past sexual history and financial status

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a band in college, and was a professional musician during my 20s. I did a lot of stupid things, including sleeping with a lot of women in college, and during my 20s as a touring musician. It was a way of life for touring musicians when it comes to drugs, alcohol, and especially sleeping with a LOT of women. I must have slept with at least 400+ women during that time, and I was very lucky not to catch any STDs. I left the music business at the age of 31, and went back to college to complete my accounting degree. I dated quite a bit after the age of 31, and I was very up front with my date about my past sexual history after the 2nd date because I believed in full disclosure. I also expect my date to do the same. Half of my date was disgusted by it while the other half was amazed by it, but all of them appreciated my honesty.

Full disclosure is the best policy.

Exactly. Someone you are not compatible with will self-select out. Even if life has changed, you aren't in a band or interested in sex with hundreds of partners, if you are looking for a partner, you don't want someone who is judgemental about your history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

I'm trying to help you understand men, sweetie. You know, so you can have that "empathy" thing that women are so excited about?

You don't get to tell men how they should feel about things. What I'm telling you is, no matter how much you dislike it, men are going to have feelings about a woman's sexual history.

"How does that have anything to do with you?" - do you expect me to believe that you think a man's behavior before he met you has "nothing to do with you"? I don't believe it for a minute. You - like all women - are eager to delve into a man's past sexual, financial, employment, and criminal history. You're not even wrong to do that! His past does affect you! But men have the right to know about a woman's past history, too. Because her past will affect him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

I'm trying to help you understand men, sweetie. You know, so you can have that "empathy" thing that women are so excited about?

You don't get to tell men how they should feel about things. What I'm telling you is, no matter how much you dislike it, men are going to have feelings about a woman's sexual history.

"How does that have anything to do with you?" - do you expect me to believe that you think a man's behavior before he met you has "nothing to do with you"? I don't believe it for a minute. You - like all women - are eager to delve into a man's past sexual, financial, employment, and criminal history. You're not even wrong to do that! His past does affect you! But men have the right to know about a woman's past history, too. Because her past will affect him.

In the absence of body language, if you want someone to have empathy for how you feel, you have to try to name your emotions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

I'm trying to help you understand men, sweetie. You know, so you can have that "empathy" thing that women are so excited about?

You don't get to tell men how they should feel about things. What I'm telling you is, no matter how much you dislike it, men are going to have feelings about a woman's sexual history.

"How does that have anything to do with you?" - do you expect me to believe that you think a man's behavior before he met you has "nothing to do with you"? I don't believe it for a minute. You - like all women - are eager to delve into a man's past sexual, financial, employment, and criminal history. You're not even wrong to do that! His past does affect you! But men have the right to know about a woman's past history, too. Because her past will affect him.

You can ask whatever you want when you are dating. We all have specific standards and deal killers in relationships. Many men don't care, so expecting a woman you are dating to offer this information affirmatively is unreasonable. If it's one of your deal killers, you need to ask a question like this directly and early on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

You probably smell like an HBCU down there.

[Anonymous]

This is interesting to me. My husband and I have a large disparity in our numbers. We didn't specifically ask about numbers it just sort of came up in the many open conversations we had with each other. Knowing didn't change my view of him as the person I loved and wanted to build my life with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can ask whatever you want when you are dating. We all have specific standards and deal killers in relationships. Many men don't care, so expecting a woman you are dating to offer this information affirmatively is unreasonable. If it's one of your deal killers, you need to ask a question like this directly and early on.

Men with options DO care about past sexual history of women who they are going to marry to. If the guy cares enough, he will find out. It is better to know now than ten years later to find out that your wife had a body count of 100+.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can ask whatever you want when you are dating. We all have specific standards and deal killers in relationships. Many men don't care, so expecting a woman you are dating to offer this information affirmatively is unreasonable. If it's one of your deal killers, you need to ask a question like this directly and early on.

Men with options DO care about past sexual history of women who they are going to marry to. If the guy cares enough, he will find out. It is better to know now than ten years later to find out that your wife had a body count of 100+.

You are a psycho who clearly was deeply traumatized in college after you raped hundreds of girls
What is statistical chance of any woman to have over 100 plus body count ? Near zero. You are paranoid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

I'm trying to help you understand men, sweetie. You know, so you can have that "empathy" thing that women are so excited about?

You don't get to tell men how they should feel about things. What I'm telling you is, no matter how much you dislike it, men are going to have feelings about a woman's sexual history.

"How does that have anything to do with you?" - do you expect me to believe that you think a man's behavior before he met you has "nothing to do with you"? I don't believe it for a minute. You - like all women - are eager to delve into a man's past sexual, financial, employment, and criminal history. You're not even wrong to do that! His past does affect you! But men have the right to know about a woman's past history, too. Because her past will affect him.

Actually neither sex has the right to know this about the other. If you ask, and the other person refuses to answer, base your next steps on that. But don't badger them about it or try to litigate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can ask whatever you want when you are dating. We all have specific standards and deal killers in relationships. Many men don't care, so expecting a woman you are dating to offer this information affirmatively is unreasonable. If it's one of your deal killers, you need to ask a question like this directly and early on.

Men with options DO care about past sexual history of women who they are going to marry to. If the guy cares enough, he will find out. It is better to know now than ten years later to find out that your wife had a body count of 100+.

You are a psycho who clearly was deeply traumatized in college after you raped hundreds of girls
What is statistical chance of any woman to have over 100 plus body count ? Near zero. You are paranoid

You should watch social media & youtube. There are so many of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can ask whatever you want when you are dating. We all have specific standards and deal killers in relationships. Many men don't care, so expecting a woman you are dating to offer this information affirmatively is unreasonable. If it's one of your deal killers, you need to ask a question like this directly and early on.

Men with options DO care about past sexual history of women who they are going to marry to. If the guy cares enough, he will find out. It is better to know now than ten years later to find out that your wife had a body count of 100+.

You are a psycho who clearly was deeply traumatized in college after you raped hundreds of girls
What is statistical chance of any woman to have over 100 plus body count ? Near zero. You are paranoid

You should watch social media & youtube. There are so many of them.

I read official statistics, which says it's 4 partners in a lifetime on average for most women. You should stop limiting your dating to social media influencers who are rare exceptions. Most professional people don't even have time to seek and spend time with that many sexual partners. I have other things in my life, too, and would think my date was sick and paranoid if he hinted he would be checking or hiring a PI to find my "number"
Just plain out crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP - husband here - I've been married a very long time and I've never asked my wife about her sexual history. Once, she did say she was a virgin until she was 21 or 22 and we started dating when she was 25. What happened between 22 and 25 is not for me to know. How many guys? I have no idea. Types of sex? Clueless. But, given her late start I simply surmised that she had a pretty normal sex life though I'm not sure I know what normal is. I'm just thankful that after 30 years and 3000 times having sex (just a rough estimate!) she can still bring it on with energy and imagination.

On the other hand we did talk a lot about finances and those discussions were very helpful for us getting on the same page.

OK but how would you feel now if she suddenly volunteered that she'd slept with hundreds of guys before you. If you're even remotely normal you would feel very bad, and think she lied to you (by omission) - and you'd be right.

Uh no. How does that have anything to do with you? God these insecure f***wads need to just leave women alone.

I'm trying to help you understand men, sweetie. You know, so you can have that "empathy" thing that women are so excited about?

You don't get to tell men how they should feel about things. What I'm telling you is, no matter how much you dislike it, men are going to have feelings about a woman's sexual history.

"How does that have anything to do with you?" - do you expect me to believe that you think a man's behavior before he met you has "nothing to do with you"? I don't believe it for a minute. You - like all women - are eager to delve into a man's past sexual, financial, employment, and criminal history. You're not even wrong to do that! His past does affect you! But men have the right to know about a woman's past history, too. Because her past will affect him.

No, you're telling me how YOU feel. You can't speak for all men. You can only speak for men who also think like you, insecure red pill twats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can ask whatever you want when you are dating. We all have specific standards and deal killers in relationships. Many men don't care, so expecting a woman you are dating to offer this information affirmatively is unreasonable. If it's one of your deal killers, you need to ask a question like this directly and early on.

Men with options DO care about past sexual history of women who they are going to marry to. If the guy cares enough, he will find out. It is better to know now than ten years later to find out that your wife had a body count of 100+.

You are a psycho who clearly was deeply traumatized in college after you raped hundreds of girls
What is statistical chance of any woman to have over 100 plus body count ? Near zero. You are paranoid

You should watch social media & youtube. There are so many of them.

You mean the few OF women who make it their whole job? Sure. But that's not the vast majority of people. Porn is rotting your brain, you should take a break.