of a long-term relationship. And, it's far from given that a woman has a high body count simply because she enjoys sex. The idea that "I enjoy sex" does not mean that "I need a high body count to do so".

Many women love and enjoy sex, and have done so with two or three long-term partners before getting married. Often, these women would have actually had more sex with a steady, long-term partner (and learned more about what they enjoy) than another woman who had 10 short-term partners during the same period.

Many women who claim their total number of partners "doesn't matter" are actually triggered by the thought of being judged by that number. Admit it, let's move on.

If you find a man who does not want a woman because she has had a material number of previous partners, move on. The great thing about dating is that everyone can look for someone who meets their needs and accepts them for who they are.

The issue is that modern dating implies dating different people until exclusivity. Almost no man is dating exclusively. So yes, it’s completely unreasonable to expect that a woman would be able to jump straight into LTRs without any shorter term attempts at relationships before. No matter how much she enjoys committed sex.its just unrealistic to expect that a woman would delay sex or anyone would stay with her without sex before marriage/moving in.

I enjoy committed sex but had several 3-6 months relationships in between long term mega relationships, because I realized the men were just not the right for for me so I kept searching. Or the man met somone else which also happens.
None of these shorter relationships started from a one night stand - usually it was a full month before I slept with a man.

[Anonymous]

The issue is that modern dating implies dating different people until exclusivity. No man is dating exclusively. So yes, it’s completely unreasonable to expect that a woman would be able to jump straight into LTRs without any shorter term attempts at relationships before. No matter how much she enjoys committed sex.its just unrealistic to expect that a woman would delay sex or anyone would stay with her without sex before marriage/moving in.

I enjoy committed sex but had several 3-6 months relationships in between long term mega relationships, because I realized the men were just not the right for for me so I kept searching. Or the man met somone else which also happens.
None of these shorter relationships started from a one night stand - usually it was a full month before I slept with a man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:quote]DP here, but I get this. I don’t understand why women are fighting you on it.
If you are a woman who likes to have sex, you should marry a man who likes that about you. There are plenty of them out there.
It’s ridiculous to hide this fact about yourself and go on to spend your life with a man who thinks that a woman who enjoys sex is shameful. You will be miserable together.

The issue is that a woman with a low body count may love sex. Typically, this type of woman enjoys it in the context of a long-term relationship. And, it's far from given that a woman has a high body count simply because she enjoys sex. The idea that "I enjoy sex" does not mean that "I need a high body count to do so".

Many women love and enjoy sex, and have done so with two or three long-term partners before getting married. Often, these women would have actually had more sex with a steady, long-term partner (and learned more about what they enjoy) than another woman who had 10 short-term partners during the same period.

Many women who claim their total number of partners "doesn't matter" are actually triggered by the thought of being judged by that number. Admit it, let's move on.

If you find a man who does not want a woman because she has had a material number of previous partners, move on. The great thing about dating is that everyone can look for someone who meets their needs and accepts them for who they are.

The issue is that modern dating implies dating different people until exclusivity. Almost no man is dating exclusively. So yes, it’s completely unreasonable to expect that a woman would be able to jump straight into LTRs without any shorter term attempts at relationships before. No matter how much she enjoys committed sex.its just unrealistic to expect that a woman would delay sex or anyone would stay with her without sex before marriage/moving in.

I enjoy committed sex but had several 3-6 months relationships in between long term mega relationships, because I realized the men were just not the right for for me so I kept searching. Or the man met somone else which also happens.
None of these shorter relationships started from a one night stand - usually it was a full month before I slept with a man.


Apparently the new thing is for men to insist women stop using the dating app they matched on, before their first date or before theyve even met. These men are so afraid of being "one upped" by another man that they demand exclusivity before even seeing them with their own eyes in person.

[Anonymous]

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The issue is that modern dating implies dating different people until exclusivity. No man is dating exclusively. So yes, it’s completely unreasonable to expect that a woman would be able to jump straight into LTRs without any shorter term attempts at relationships before. No matter how much she enjoys committed sex.its just unrealistic to expect that a woman would delay sex or anyone would stay with her without sex before marriage/moving in.

I enjoy committed sex but had several 3-6 months relationships in between long term mega relationships, because I realized the men were just not the right for for me so I kept searching. Or the man met somone else which also happens.
None of these shorter relationships started from a one night stand - usually it was a full month before I slept with a man.

Whoops quotes are messed up.

Apparently the new thing is for men to insist women stop using the dating app they matched on, before their first date or before theyve even met. These men are so afraid of being "one upped" by another man that they demand exclusivity before even seeing them with their own eyes in person.

[Anonymous]

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The issue is that modern dating implies dating different people until exclusivity. No man is dating exclusively. So yes, it’s completely unreasonable to expect that a woman would be able to jump straight into LTRs without any shorter term attempts at relationships before. No matter how much she enjoys committed sex.its just unrealistic to expect that a woman would delay sex or anyone would stay with her without sex before marriage/moving in.

I enjoy committed sex but had several 3-6 months relationships in between long term mega relationships, because I realized the men were just not the right for for me so I kept searching. Or the man met somone else which also happens.
None of these shorter relationships started from a one night stand - usually it was a full month before I slept with a man.

Whoops quotes are messed up.

Apparently the new thing is for men to insist women stop using the dating app they matched on, before their first date or before theyve even met. These men are so afraid of being "one upped" by another man that they demand exclusivity before even seeing them with their own eyes in person.

Yes I had thus request from someone I was introduced in real life. He himself wanted to sleep with other women though .
So it’s deeply misogynistic male attitude in its core

And in most cases when relationship doesn’t work out is not because I’m seeing someone else. It’s because HE was a jerk or a bad match in other areas different than the sex