My father put an AirTag in my car to track me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is having trouble letting go and seeing you as an adult. He crossed a line, but it sounds like your issues with him extend beyond this.

+1. This is 100% a him problem, and it's definitely over the top, but absent some other extensive history I think most people would be irritated and blow it off/laugh it off. I'm not saying you should do that, just that your reaction indicates something deeper is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, your dad likely committed a crime. Tell him you are going to the police to make a report about it. Report it and ask the police to call your father and ask him to stop or else you will file domestic abuse or stalking charges against him.

Your dad is a bsc stalker

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is having trouble letting go and seeing you as an adult. He crossed a line, but it sounds like your issues with him extend beyond this.

+1. This is 100% a him problem, and it's definitely over the top, but absent some other extensive history I think most people would be irritated and blow it off/laugh it off. I'm not saying you should do that, just that your reaction indicates something deeper is going on.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

This is the OP. I wish this was a troll post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

This is the OP. I wish this was a troll post.

I’m sorry. Maybe your father got the idea off of Reddit and the news. He’s obviously not good at stalking.

My mechanic finds these things hidden in cars often. He says he looks for them when he does routine service because it’s so common.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn’t trust your DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

This is the OP. I wish this was a troll post.

Where are ypu, DH and DC for Thanksgiving, OP?

[Anonymous]

No advice. That is crazy. I wish you hadn’t told him though because then you could’ve thrown it in a lake and gone no contact haha

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

This is the OP. I wish this was a troll post.

Where are ypu, DH and DC for Thanksgiving, OP?

Ask OP's father. He has the coordinates of OP's whereabouts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re at you’re parents’ house now?

Leave. Just pack up your family and go. No explanation. They know. The less you say, the better.

+1

Pack your stuff and go. Now. Check your car again or have your husband pack and you watch your car and stuff.

If you ever see them again get a rental car.

it's a troll and rip off of a reddit post

This is the OP. I wish this was a troll post.

Where are ypu, DH and DC for Thanksgiving, OP?

Ask OP's father. He has the coordinates of OP's whereabouts.

I took the battery out of the AirTag. I am still currently at the house because it would crush my kid (who is an only child with no immediate cousins) to take away the one time a year where they get to see their second cousins.

I don’t have the budget for a multi-night stay at a hotel right now.

I am walking out of the room whenever my father comes in, and it turns out he did the same thing to my mother. She just didn’t say anything to keep the peace.

They are both f’d up beyond belief. I can’t and don’t trust either of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When your car is stolen, you’ll thank him.

OP can put her own tag on if she's worried about theft. Her father has no right. Especially since she declined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear your anger and would also be livid. That said, since you have the air tag, can you have some fun with this? Any friends who do a lot of travel by car or work an unusual schedule? I’d start passing that AirTag around.

He knows I found it. He doesn’t see the big deal. He apologized because my mom made him do it, but he also repeatedly heard him say he doesn’t see what the big deal is.

I think you need to treat him like the child in the relationship bc that’s how he is acting.
You just need to calmly revisit this (bc he is the irrational one, not you…and blowing up in anger was not ideal), and you say:

1–the “big deal” is you did not ask me because you knew I would say no to having you track me, even for “safety.”
2–the “big deal” is that it was something you did in secret, which means you were being deliberately deceptive.
3–the “big deal” is that it’s an extreme invasion of my privacy.
4–I cannot trust someone who goes behind my back, invades my privacy, and disregards my expressed wishes simply because they *think* they have a good reason.
5–I’m an adult and my safety is not your responsibility.

Then reiterate that the fact that he claims not to understand why this is a big deal is actually very concerning to you…and so you will not be able to continue to have him take an active role in your life until he acknowledges that this is not okay behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll get this out of the way first:

-I am in my mid-30s
-I have a had stable employment since I was 22
-I don’t ask for or want anything from my parents, including money, because I don’t want to be beholden to them
-I am a responsible adult with a spouse and child
-I own the car in question and paid for it myself
-I live about 800 miles away from where my parents live

My dad has been asking me to share my location through my iPhone with him for years. I have always told him no and made it very that I will never agree to that in any way, shape, or form.

Cut to this year: I drove with my family to visit for Thanksgiving, arriving on Sunday. I got a notification on my phone on Monday that an AirTag was following me around. I thought it was weird, but ignored it. On Tuesday, I got another notification about it, this time with a map of all the places I had been.

This time, I went out to my car and started pinging the AirTag to find it. I had to get my husband to come help find it. When we finally dug it out, it was embedded with my spare in a place where you couldn’t claim that it just fell out of somebody’s pocket.

I did the “About this AirTag” thing and found that the last 4 digits of the cell number match my father’s phone number.

I am livid. He keeps saying it’s not big deal, and my mother keeps making excuses for him and says “oh, come on, he’s not all bad!”, which is what she’s been telling me my whole life.

I want to break off all contact at this point. I feel like since he got caught with the AirTag, he might try a more sophisticated tracking device next.

I absolutely would. What disgusting behavior by him.