How to not feel bad about putting an infant in daycare?

[Anonymous]

I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really understand how that 1:2 teacher:baby ratio for family daycares gets quoted as if the toddlers and older children they can care for at the same time don’t also count as people. IMHO it’s easier to keep 3 babies safe than to care for, say, 2 babies 2 toddlers and maybe a couple of older kids as well.

Did you know there are Family Daycares with just infants?

There's all kinds. There are Family Daycares that are just a Preschool from 3 years to 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family Daycares ratios are 2 infants for 1 staff and in centers is 3 infants for 1 staff in Maryland.

I prefer Family Daycare. Centers has too many kids, less staff, they rotate the assistants to different rooms.

True but the family daycares may have older children in addition to the babies.

We left a family daycare that had one teacher for 8 children including our young toddler. Left for a center with 3 teachers for 6 babies. DD was noticeably happier.

They rotate the staff. The children in centers sees different people and teachers change or quit a lot. Well that was at that Center

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really understand how that 1:2 teacher:baby ratio for family daycares gets quoted as if the toddlers and older children they can care for at the same time don’t also count as people. IMHO it’s easier to keep 3 babies safe than to care for, say, 2 babies 2 toddlers and maybe a couple of older kids as well.

Did you know there are Family Daycares with just infants?

There's all kinds. There are Family Daycares that are just a Preschool from 3 years to 5.

Yes, I did. There are both family daycares and centers that operate with more staff and/or fewer kids than the legal requirements, which is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Lol

If you feel good and happy then choose whatever you want.
Center, nanny, Family Daycare, they are all professionals mostly and will love your child. You have to let them grow, they will be in 1st grade soon and that's another whole of worries. School shootings, bullies. We can't keep our kids in a bubble forever. Good thing there are good people everywhere. Teach 1st graders lifeskills, to love themselves. So if anything happens they will keep moving forward

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

DP but I would take it as such a red flag if a daycare kicked out kids for developmentally normal behavior. It would suggest they were actually not trained in child development and did not know how to handle. My goodness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

DP but I would take it as such a red flag if a daycare kicked out kids for developmentally normal behavior. It would suggest they were actually not trained in child development and did not know how to handle. My goodness.

And for the record my kids have never done this at school, so this isn’t personal for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

DP but I would take it as such a red flag if a daycare kicked out kids for developmentally normal behavior. It would suggest they were actually not trained in child development and did not know how to handle. My goodness.

Many children have behavioral problems and needs therapy professional help from a doctor for mental issues. Go find one. Every state has so many resources for parents.

Some adhd kids has to be homeschooling until they turn 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

DP but I would take it as such a red flag if a daycare kicked out kids for developmentally normal behavior. It would suggest they were actually not trained in child development and did not know how to handle. My goodness.

Many children have behavioral problems and needs therapy professional help from a doctor for mental issues. Go find one. Every state has so many resources for parents.

Some adhd kids has to be homeschooling until they turn 18.

Lol, just lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

DP but I would take it as such a red flag if a daycare kicked out kids for developmentally normal behavior. It would suggest they were actually not trained in child development and did not know how to handle. My goodness.

It’s a green flag for me. And I am happy with my choice. You are welcome to choose another daycare to handle those things.

There are plenty of daycares out there who is willing to take on these behaviors. If having a lot of kids who bite and hit is good for you then go out there and find those daycares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have toured many daycares - both in home and centers, and I think in homes are much better for younger kids. And older kids due to their age can go either way.

Many people forget that the teacher is a very important component. The working conditions of a daycare teacher is horrible. They’re paid even worse in both monetary compensation and benefits than public school teachers and we know there is a huge crisis in that field. They also work year round with barely any breaks. Public school teaching is a notoriously terrible career, but daycare teachers have it even worse, if you can imagine what that’s like.

In home daycares are run by a provider who owns their own business. So they are paid far more, and they get to be their own boss. The ones I spoke to when I was searching for a daycare have all been working for at least a decade or more. It is very very rare to see a center based daycare teacher last that long.

One thing that people don’t usually think about is the freedom of a business owner to choose their clients. A daycare teacher has no say in who enrolls nor do they have any say in who has to leave. That’s up to the administrators and they make all the decisions, not the actual teachers who are working directly with the kids. The daycare provider decides all of that. When I read about all these people whose kids got hit or bitten by another child, I’m just amazed. And then they all blame the teachers (it’s always the teachers’ fault) and claim that it’s normal behavior and you HAVE to accept that your child will get attacked by other kids. My kids have never been attacked by another student at daycare or preschool.

I think daycare is fine for most kids, but it is very very important to choose the right place.

People who attribute this much malice to (usually teething) toddlers always end up having the class biter!

My kids have never bit or hit anyone at their daycare. If they did they would have been kicked out immediately. That is what I agreed to when I signed them up. Claiming that all toddlers bite is a joke. All of your kids may bite but my kids don’t. My daycares have zero tolerance for that.

DP but I would take it as such a red flag if a daycare kicked out kids for developmentally normal behavior. It would suggest they were actually not trained in child development and did not know how to handle. My goodness.

It’s a green flag for me. And I am happy with my choice. You are welcome to choose another daycare to handle those things.

There are plenty of daycares out there who is willing to take on these behaviors. If having a lot of kids who bite and hit is good for you then go out there and find those daycares.

I’m also skeptical that what you said is true. I want to highlight that what you indicated originally was something like a zero tolerance policy for these kinds of behaviors, which is unrealistic with small children. Most daycares and preschools do have clauses indicating they may have to turn away children who are so unruly they demand an unrealistic about of time, which is something different entirely.

[Anonymous]

Nah. Nobody wants spoiled children. They are usually the biters.
Biters stays on the highchair most of the day. It's a phase, a very spoiled phase thanks to idiot parents who keeps spoiling their bratty kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I don't judge, but it certainly isn't the best option for a baby but most people don't have a choice. There's a reason you feel this way. Any chance you can hire a nanny instead?

+1 to the nanny because you will miss a lot of work due to the illnesses your baby will get that first year in daycare.

+1