Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?

[Anonymous]

Anything musical such as performing in a band.
Creative hobbies such as writing.

So much time and they're never present. Always in their head dreaming up ideas.

[Anonymous]

Hunting. It’s just a lifestyle incompatibility thing. Most orher hobbies as long as there’s moderation and the person can well afford the associated expenses are fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Feels like all women replying here as no one has mentioned horses.

Totally. No dating horse people at all ever. You'll be in poverty the rest of your life.

I’m a woman, married to a man, with young adult kids. I rode a ton growing up, but stopped in my 20s due to the time and money required. Picked it up an again a couple decades later, when schedule, family and finances allowed. It is not a sport for those with tight budgets and/or young children. But my arms, legs, and core are in great shape, my weight is excellent, and I’m the only one among my friends not on Lexapro or talking endlessly about Orange Theory.

[Anonymous]

Beauty, fashion, spending your husband's money, designer brands, Instagram, Facebook, tiktok, credit cards, bottomless brunch and brunches in general, small dogs, mani/Pedi routines

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Anonymous wrote:Triathlons. CrossFit. Anime. Golf. Cheese making.

I love anime and I feel so called out here 🤣😂🤣

My DH is still hanging on though!

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

What’s so appealing about it? Genuinely curious.

[Anonymous]

I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

What’s so appealing about it? Genuinely curious.

Unless you have been around it and understand it’s hard to explain. They’re great animals. Nothing beats jumping them, it’s a thrill when you find a good one and take it to a jumper show.

But it’s a time thing and when you’re in you’re in. I wouldn’t want to stop even if married.

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Anonymous wrote:Women scrap booking.

It’s a cult. I’m barely joking. Women go away together for vacations just to scrapbook. When my kids were little and I had no time, I was pressured by several different women to join them on scrapbooking vacations. Who has that much time when you have small children? They spend enormous amounts of h time making elaborately decorated pages that completely obscure the pictures of their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

What’s so appealing about it? Genuinely curious.

The connection with your horse is unlike anything else I've ever experienced, and I have always had pets. Horses aren't machines, they are animals with feelings and emotions and opinions, and they are different from each other. My husband was shocked to learn how individual each of our horses is. Just like our dogs.

Flying over a 5' jump is the coolest thing I've ever done. I've never gone sky diving or cliff jumping so there may be comparative activities, but I happen to like this one.

As a girl, it gave me a lot of confidence. I see the same in my children. My dad always said he never regretted a penny spent on my horses growing up because there's something about being able to control a 1,200 pound animal that makes a girl kind of tough. Again, not saying this is the only way to do it. I'm sure other sports, especially ones like martial arts, could have a similar effect.

I've met a great community of people. I think we're all a bit crazy and I've had other things in my life (church, neighborhoods, school) where I have also had great groups of people. But shows are generally multiple-day events that run more than 12 hours, so you spend a lot of time together with other people.

It's great physical activity. Never mind the actual riding (which takes really good balance, a solid core, and really strong legs), but there is so much physical work that goes into it. (And we're at a barn that cleans the stalls so it's not like we have them in our backyard or anything). But there isn't a lot of sitting on the sidelines like there may be with other sports.

Those are the ones that come to mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

Horse people are crazy. I dated a guy for a little bit who was into riding. He talked about it nonstop, had a lot of friends in the horse world and they were all drama. I couldn't be around it so the "relationship" didn't last. The one thing I will say is he was in great shape. I'm sure some of it had to do with riding.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised I don't see auto-racing on here. Women tend to get a bit antsy when a good weekend means only 2 or 3 thousand in tires, fuel and maintenance (this is just having fun at the track . . .not real racing). Forget the initial cost of the car, trailer, truck, travel time, etc.

Guys who are really into cars or gambling or day trading are to be avoided. I’ve known several guys who were crazy about cars and all of them were terrible with money and made stupid financial decisions related to cars.

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Gambling is a no go for me

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On the flip side of this subject, I’ve don’t like people who have no interests or hobbies. When my kids were little, I was a part of a group of women who got together 2 times a month to hang out. I kept suggesting we do something together instead of sitting for 3 hours gossiping about other people. They were never interested in doing anything else.

It’s a red flag for me if you don’t read newspapers or books.