Moving as soon as kids in college?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps its just me, but moving 20 miles away doesn't really seem like a move - your DC can still see their friends. Not as easily, but not impossible.

Yeah, it's not the childhood home, etc, but it just isn't the same as people moving regions, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps its just me, but moving 20 miles away doesn't really seem like a move - your DC can still see their friends. Not as easily, but not impossible.

Yeah, it's not the childhood home, etc, but it just isn't the same as people moving regions, etc.

OP said 1-2 hours away, in Maryland.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My oldest is 22, and our house is more affordable than renting. If we move when the youngest is is 22, then our oldest may want to take over payments here. We are keeping the house, even if we move.

Thanks for your irrelevant response.

Keeping in mind interest rates and it's not a great time to sell is not irrelevant. Go take a nap.

[Anonymous]

i’m such a sucker and probably would put the breaks on moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here. I’d love to get out of this house, but my sister made a point - that she didn’t actually mean to make - that what if freshman DD is homesick and there’s no home anymore? Home that she knows. I’m staying a bit longer.

+1

I think the difference from the college student pov is one of "coming home to my home" and seeing my friends, informally, running into them and our neighbors, vs. going to visit parent(s) at their new house, which is not "my home." I loved coming home to my house. Seeing my friends. Going to familiar places. (And yes, to those of you wondering, I did not move home and live in my old room; I moved out of state once I graduated college and my mom was able to live her life and eventually move too.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As so many have said - you are adults and can move whenever you want. But, do you want your children to come home and visit you? Especially as they grow older? My parents moved while I was in my 30s so far past spending lots of time at home. I wasn't upset about it. However, it has impacted my desire to visit as I feel like I am just going to a very nice house not home. And while in the same city, it is a different part and again doesn't have the same childhood memories.

Our kids are currently in college and one left in high school. We plan to hold onto our house until there is a clear reason not to - like they all settle in Australia!

It’s really sad that you feel this way.

DP. Absolutely not! Visiting your parent's house is not the same as going home. Never will be again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who moved from the suburbs to downtown DC after my youngest’s first year at UVA. I continue to think many of you are both coddling your kids too much and at the same time underestimating them. You’re not getting any younger and there’s no reason to put off your own lives until your kids are in their mid 20s for Pete’s sake. I can guarantee you that your kids will not be doing that for you.

The one piece of advice that I’ve seen on this thread that I do agree with was that you might want to consider whether your new place will be somewhere where your kids will actually want to visit. Our youngest quickly got over our move once she discovered that visiting us in the heart of DC was more fun than coming home to a cul de sac in the suburbs where there were lots of memories but nothing going on today. Your relationship with your kids changes once they leave for college. There is a season for everything. Embrace change. Don’t cling so desperately to the past. And don’t project your own nostalgia on to your kids. Really, they adjust. We all do.

This is hardly a BIG move, so don't pat yourself on the back so much and put down others.