Svelte teen girls -- being the ugly duckling in a school of swans

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Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 is def chunky. Above that is fat.

She will be remembered as the big girl.

Snacks = fruits and veggies and a few nuts. NO junk food in the house! That one is on you, mom.

25 is chunky for an adult, definitely large for a teen when all the other girls are twigs.

It is one thing to have a BMI of 25 when you are in your forties and had a few kids. A teen’s metabolism should still be very high.

I just calculated by BMI and I’m a 22. I feel totally not thin and chubby. I’m definitely average in size, not that thin.

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Pp again. I have 2 teens and I’m significantly larger than any of these teen girls. OP’s daughter must definitely be large. The teens all have abs from no fat. I always admire my kid’s completely flat stomachs with muscle definition.

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Anonymous wrote:Most teens seem thin so if your child is even a slightly overweight, she may be the odd one out.

My kids all have no fat and they eat tons of junk.

My DD finds it completely unfair that her friends' parents let them eat all the junk food they want and are thin. She's not thin and we definitely limit junk food (basically, one dessert a day, which is still a lot.) The responses to this post will be evenly split with parents saying an overweight kid shouldn't get a dessert a day... and parents saying that by restricting food we are headed toward an eating disorder. It's a struggle EVERY DAY.

My daughter is very skinny but loves to eat. She has the eating habits of an overweight child but she is stick skinny. She eats dessert everyday. She loves ice cream, chips, cookies and chocolate. I don’t know how she is underweight. At he last check up, she was 18th percentile in weight.

We're not all equal when it comes to weight gain. That's why Ozempic is such a miracle. It evens out the playing field.

It really doesn’t. Some of us don’t have to give ourselves expensive injections.

And some of us do and now we look skinny like you. Oh well.

One shortage and you don’t. Oops.

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Anonymous wrote:Most teens seem thin so if your child is even a slightly overweight, she may be the odd one out.

My kids all have no fat and they eat tons of junk.

My DD finds it completely unfair that her friends' parents let them eat all the junk food they want and are thin. She's not thin and we definitely limit junk food (basically, one dessert a day, which is still a lot.) The responses to this post will be evenly split with parents saying an overweight kid shouldn't get a dessert a day... and parents saying that by restricting food we are headed toward an eating disorder. It's a struggle EVERY DAY.

My daughter is very skinny but loves to eat. She has the eating habits of an overweight child but she is stick skinny. She eats dessert everyday. She loves ice cream, chips, cookies and chocolate. I don’t know how she is underweight. At he last check up, she was 18th percentile in weight.

We're not all equal when it comes to weight gain. That's why Ozempic is such a miracle. It evens out the playing field.

It really doesn’t. Some of us don’t have to give ourselves expensive injections.

And some of us do and now we look skinny like you. Oh well.

One shortage and you don’t. Oops.

High five 🖐️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started at a small private school in 9th grade, and our DD is clearly having some issues adjusting and fitting in. We are on financial aid, so we already are different in that we are outliers in that we drive old cars and both parents work full time -- I actually have the more demanding job so DH is often the one picking up or going to school functions, and he's usually the only Dad for all those things.

But one issue I know is weighing on my DD, judging from her new interest in diet and "healthy eating", is that she is on the high end of the size scale. Honestly, our ped has been somewhat worried about here since her BMI hit 25, but we are wary since we have a family history of eating disorders (grandparents) and it seemed to have originated with the pandemic so we are hoping will wane as she grows.

Her entire school is full of thin and athletic girls, many do a demanding travel sport or even two a season -- a few girls seem to be flying for tennis tournaments every other week. Our DD was doing rec soccer until her team dissolved, and now she doesn't really have any interest in sports and says she won't make the cut for her schools team in any sport since the other students all did travel sports when they were younger.

I'm at a loss of what to do. We try and lead a healthy lifestyle, eating home cooked meals most days, packing a good home made lunch, go on family walks after dinner. I'm a healthy weight and take a yoga class on the weekend, but my DH is definitely put on the pounds in middle age (I think he is sneaking treats at work, since he eats okay at home and even goes to the gym a few days a week). Is her problem stemming from the bad modeling by my DH, should I put him on the irons to lose weight (or even go on GLP1 or something)?

Anyone have any insight into how all these svelte classmates ALL seem to keep slim? I honestly am surprised there is so little varaition; they were all sizes at our public middle school, even within the "wealthier" families. Any tips on how to get DD more active under these scenarios and push her to truly healthy eating (right now she eats too often, even if food is healthy, and is always wanting a snack).

This sounds like total chatgpt trolling

Wow my grammar must be improving if I’m confused for AI!

Svelte? GTFO with this ai shit

What are you talking about? I find figuring out a good ChatGPT prompt to be more work than writing an actual post. You think because I used an SAT word it’s AI generated? I’m just a pretentious speaker, not a robot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

Actually for some people, exercise stimulates conservation of calories and slows the metabolism— your body thinks there is scarcity and conserves. It’s saves energy in other ways, like running cooler, breathing slower in not execution times.

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read the entire thread but back in the 70's, 80's and 90's all kids in public schools were normal weights. Even kids in poorer areas of Maryland were normal weight. In my classes we probably had 1 student who might have been 10 or 15 pounds heavier but there was not the morbid obesity of today.

Students and families maintained their weight by eating 3 healthy meals a day. We did not have snacks between meals. Girls did sports but not at the level of today.

lol. Pp thinks no one ate snacks before 2000.

I was born in '76 and we ate snack every day after school, and as teens sometimes after dinner too.

You ate “snacks.” Eating “snack” sounds like a 3 year old being offered a Ritz cracker and a Dixie cup of apple juice at nursery school.

What? We are the hostess, tasty cake generation.

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read the entire thread but back in the 70's, 80's and 90's all kids in public schools were normal weights. Even kids in poorer areas of Maryland were normal weight. In my classes we probably had 1 student who might have been 10 or 15 pounds heavier but there was not the morbid obesity of today.

Students and families maintained their weight by eating 3 healthy meals a day. We did not have snacks between meals. Girls did sports but not at the level of today.

lol. Pp thinks no one ate snacks before 2000.

I was born in '76 and we ate snack every day after school, and as teens sometimes after dinner too.

You ate “snacks.” Eating “snack” sounds like a 3 year old being offered a Ritz cracker and a Dixie cup of apple juice at nursery school.

What? We are the hostess, tasty cake generation.

+1
Ding dongs were my favorite. the ones wrapped in foil.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

Actually for some people, exercise stimulates conservation of calories and slows the metabolism— your body thinks there is scarcity and conserves. It’s saves energy in other ways, like running cooler, breathing slower in not execution times.

Go watch “Alone” - every single participant loses significant amounts of weight, even those who are relatively successful at procuring food, because they’re still burning a ton and not eating enough to cover it. That’s how human bodies *actually* work.

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Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

Actually for some people, exercise stimulates conservation of calories and slows the metabolism— your body thinks there is scarcity and conserves. It’s saves energy in other ways, like running cooler, breathing slower in not execution times.

Go watch “Alone” - every single participant loses significant amounts of weight, even those who are relatively successful at procuring food, because they’re still burning a ton and not eating enough to cover it. That’s how human bodies *actually* work.

I thought I could never lose the baby weight after I had kids.

I needed surgery and was on a liquid diet for 10 days and I dropped almost 20 pounds. If you don’t eat, you lose weight.

I guarantee if OP or any other fat person had access to limited food and ate minimal calories, they would drop weight.

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Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

Actually for some people, exercise stimulates conservation of calories and slows the metabolism— your body thinks there is scarcity and conserves. It’s saves energy in other ways, like running cooler, breathing slower in not execution times.

Go watch “Alone” - every single participant loses significant amounts of weight, even those who are relatively successful at procuring food, because they’re still burning a ton and not eating enough to cover it. That’s how human bodies *actually* work.

Or even Survivor. Every single person on the show loses tons of weight including the larger contestants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

Can’t believe the disgusting fat-shaming allowed on this forum! It is a form of oppression you know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there not cross country right now? That doesn't usually have cuts and is a great way to stay active. She could also join a club swim team that's designed purely for staying in shape. Most clubs have at least one or two practice options for this goal.

I should add - I think all kids should play one sport at all times; for their mental and physical health. It's also a nice way to make friends outside of school.

It doesn’t have to be a sport to be physical and good for you. We always do outside activities geared towards the kids interests. Ballet every day except Sunday, one on one strength and fitness classes, mountain biking, skating.

Schools do a poor job allowing everyone to play a sport. I played lacrosse in high school and loved it. I wanted to play softball but I wasn’t good enough so I couldn’t play. The sports education in schools is failing a lot of students.

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Anonymous wrote:its a simple equation that works for pretty much everyone - eat less, move more.

Pretty much this.
Enjoy eating lots of calories? Then make sure your activity level matches.
Don’t enjoy activity? Eat fewer calories.

Either way, stay away from heavily processed crap.

Can’t believe the disgusting fat-shaming allowed on this forum! It is a form of oppression you know.

That is not fat shaming. Not even close.