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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with the horses!  I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal!  She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently.  I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights.  She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life.  We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...[/quote]

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.[/quote]

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money. [/quote]

What’s so appealing about it? Genuinely curious. [/quote]

The connection with your horse is unlike anything else I've ever experienced, and I have always had pets. Horses aren't machines, they are animals with feelings and emotions and opinions, and they are different from each other. My husband was shocked to learn how individual each of our horses is. Just like our dogs.

Flying over a 5' jump is the coolest thing I've ever done. I've never gone sky diving or cliff jumping so there may be comparative activities, but I happen to like this one.

As a girl, it gave me a lot of confidence. I see the same in my children. My dad always said he never regretted a penny spent on my horses growing up because there's something about being able to control a 1,200 pound animal that makes a girl kind of tough. Again, not saying this is the only way to do it. I'm sure other sports, especially ones like martial arts, could have a similar effect.

I've met a great community of people. I think we're all a bit crazy and I've had other things in my life (church, neighborhoods, school) where I have also had great groups of people. But shows are generally multiple-day events that run more than 12 hours, so you spend a lot of time together with other people.

It's great physical activity. Never mind the actual riding (which takes really good balance, a solid core, and really strong legs), but there is so much physical work that goes into it. (And we're at a barn that cleans the stalls so it's not like we have them in our backyard or anything). But there isn't a lot of sitting on the sidelines like there may be with other sports.

Those are the ones that come to mind.[/quote]

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