4 y.o. niece is wonderful birth control. Tell sibling their kid is out of control?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

Four is not a tough age.

+1 Generally a very sweet, wonderful age!

Anyone recall Prince Louis acting up and sticking out his tongue, waggling his fingers on his nose, etc. at a big royal event? He was 4. Kids that age are not always going to sit quietly for a ceremony. Get real.

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Anonymous wrote:Your sister knows she is a terror. She likely has tried to help with the resources she has and is struggling. Unless you’re going to offer childcare or to pay for and take her to therapies, don’t bring it up - what do you think it’ll do other than make your sister upset.

Why should one offer to pay for childcare?

Absolute insanity. Simply discipline the child. Period. Very simple.

The responses in this thread show you the toxic mindset into modern day parenting that is 1000000% the root of the cause of why society is going to hell. Heaven forbid parents whip ass when needed or instill very strict discipline that requires pain of some sort, whether that's physical or mental in terms of punishment. This white glove, poo poo attitude towards parenting is why so many millennials raise hell spawns these days with all sorts of entitlement and zero discipline.

You know what would happen if I did the same thing at a funeral as the 4 y.o.? My dad would have probably whacked me behind the legs with a stick. I learned real quick not to mess around when the threat of dad's punishment was on the table. And it made stronger. Turned out just fine and my dad was a very loving father. Corporal punishment and being a loving parent are not mutually exclusive events.

OP, you need to chill out. Just because many people don't agree with you doesn't mean they're wrong. Maybe do some introspection and step away from the computer for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

Maybe the kid didn't want to be touched. Ever think of that? Please don't have kids, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

The funeral was for the grandmother of our neice, i.e. the mom of myself and all of my siblings. Bringing the granddaughter was warranted.

I’m sorry for your loss of your mother.
The word is spelled “niece”.
Perhaps you are projecting and focusing on this to distract yourself from the grief of the loss of your mother. Wait 3 months to address this with others.
God bless, again, so sorry for your loss.

Thank you for pointing out the correct spelling. It was making me crazy and really makes me think less of OP.

It's spelled correctly in the title of the thread.

Imagine getting hung up on a simple transposition of letters on a social media platform. Lol, what a bunch of old loser cat ladies who probably sit around and do sentence diagrams for fun.

OP spelled it incorrectly 5 or 6 times. Sounds like you’re salty about being dumb. It’s ok. Lots of dumb people out there seem to manage.

That was OP being salty. They're mad because not everyone is chiming to say, yeah, hit the little kid, that'll teach 'em!

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, tell them she isn't invited to your funeral until her behavior improves.

LOL

Thank you for appreciating my funny joke.

Seriously, op sounds awful

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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.[/quote]

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults. [/quote]

Maybe the kid didn't want to be touched. Ever think of that? Please don't have kids, OP. [/quote]

+1. Why did you lift her up?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

The funeral was for the grandmother of our neice, i.e. the mom of myself and all of my siblings. Bringing the granddaughter was warranted.

Is this a ChatGPT troll?

No, just a moron.

ChatGPT wouldn't have misspellings.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

she hit you because she’s 4 and sensorily overwhelmed and you invaded her space.

clearly she needs more support but you sound like a bad, bad person.

I taught 3 and 4 year olds for years and I was never once slapped in the face. And I had plenty of kids with sensory issues.

Kids need more structure and parents are afraid of enforcing boundaries. It’s gotten really bad because there always always excuses “it’s sensory overload, not his fault!” and rarely “do not hit, hitting hurts. No hutting”

Why have parents become SO afraid of parenting?

you probably didn’t suddenly grab one of them and pick them up during a meltdown.

This happened repeatedly with different adults. Stop pretending that this level of physical hitting and tantrumming is expected or normal.

Says the person with no kids. Your opinion is useless.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

The funeral was for the grandmother of our neice, i.e. the mom of myself and all of my siblings. Bringing the granddaughter was warranted.

As someone who had a very close relative die when I was 4yo, the parents should have gotten her a sitter. She should not have attended the funeral- not age appropriate for a 4 year old to participate respectfully in something like that or to even understand the significance. That said, it does sound like the parents need some major parenting classes. And / Or niece has special needs. Not sure which it is (or both) - patents with special needs kids are often at their wits end until the condition is diagnosed and formal therapies are started. Regardless, you do need to keep your mouth shut, unless of course you want to risk potentially not having a relationship with your sibling.

No four year old needs to go to a funeral. Parents should have got a sitter or the parent (not related to the person who the funeral was for) should have taken the 4 year old outside or elsewhere.

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IF you were going to say something, the most I would say is Sister, maybe it was an off day but niece seems to be in a very spirited phase right now -- that must be hard for you guys -- is there anything we can do to help support you? If she acts like she has no idea what you're talking about or gets mad at you then yeah, parents are the problem and there's not much you can do. People will start to avoid them because of their kid's behavior and hopefully they'll take action in response. If she's aware of the issue but just doesn't know what to do, hopefully there's a way that you can work on it together as a family. Sorry for your loss OP.

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So many people fed the troll here. I’m shocked.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

she hit you because she’s 4 and sensorily overwhelmed and you invaded her space.

clearly she needs more support but you sound like a bad, bad person.

I taught 3 and 4 year olds for years and I was never once slapped in the face. And I had plenty of kids with sensory issues.

Kids need more structure and parents are afraid of enforcing boundaries. It’s gotten really bad because there always always excuses “it’s sensory overload, not his fault!” and rarely “do not hit, hitting hurts. No hutting”

Why have parents become SO afraid of parenting?

you probably didn’t suddenly grab one of them and pick them up during a meltdown.

This happened repeatedly with different adults. Stop pretending that this level of physical hitting and tantrumming is expected or normal.

Says the person with no kids. Your opinion is useless.

Quite the opposite. The person insisting this is how all special needs kids behave is completely clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people fed the troll here. I’m shocked.

OP is a troll most likely and sockpuppeting pretending like anyone who disagrees just doesn't understand how hard parents have it these days and this behavior is normal. Playing both sides.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

This you sound like a horrible person who clearly has no kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

Four is not a tough age.

+1 Generally a very sweet, wonderful age!

Anyone recall Prince Louis acting up and sticking out his tongue, waggling his fingers on his nose, etc. at a big royal event? He was 4. Kids that age are not always going to sit quietly for a ceremony. Get real.

Yes and people insisted he was probably on the spectrum because all 4 yr olds are perfectly behaved. People need to pick a lane. Some acting up is normal, hitting every adult within arms reach is something else.