Is it creepy that a bartender remembered my drink after one visit three weeks ago?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

People are minimizing his behavior. He's prolly gonna try and r*pe you.

So doubt this. If they can remember what you drink that helps them move quickly to the next person before the next bartender picks them up. And someone who pays and tips well in cash is even better to remember to prioritize and serve first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing creepy about this.

Bartenders, however, deal with plenty of creeps. They are not being nice, or remembering you or your drink, because they like you or think you are special. It is to increase tips.

Why would I tip more because he remembered me and my drink? Who asked for or seeks such a thing?

Because you get your drink faster and don’t have to flag someone down. I have people I could nod at and knew what they wanted.

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Anonymous wrote:It honestly made me feel uncomfortable. My drink was just a basic two ingredient cocktail. I think I look pretty normal and forgettable. I made sure to pay cash because I didn’t want him taking down my name and then social media or Google stalking me.

Did you get drunk when you went to several weeks ago? Do you feel insecure about the amount of drinks that you ordered? I sense that some sort of specious element here.

Just one drink. Tipped normally, nothing too low or too high. Nothing about my brief visit was memorable. I do not want to be remembered and treated like a barfly on a first name basis with any server. I don’t want to be served like “oh, the usual?” It is not courteous, it is rude to conduct yourself like this to a woman in a drinking establishment. And it is a little creepy to remember woman and her drink when she briefly visited several weeks ago.

It is considered the sign of a good bartender to remember your drink.

Next time just drink along in your hotel room.

Is this an American thing? I truly do not understand why that makes for a good server you will see once or twice in your life. It’s not as if it was waiting for me when I walked in. It doesn’t save any time. It insinuates you drink a lot there. Which I don’t. And it startled me, so I switched my drink order. Maybe that’s something you want at your local cafe you visit with your family twice a week for years on end and they remember just how you like your steak frites. Or maybe men like this from bartenders. Not something a bartender should ever do to a random solo woman.

Where are you from?

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Anonymous wrote:It honestly made me feel uncomfortable. My drink was just a basic two ingredient cocktail. I think I look pretty normal and forgettable. I made sure to pay cash because I didn’t want him taking down my name and then social media or Google stalking me.

Did you get drunk when you went to several weeks ago? Do you feel insecure about the amount of drinks that you ordered? I sense that some sort of specious element here.

Just one drink. Tipped normally, nothing too low or too high. Nothing about my brief visit was memorable. I do not want to be remembered and treated like a barfly on a first name basis with any server. I don’t want to be served like “oh, the usual?” It is not courteous, it is rude to conduct yourself like this to a woman in a drinking establishment. And it is a little creepy to remember woman and her drink when she briefly visited several weeks ago.

It is considered the sign of a good bartender to remember your drink.

Next time just drink along in your hotel room.

Is this an American thing? I truly do not understand why that makes for a good server you will see once or twice in your life. It’s not as if it was waiting for me when I walked in. It doesn’t save any time. It insinuates you drink a lot there. Which I don’t. And it startled me, so I switched my drink order. Maybe that’s something you want at your local cafe you visit with your family twice a week for years on end and they remember just how you like your steak frites. Or maybe men like this from bartenders. Not something a bartender should ever do to a random solo woman.

No it’s not an American thing 😌https://youtu.be/KpYPDvFY8RQ?si=3JiwwVpa-KoMNs0g

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

People are minimizing his behavior. He's prolly gonna try and r*pe you.

So doubt this. If they can remember what you drink that helps them move quickly to the next person before the next bartender picks them up. And someone who pays and tips well in cash is even better to remember to prioritize and serve first.

I think PP was being sarcastic.