Is it creepy that a bartender remembered my drink after one visit three weeks ago?

[Anonymous]

It was a complete ordinary coke and PCP order.

[Anonymous]

Wow op you are so self-centered that's literally their job and what they're told to do on day one remember people's drinks.

You have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing creepy about this.

Bartenders, however, deal with plenty of creeps. They are not being nice, or remembering you or your drink, because they like you or think you are special. It is to increase tips.

Why would I tip more because he remembered me and my drink? Who asked for or seeks such a thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

Uncouth? From the "single woman" at the same bar again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

I literally just laughed at your answer. Are you replying from the Victorian era?

I tipped the same few dollars for a drink that I would. But I will literally never go back there. I just don’t want to be noticed or remember by a random bartender I’ve literally seen one time in my life. I don’t get how that is considered good service from a solo female POV. Sorry, it’s a little creepy coming from a male server and made me feel uncomfortable and slightly embarrassed that this was overheard by others in the establishment.

Then never go to the same place twice. You were probably such a fretty, anxious wreck that you were memorable. You sound unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

Um, then you should literally never go to a bar. Your reaction are unbelievably off base.

+1 Off the charts you problem, OP. YTA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing creepy about this.

Bartenders, however, deal with plenty of creeps. They are not being nice, or remembering you or your drink, because they like you or think you are special. It is to increase tips.

Why would I tip more because he remembered me and my drink? Who asked for or seeks such a thing?

Who the eff goes to a bar as a single person? Someone looking to socialize. And then goes back and complains that the bartender remembered their order (which is bartender for socialization; they're not really your friend)? It's ingratiating behavior in the service industry, and you should just accept your weirdnesses and either drink alone or sober up altogether.

You're a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

I literally just laughed at your answer. Are you replying from the Victorian era?

I tipped the same few dollars for a drink that I would. But I will literally never go back there. I just don’t want to be noticed or remember by a random bartender I’ve literally seen one time in my life. I don’t get how that is considered good service from a solo female POV. Sorry, it’s a little creepy coming from a male server and made me feel uncomfortable and slightly embarrassed that this was overheard by others in the establishment.

You're the one who went there twice!

[Anonymous]

I visited Ottawa last summer and went to the Irish bar near my hotel for about an hour. The bartender remembered my name when I walked in the next night. That's a good bartender!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

I literally just laughed at your answer. Are you replying from the Victorian era?

I tipped the same few dollars for a drink that I would. But I will literally never go back there. I just don’t want to be noticed or remember by a random bartender I’ve literally seen one time in my life. I don’t get how that is considered good service from a solo female POV. Sorry, it’s a little creepy coming from a male server and made me feel uncomfortable and slightly embarrassed that this was overheard by others in the establishment.

You think they were paying that kind of detailed attention to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing creepy about this.

Bartenders, however, deal with plenty of creeps. They are not being nice, or remembering you or your drink, because they like you or think you are special. It is to increase tips.

Why would I tip more because he remembered me and my drink? Who asked for or seeks such a thing?

Who the eff goes to a bar as a single person? Someone looking to socialize. And then goes back and complains that the bartender remembered their order (which is bartender for socialization; they're not really your friend)? It's ingratiating behavior in the service industry, and you should just accept your weirdnesses and either drink alone or sober up altogether.

You're a mess.

I have a work account in that area. I went once three weeks ago for one drink. I returned three weeks later for one drink. Zero interest in socializing. I don’t consider it good service to be talked to like a bar fly or remembered by a male bartender. It made me feel uncomfortable and I’m sure most solo women would agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

I literally just laughed at your answer. Are you replying from the Victorian era?

I tipped the same few dollars for a drink that I would. But I will literally never go back there. I just don’t want to be noticed or remember by a random bartender I’ve literally seen one time in my life. I don’t get how that is considered good service from a solo female POV. Sorry, it’s a little creepy coming from a male server and made me feel uncomfortable and slightly embarrassed that this was overheard by others in the establishment.

You think they were paying that kind of detailed attention to you?

I don’t care. It’s the implication. It’s not good manners nor is it good service to make a woman feel like a bar fly. And sorry, it is creepy to remember me and what I drank several weeks after a brief visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I visited Ottawa last summer and went to the Irish bar near my hotel for about an hour. The bartender remembered my name when I walked in the next night. That's a good bartender!!

You sound like a man. And the next day is not the same as 20 days later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing creepy about this.

Bartenders, however, deal with plenty of creeps. They are not being nice, or remembering you or your drink, because they like you or think you are special. It is to increase tips.

Why would I tip more because he remembered me and my drink? Who asked for or seeks such a thing?

"I'm sure most solo women would agree."

Please read your thread.

No one agrees

Maybe he remembered you because you're so weird that it shows.

Who the eff goes to a bar as a single person? Someone looking to socialize. And then goes back and complains that the bartender remembered their order (which is bartender for socialization; they're not really your friend)? It's ingratiating behavior in the service industry, and you should just accept your weirdnesses and either drink alone or sober up altogether.

You're a mess.

I have a work account in that area. I went once three weeks ago for one drink. I returned three weeks later for one drink. Zero interest in socializing. I don’t consider it good service to be talked to like a bar fly or remembered by a male bartender. It made me feel uncomfortable and I’m sure most solo women would agree.

[Anonymous]

Not creepy, you’re weird