How much effort towards your appearance does your spouse expect?

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Anonymous wrote:The expectations are high but they were openly communicated early on. So knew what the expectations are. They match with what I expect of myself. Therefore I don’t have an issue.

I’m curious. What were the expectations exactly and how were they communicated?

In general to be well dressed and groomed, put together. Clothes appropriate for the situation/event. Dresses, skirts, nice pants and blouse are daily wear. Shoes appropriate for the outfit. Most people would probably describe it as a snotty B aesthetic. Sweatpants and hoodies completely out, he doesn't wear them either. If its' athleisure it should be styled, don't look like a slob. Wear properly fitting high quality lingerie, doesn't have to be lacy and frilly.

It was more of "hey I love your style and how well you always dress, I would appreciate you not slacking in that category as we move through life." Certain things highlighted or pointed out in conversation that I picked up on. We are on the same page and he definitely appreciates my efforts.

I asked the question and appreciate you answering.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I worked professionally for many years so I got use to being pretty well dressed and it's carried over to my day to day. I don't do it for my husband but I know he appreciates how I look. I don't have the figure I had 30 years ago but I can still look good. When I show up in bed wearing a very nice nightgown I get many compliments. Men are so easy!

Most are, which is why I don't understand complaining about making the most basic effort to look nice/groom for the man who loves you. Most men aren't so ridiculous that they expect you to look 20 when you're 40, but at least tweeze your eyebrows so you don't look like Brezhnev.

After a certain age, many of us are lucky to have visible eyebrows.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m turning 50 and ready to drop the rope. I just want to be who I am naturally, eat what I want, and wear comfortable clothes. I’ve gained some weight and hate shopping. DH doesn’t say anything to me regarding my appearance, good or bad. Any other women let things go? Did it affect your marriage?

OP if this affects your marriage you don't have a good one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The expectations are high but they were openly communicated early on. So knew what the expectations are. They match with what I expect of myself. Therefore I don’t have an issue.

I’m curious. What were the expectations exactly and how were they communicated?

In general to be well dressed and groomed, put together. Clothes appropriate for the situation/event. Dresses, skirts, nice pants and blouse are daily wear. Shoes appropriate for the outfit. Most people would probably describe it as a snotty B aesthetic. Sweatpants and hoodies completely out, he doesn't wear them either. If its' athleisure it should be styled, don't look like a slob. Wear properly fitting high quality lingerie, doesn't have to be lacy and frilly.

It was more of "hey I love your style and how well you always dress, I would appreciate you not slacking in that category as we move through life." Certain things highlighted or pointed out in conversation that I picked up on. We are on the same page and he definitely appreciates my efforts.

He actually said that? Wow. Just wow. Takes some balls, I'll give him that.

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I understood what he was saying and in context of the conversation it wasn’t off base.

I know he a serious girlfriend that would frequently underdress to the point it would force him to change plans or back out of invites.

But were her eyebrows penciled????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The expectations are high but they were openly communicated early on. So knew what the expectations are. They match with what I expect of myself. Therefore I don’t have an issue.

I’m curious. What were the expectations exactly and how were they communicated?

In general to be well dressed and groomed, put together. Clothes appropriate for the situation/event. Dresses, skirts, nice pants and blouse are daily wear. Shoes appropriate for the outfit. Most people would probably describe it as a snotty B aesthetic. Sweatpants and hoodies completely out, he doesn't wear them either. If its' athleisure it should be styled, don't look like a slob. Wear properly fitting high quality lingerie, doesn't have to be lacy and frilly.

It was more of "hey I love your style and how well you always dress, I would appreciate you not slacking in that category as we move through life." Certain things highlighted or pointed out in conversation that I picked up on. We are on the same page and he definitely appreciates my efforts.

He actually said that? Wow. Just wow. Takes some balls, I'll give him that.

.

I understood what he was saying and in context of the conversation it wasn’t off base.

I know he a serious girlfriend that would frequently underdress to the point it would force him to change plans or back out of invites.

But were her eyebrows penciled????

Don’t know. Never met her or saw a picture of her. Intel on her came from a friend of his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The expectations are high but they were openly communicated early on. So knew what the expectations are. They match with what I expect of myself. Therefore I don’t have an issue.

I’m curious. What were the expectations exactly and how were they communicated?

In general to be well dressed and groomed, put together. Clothes appropriate for the situation/event. Dresses, skirts, nice pants and blouse are daily wear. Shoes appropriate for the outfit. Most people would probably describe it as a snotty B aesthetic. Sweatpants and hoodies completely out, he doesn't wear them either. If its' athleisure it should be styled, don't look like a slob. Wear properly fitting high quality lingerie, doesn't have to be lacy and frilly.

It was more of "hey I love your style and how well you always dress, I would appreciate you not slacking in that category as we move through life." Certain things highlighted or pointed out in conversation that I picked up on. We are on the same page and he definitely appreciates my efforts.

I asked the question and appreciate you answering.

No problem. Nothing to hide if you have other questions.