Is it creepy that a bartender remembered my drink after one visit three weeks ago?

[Anonymous]

You're just that hot.

[Anonymous]

Oh, 3 weeks, even more time to study and dream.

[Anonymous]

A month ago I went into a Starbucks I’d never been to. I placed my order and the employee said”for Lauren?” I was so shocked I just said yes. Later I realized she’d worked at the Starbucks I used to go to in 2019. That’s right- she switched to a different location and remembered me from years earlier! So, it can happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

There’s nothing wrong with a bartender remembering you drank vodka cranberry 3 weeks ago. You’re the weird one.

[Anonymous]

When I was a bartender in my 20s, I would try to do this - people loved it. I have a good memory & it was a fun little game to keep me engaged at work (& obviously helped with tips). Sometimes people would be really shocked, but people always seemed to be surprised in a good way or flattered - who doesn’t like to be remembered in a good way?

Was there something off about the bar or the bartender that made you afraid to use your credit card? Go with your gut, if something made you wary on your first visit, I wouldn’t go back.

But if it simply that you always pay cash & the bartender remembered your drink on 2nd visit, I wouldnt think that was weird. I’d think it was the sign of a good bartender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

Really? They are in the service industry, where success is about serving you - anticipating the drink or food or table you want is a goal, as is knowing (or getting a feel for on first visit) how you like to be treated - do you like your check right away, or to linger, do you want suggestions/chit chat or peace & quiet.

But if they aren’t anticipating your needs correctly at this place, I guess don’t tip & go somewhere you get service more adapted to your needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

I literally just laughed at your answer. Are you replying from the Victorian era?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

Ok psycho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

People are minimizing his behavior. He's prolly gonna try and r*pe you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

You're a troll right? This response is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

Omg get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s kinda what they do, no?

Not something I appreciate, want, or tip extra for. If it’s not creepy and stalkerish, it gives off an alcoholic bar fly vibe, like you must go there so often and booze sort of thing, so the bartender knows your name and drink. Even if it’s inadvertent, it is not appreciated and makes me uncomfortable. Especially uncouth to do to a single woman.

Um, then you should literally never go to a bar. Your reaction are unbelievably off base.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're just that hot.

[Anonymous]

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