Is it creepy that a bartender remembered my drink after one visit three weeks ago?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It honestly made me feel uncomfortable. My drink was just a basic two ingredient cocktail. I think I look pretty normal and forgettable. I made sure to pay cash because I didn’t want him taking down my name and then social media or Google stalking me.

Did you get drunk when you went to several weeks ago? Do you feel insecure about the amount of drinks that you ordered? I sense that some sort of specious element here.

Just one drink. Tipped normally, nothing too low or too high. Nothing about my brief visit was memorable. I do not want to be remembered and treated like a barfly on a first name basis with any server. I don’t want to be served like “oh, the usual?” It is not courteous, it is rude to conduct yourself like this to a woman in a drinking establishment. And it is a little creepy to remember woman and her drink when she briefly visited several weeks ago.

You really are hilarious. I appreciate you starting this post to provide some humor and entertainment for everyone. Thank you for this! You could probably create a whole cringey standup routine with this bit. I know I will definitely entertain my friends with the story at brunch tomorrow!

[Anonymous]

Single woman here, it would never in a million years strike me as creepy. You, on the other hand, seem like someone I’d want to stay far, far away from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single woman here, it would never in a million years strike me as creepy. You, on the other hand, seem like someone I’d want to stay far, far away from.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

This is the least surprised I’ve ever been to find someone is single.

Single as in solo at the bar. I am happily married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It honestly made me feel uncomfortable. My drink was just a basic two ingredient cocktail. I think I look pretty normal and forgettable. I made sure to pay cash because I didn’t want him taking down my name and then social media or Google stalking me.

Did you get drunk when you went to several weeks ago? Do you feel insecure about the amount of drinks that you ordered? I sense that some sort of specious element here.

Just one drink. Tipped normally, nothing too low or too high. Nothing about my brief visit was memorable. I do not want to be remembered and treated like a barfly on a first name basis with any server. I don’t want to be served like “oh, the usual?” It is not courteous, it is rude to conduct yourself like this to a woman in a drinking establishment. And it is a little creepy to remember woman and her drink when she briefly visited several weeks ago.

OP, were you with someone the second time, either a friend or another customer you met at the bar? It sounds like you were embarrassed to admit you had been there drinking alone in the past.

I’m not embarrassed at all about grabbing one happy hour drink by myself after a work assignment in a city I’m rarely in. I just don’t want a creepy bartender remembering me for whatever reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It honestly made me feel uncomfortable. My drink was just a basic two ingredient cocktail. I think I look pretty normal and forgettable. I made sure to pay cash because I didn’t want him taking down my name and then social media or Google stalking me.

Did you get drunk when you went to several weeks ago? Do you feel insecure about the amount of drinks that you ordered? I sense that some sort of specious element here.

Just one drink. Tipped normally, nothing too low or too high. Nothing about my brief visit was memorable. I do not want to be remembered and treated like a barfly on a first name basis with any server. I don’t want to be served like “oh, the usual?” It is not courteous, it is rude to conduct yourself like this to a woman in a drinking establishment. And it is a little creepy to remember woman and her drink when she briefly visited several weeks ago.

OP, were you with someone the second time, either a friend or another customer you met at the bar? It sounds like you were embarrassed to admit you had been there drinking alone in the past.

I’m not embarrassed at all about grabbing one happy hour drink by myself after a work assignment in a city I’m rarely in. I just don’t want a creepy bartender remembering me for whatever reason.

If you behaved as strangely at the bar as you are on this thread, no wonder he remembered you.

[Anonymous]

No, NOT creepy-- at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It honestly made me feel uncomfortable. My drink was just a basic two ingredient cocktail. I think I look pretty normal and forgettable. I made sure to pay cash because I didn’t want him taking down my name and then social media or Google stalking me.

Did you get drunk when you went to several weeks ago? Do you feel insecure about the amount of drinks that you ordered? I sense that some sort of specious element here.

Just one drink. Tipped normally, nothing too low or too high. Nothing about my brief visit was memorable. I do not want to be remembered and treated like a barfly on a first name basis with any server. I don’t want to be served like “oh, the usual?” It is not courteous, it is rude to conduct yourself like this to a woman in a drinking establishment. And it is a little creepy to remember woman and her drink when she briefly visited several weeks ago.

OP, were you with someone the second time, either a friend or another customer you met at the bar? It sounds like you were embarrassed to admit you had been there drinking alone in the past.

I’m not embarrassed at all about grabbing one happy hour drink by myself after a work assignment in a city I’m rarely in. I just don’t want a creepy bartender remembering me for whatever reason.

If you behaved as strangely at the bar as you are on this thread, no wonder he remembered you.

Indeed. OP, is your name Diane?

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZ_km0OJd0Q

[Anonymous]

OP, you started this self-centered thread, and now I will remember you forever.

Please calm down and unplug the stick...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you started this self-centered thread, and now I will remember you forever.

Please calm down and unplug the stick...

OP needs a moniker so we can refer to her mirthfully in future threads.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you started this self-centered thread, and now I will remember you forever.

Please calm down and unplug the stick...

OP needs a moniker so we can refer to her mirthfully in future threads.

Paranoid barfly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you started this self-centered thread, and now I will remember you forever.

Please calm down and unplug the stick...

OP needs a moniker so we can refer to her mirthfully in future threads.

Paranoid barfly? :lol:

I’m down for that. Certainly beats my initial thought of basic cocktail wacko self-centered bar bit*h.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you started this self-centered thread, and now I will remember you forever.

Please calm down and unplug the stick...

OP needs a moniker so we can refer to her mirthfully in future threads.

Paranoid barfly? :lol:

I’m down for that. Certainly beats my initial thought of basic cocktail wacko self-centered bar bit*h.

Yours has a certain ring to it but is perhaps a bit of a mouthful!

[Anonymous]

I’ve been a bartender and I don’t miss much. I know who is selling what, who came and left with whom, who tips and who is cheap. Yes they remember what you drank especially if you left a nicer tip (thanks).