Can swinging save sexless marriages or does it just delay the divorce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People are dancing around the word. Is DH potentially a c*ckold?

For some odd reason (social contagion maybe?), that fetish appears to have exploded in popularity of late.

If that’s what is happening here, it makes sense OP might theoretically be open to it. MOST women would be open to it, frankly.

No most grounded women certainly would not lol.

I think what OP meant was: most women frustrated in sexless marriages (but who love their DH) might consider a safe situation where their needs were met and DH approved.

[Anonymous]

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I’d rather get an STD than not have sex at all.

This mindset is really flawed, OP. Catch the wrong STD and you won’t be having sex with anyone. Please protect yourself.

The ignorance is mind blowing. We had a friend who died of HPV throat cancer. I kid you not most didn't understand how one gets that. My nephew had aids, didn't die from that, but an aids related cancer. Should be more awareness, but it's not stuff people want to write about, or hear about.

I usually scoff at people who talk about STDs when it comes to infidelity, but for a community that’s promiscuous it does seem like a clear and present danger. Also DC has a relatively high HIV rate and men who have sex with men contract HIV at much higher rates than normal. I’m guessing swingers are also more open minded about same sex relations. Be incredibly careful.

I’m bringing this to OP’s attention again, because there is so much important truth here. Please read this again, OP, and the two quoted posts before it. I know you said you don’t care, but I hope you’re just being defensive. In case you aren’t, please put yourself and your health first and really consider what you’re doing here.

[Anonymous]

It's going to be about as helpful as having a baby to save your relationship. Just be honest and start the proceeding for divorce and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At our 20 year mark we visited a life style club purely out of curiosity and maybe sexual boredom. For the next five years we’d visit a club or take a cruise a few times a year. We’d always be together with another couple and never with a large group though we did observe them and it wasn’t for us. After five years we actually tired of the scene and eventually stopped going. Our sex life is fine and monogamous and while we’ve talked about finding a like minded couple I don’t see it happening. We are your average UMC empty nest couple so our old behavior would shock our friends.

OP here. Thank you so much for sharing. I could see something like this being our experience. I think finding a couple of like-minded people would be great, but for now he is worried about me somehow having feelings for someone else so he’s not comfortable with exchanging information yet.

I’m curious about your DH’s interests, if you are willing to share more. It would be interesting to hear about how you are making this work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I’d rather get an STD than not have sex at all.

This mindset is really flawed, OP. Catch the wrong STD and you won’t be having sex with anyone. Please protect yourself.

The ignorance is mind blowing. We had a friend who died of HPV throat cancer. I kid you not most didn't understand how one gets that. My nephew had aids, didn't die from that, but an aids related cancer. Should be more awareness, but it's not stuff people want to write about, or hear about.

I usually scoff at people who talk about STDs when it comes to infidelity, but for a community that’s promiscuous it does seem like a clear and present danger. Also DC has a relatively high HIV rate and men who have sex with men contract HIV at much higher rates than normal. I’m guessing swingers are also more open minded about same sex relations. Be incredibly careful.

I’m bringing this to OP’s attention again, because there is so much important truth here. Please read this again, OP, and the two quoted posts before it. I know you said you don’t care, but I hope you’re just being defensive. In case you aren’t, please put yourself and your health first and really consider what you’re doing here.

Lets be even more honest, more than a few unwell people here. A normal functional person has a one on one relationship and puts their health #1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are dancing around the word. Is DH potentially a c*ckold?

For some odd reason (social contagion maybe?), that fetish appears to have exploded in popularity of late.

If that’s what is happening here, it makes sense OP might theoretically be open to it. MOST women would be open to it, frankly.

No most grounded women certainly would not lol.

I think what OP meant was: most women frustrated in sexless marriages (but who love their DH) might consider a safe situation where their needs were met and DH approved.

Then they go to counseling, communicate, or compromise. Or worst case divorce. Not hooking up with unstable people risking disease.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew a couple like this. They also got high together. He ended up shooting her in front of her teenage daughter and then killing himself. She was about to leave him. He threatened suicide and when she struggled to get the gun from him, it went off.

Geez. All because someone wanted to have sex.